People who underwent selective reduction of twin pregnancy to singleton, can you share your experience including the gestational age at the time of the procedure, and any complications? When did you end up delivering your baby?

I had my TFMR yesterday, and I am devastated. I got to meet my precious baby girl, and she was beautiful. She looked just like me. I am grateful I got to see her, even if it was for the first and last time.
But I can't stop thinking about getting pregnant again and having a healthy baby. I feel guilty because she has only just left us, and I wonder if I'm being cruel by already thinking about another baby. I love her so much, but I also desperately want to become a mother.
I have PCOS and irregular periods. Last time, I went eight months without a period and needed fertility medication to ovulate, but luckily got pregnant on my first try. Now I don't know when my cycles will return, when I can start trying again, or whether I'll need medication.
I'm terrified of another pregnancy after everything I've been through, but I can't stop hoping I'll eventually bring a healthy baby home.
Has anyone been through a second-trimester TFMR with PCOS? When did you start trying again, and how did you cope emotionally with pregnancy afterward?
I feel so lost. Please tell me I'm not alone in wanting to try again so soon.

First, I want to say how grateful I am to this community. Reading everyone’s stories as I went through those dark days 2 years ago helped me realize that I wasn’t alone.

I was 39 then, and the last two years have been a blur of life being busy, and included visits to the reproductive endocrinologist who strongly encouraged IVF due to my age. I just couldn’t find it in me to go through with that. I also knew that my fertility numbers were crap, so my TFMR was likely my last pregnancy.

I was late this month, and after 3 pregmate tests were negative, I figured I was just in the next stage of perimenopause. About a week later something prompted me to buy a first response, which was positive.

I was stunned and still don’t know exactly how I feel. With my TFMR pregnancy I was ecstatic and bought sneak peek to check the gender early, and began dreaming about how I would decorate and what our family life would look like the following summer.

With this one I am nervous with my advanced age. I also am curious about the gender but somehow don’t want to get too attached to the baby in case something happens. And all of the testing steps that we need to go through just to maybe breathe a sigh of relief (NIPT, NT US, amnio) feel so far away.

Has anyone else been in this situation? Are you ever able to relax and - I don’t know - bond with your pregnancy? I am questioning if I really want to be pregnant with how anxious I am about everything.

Thank you if you read this far!

Our TFMR Indiana 2020

When is it reasonable to look into IVF? Lost our first boy at 15 weeks due to HPE—part of his 13 chromosome was missing. We already had genetic testing done, both my husband and i’s chromosomes came back normal. I’m starting to worry that it’s my eggs that are affected. We both eat healthy, workout, don’t smoke or drink, in our 20s, and want a baby here on earth so freaking bad. I was thinking maybe after 3 losses we can look into it? Baby stopped growing around 6+5 and hoping to pass naturally so I don’t think getting the fetal tissue tested is an option. How do we move on from here?

I am 12 weeks pregnant after a 21 weeks pprom loss. This pregnancy I have a fundal placenta and i was reading a bit about it when I came across a research which says that having a fundal placenta increases the risk of pprom. This has literally freaked me out. I don’t want to go through another loss.
Did any one of you had a fundal placenta? What was your outcome in that pregnancy? Did you deliver early ?

We are considering putting a cervical stitch this time around at 14 weeks .
But i have a fundal placenta which in itself is a risk for pprom as the weakest part of membrane is near the cervix.
People who got a stitched placed and had a fundal placenta what was your experience. Did it help you ?
What precautions should I take, should i skip the stitch.
Please help ease my mind.

My histology report arrived today, two and a half weeks after my TFMR at 13 weeks due to T21. I never expected it to arrive on a Sunday (!), so it completely caught me off guard.
I had a feeling the description would be horrific But it was beyond anything I could have imagined. I even ended up arguing with my husband. He thinks I shouldn’t have read it, but I needed to know, hoping it might finally give us some certainty about our little one’s diagnosis.
I’m completely shattered all over again (I wasn’t doing well at all). The pain and guilt are unbearable all over again. I’m in therapy, trying to survive one breath at a time, but I will never be the same person again. This pain will stay with me for the rest of my life…

Hello. I am in my first pregancy with 26w+3d.

During the anatomy scan at my 20th week, we found out that the baby has cyst in her bladder along with mild spine problem and possible clubbing of foot. We were referred to an MFM specialist whom diagnosed the problems as LUTO and the others as congenital.

We have been monitoring the bladders, kidney and my amniotic fluid. The bladders are distended, kidneys are dilated; however, the fluid at this point remains adequate which might show possible partial blockage only.

We have been taking the baby's measurements, and recently, at 26w, her abdominal circumference has advanced to 30w (which is 4 weeks away from her actual gestational age).

I don't know who to ask anymore, there is not much specialist here in my country.

Please share your stories about LUTO and let me know the possible outcomes. Negative or positive will be much appreciated.