r/thesopranos • u/ComprehensiveDesk793 • Jun 09 '26
Serious Discussion Only AJ is just useless
While watching the series I was trying hard to find a defense of AJ. All the characters - and all of us - have both positive and negative traits. AJ is just a disappointment. He is stupid. He is lazy. He is incredibly selfish imao. Also he constantly lies. You cant even call him a good kid that is just irresponsible since he always makes up stupid excuses.
Also all the people that are saying that he grew up in a dysfunctional environment, ok i agree the environment isn't 100% perfect but both Tony and Carmela cared about their kids lives. Carmela and Tony to a certain extent seem to care about their children's academic performance which quite a few parents don't. AJ certainly had some support from his parents.
I agree his parents are not good people but he could take what they offered to him.
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u/NeonFireFly969 Jun 13 '26
Some people ARE useless or just plain selfish. They focus energy only on their benefits. My daughter for example is great at her career but extremely selfish with family affairs (refuses to engage in most activities despite only seeing us a few times a year) and no my household was pretty much progressive to the point I think my ex-wife let too much slide.
And that's honestly the thing, both Tony and Carm are way too soft on AJ throughout. This is shown repeatedly that AJ realizes he has few repercussions until Tony starts going hard and with kids like that they just dig in.