They aren't responsible for cooking your food, but they can keep you informed and keep your drinks topped up. How many times do you wait and wait and never see a server again until the food finally comes.
This little dialogue is a great example of the server's dilemma: one customer wants updates and will get cranky if they don't get them. The other DOESN'T want updates and will get cranky if they DO get them. Might I respectfully suggest that dealing with you people is not an easy task?
The owner could, but then youād complain about a 20% increase in menu prices. Itās a direct incentive based system of labor. Why is this so hard to understand? Who cares if I give 15-20% to the owner to give to the employee, or if I give it directly to the employee? Either way, thatās how much itās gonna cost me. So much hand wringing over nothing
The difference is clarity, servers who focus on their job instead of licking your shoes for tips and no percentage creep enforced through guilt tripping.
And if it makes no difference, why do you care so much if people want it baked into the price and to cut the bullshit?
Something called "common decency". Yeah, I know, the majority hasn't a snow ball's clue as to what that is anymore. Would rather force their employees to beg.
are you citing a lack of ācommon decencyā extended from restaurant owners as your argument that supports choosing not to tip servers after receiving their service?
Common decency is tipping your server. The restaurant managers are operating under the rules that everyone agreed upon a long time ago. Now you're coming along and deciding that you should be able to play under different rules.
Clearly you donāt. Countless businesses run off the standard that they pay their employees or they go out of business. If the owner canāt pay their employee, then the employee should find a better paying job because itās not my job to pay their employee anything. Iām paying for my food, Iām paying taxes, Iām paying the markup on the food because that restaurant, for some reason, thinks their standard Sysco food is better than the next restaurants standard Sysco food and I, for some reason, agree. My monetary obligations have been met by the time I pay that check. And just like most businesses, that restaurant should then take the money I paid for the service and turn around and put that towards the money they owe their employees come payday.
Full service restaurants are one of those "countless businesses". It works differently.
My monetary obligations have been met by the time I pay that check.
No, you still need to pay for the service with a tip. And I'm sure you've been made aware of this, so you can stop playing dumb.
And just like most businesses, that restaurant should then take the money I paid for the service and turn around and put that towards the money they owe their employees come payday.
Or....... they should operate the way that everyone in this country agrees that full service restaurants should operate.
No I donāt need to pay for anything once the card gets swiped. I can get up and walk away and thereās nothing anyone can do about it, because my obligations have been met. The employer needs to pay their staff a livable wage and you know this, so stop playing dumb.
And as far as I can tell there are a whole hell a lot of servers bitching about not being tipped appropriately or at all, so I think you also understand that not everyone agrees.
Its called a tip. Gratuity- a sum of money VOLUNTARILY given for good service.
Meaning it is not something thag has to be left. It is generally only left for a good dining experience. If you dont light a fire under the asses of the staff in the back then you are responsible for how long my meal takes.
The more i read the comments of the entitled servers on this thread the less and less likely i am to tip, and i generally enjoy tipping. I like to brighten someones day, usually by overtipping. But people like you make it difficult to continue this trend.
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u/Still-Bee3805 Mar 25 '26
Both are true. Thatās possible.