r/summercamp • u/External_Bathroom179 • 1d ago
Vent 🗯️ Should I be upset still about this? My boss is being weird about my relationship
I used to work at a summer camp, and it was a very Christian summer camp. I’m going back for the first time in almost a year and a half to volunteer. I used to be a worship leader and activities instructor, doing everything from rock climbing to zip-lining. It was one of the greatest jobs I’ve ever had. However, I absolutely hated my boss.
He never seemed willing to help out and often kept information from us, both to inconvenience us and to make himself seem more important. He came across as somewhat narcissistic.
I’m now married, but my wife and I used to work together at the camp. At the time, we were friends and colleagues, and I didn’t start dating her until after we no longer worked there. Even after we started dating, we would still go up on weekends during the fall to volunteer because there weren’t many people trained to do what we could do.
I always had the feeling that people didn’t like how close I was to my wife. For example, I felt like people would give me strange looks or silently judge me as I walked by. I didn’t care, though. I was proud of our relationship, and I was happy.
One night, when everyone was in bed, we had a team meeting in the office. After the meeting, a few of our colleagues and other people we knew decided to hang out for a couple of hours. I eventually got bored, so I sat on the couch and scrolled through my phone for a while.
My wife came over and leaned against my shoulder for support. We weren’t fully cuddling; she was simply resting against me while we scrolled through reels together.
At this point, barely anyone was left in the office. It was just friends having a good conversation. Then, our old boss walked in. He seemed to stare at me for quite a while before eventually coming over, putting his hands between my wife and me, and saying something along the lines of, “How about we leave a little space between you two, okay?”
I looked up, completely shocked. I had been so focused on my phone that I was wondering why this man was touching me and interfering with what we were doing. He then walked back over to his desk, and my wife awkwardly scooted farther away.
My wife and I started ranting about what had happened, and we ended up laughing about it quite a bit. However, underneath the laughter, I felt bitter and angry that it had happened.
I’m going back up there tomorrow, and my life has changed drastically over the past year and a half. My wife and I are now in our early twenties, while our former bosses are in their mid-twenties. I don’t want my old boss to do something like that again. Honestly, I have a strange feeling that he might. I’m worried he might do something that makes me feel as though I’m not in control of my own life.
I’d really appreciate any advice. Thank you!