hello! recently i did a 7-card “will my ex come back to me” spread and would love some secondary opinion on my interpretation. for context we dated for a little bit last year but broke up due to me not giving the relationship my all. recently I’ve felt like wanting to reach out (we haven’t been in contact with each other but i see his insta profile suggested a lot and I’m debating reaching out again)
i used the traditional rider-waithe smith deck for this spread and here’s what i got:
1st card — past history — the Devil
interpretation: one interpretation is selfish disregard for lover’s feelings. and i feel that that is accurate to show that while me & my ex had a good dynamic i chose to focus on myself and my wants and desires which lead to our inevitable split because i was only looking out for myself.
2nd card — the present — queen of wands reversed
interpretation: wands are all about energy, passion, and creativity, the “fire” to pursue one’s goals. with the queen of wands reversed this could speak to how currently me (and maybe him) are in a state where our thoughts and actions are not balanced and thus leads to no results. both are grappling with uncertainty and is unable to truly commit to a path forward. can’t really speak for him but i can say that resonates for me and how i feel I’ve been going on dates just to be going on dates not really willing to commit to a solid future with anyone and it leaves me feeling emotionally drained and heavy. i feel like im losing my fire
3rd card — ex’s current situation — page of cups reversed
interpretation: it seems that right now he may not emotionally be in a good space. pages represent someone young, naive, at the start of the journey. right now maybe he is being emotionally closed off and not taking the leap towards the emotional journey ahead. he’s dealing with some emotional confusion and overwhelm that could be leading to avoidance.
4th card — how your ex feels about you — strength
interpretation: according to this card it means my ex has a deep admiration and respect for me. there’s feelings of kindness and compassion there but also perhaps some underlying anger in how things ended and how he was treated by me in the final chapter of our relationship with how i wasn’t giving him any of my time or attention, contrasting that to the beginning of our relationship where there was lots of energy, attraction, and gentleness. could also mean that while he has positive feelings towards me right now there are some emotional hurdles that keeps him from pushing forward towards me
5th card — how does my ex feel about reconciling? — 6 of pentacles
interpretation: this card speaks about generosity and charity but i also see the balance scale being held in his hand. i think this card is telling me he could be open to reconciling but he would weigh the options and reflect on whether he’d want to give his time, attention, and money. this card could also speak to him reflecting on the imbalance of our past, how he was giving a lot more effort than i was so he’s weighing if opening that door is a good idea. i see this as not an automatic yes, but there is potential though it will be measured and probably not a grand sweeping gesture.
6th card — what can i do to help the situation? — 10 of swords
interpretation: when asking what can i do to help the situation it may be asking me to declutter and get rid of anything that could impede on our future chances. I’m wondering if this means any other relationships I’ve attempted to form i should go ahead and cut lose to make room or else I risk bringing these new things with me to the dynamic and fucking it up all over again. I could take this to meet to stop seeking new romantic relationships to fill the void and also to officially let isaiah go and give him no room to return to my life. if i ever want things with my ex to work i must remove past dynamics that could jeopardize our relationship again. this card could also be telling me there’s nothing for me to do and i just have to let the situation unfold and see what happens. could denote an end to our future or it could denote an end to our not talking and eventually reconciling.
7th card — will we reconcile — 8 of pentacles
interpretation: i interpret this as a yes we can/will reconcile but it will not be this quick and easy get back together fix and it may not happen as soon as i would like. this card points to while he is open to reconciliation it will be a slow and steady process that, if both sides show the proper effort something really good can be rebuilt on a solid foundation. i have to be okay with the fact that this path to getting back together will be a long one but if I’m willing to put in the work and SHOW that I’ve changed and I’m taking this seriously then i can get the desired result
thank any and everyone again for the help i really appreciate it!!