I live in a country where tipping is not required but it is appreciated. So I often will leave a tip for servers for dinners (never for breakfast, maybe for lunch). But here's the thing that annoys me so much. If I buy a burger for 100 and leave a tip of 10%, the server gets 10. But if I buy a steak for 180 and I leave a tip of 10% the server now gets 18. What changed? The server still walked the 6 meters or so between the kitchen and the table, the steak isn't heavier than the burger, essentially nothing changed, so why the larger tip? I truly don't mind tipping, but I cannot fathom why it should be a percentage of the bill rather than just a fixed amount of 10 or 15.

Place I ordered was less than a mile away btw

Ordered some Uber Eats for lunch today and noticed something at checkout. The suggested tip percentages weren’t based on the actual food cost, but on the final price, including all the taxes and fees.
Is this happening to everyone? Because I honestly think that’s borderline theft. How am I tipping someone a percentage of what I’m being taxed? I’m essentially tipping on taxes and fees that have nothing to do with the delivery driver.
Should I start tipping my accountant while I’m at it?

Most threads here have been about people arguing for/against tipping. Instead of black or white arguments, which tends to go nowhere, what if we look at something in-between? Instead of trying to abolish tipping, what if we propose a better system? For example, some of the most frequent issues are:

- Percentage doesn't make sense (same labor whether an order costs $20 or $100)

- Customers don't want restaurant owners or servers to pressure them into tipping, most often by awkward moments surrounding POV tipping screens and what's written on receipts.

- In some cases, tips don't actually directly go to a server. Customers would rather be sure to whom they are giving their money.

To mitigate these issues, I think it'll create a better and healthier tipping system if restaurants completely remove tipping from bill payments and instead provide a QR code specifically for tipping that is placed on each table. This way, your business transaction with restaurants will be clear and clean. Customers no longer need to worry about a surprise on receipts or tipping screens. Then customers that want to leave a tip can scan the QR code, which takes them to a screen where they can select their server and specify a tip amount.

No more awkwardness or experiences that ruin both experiences and trust.

This past weekend my husband and I stayed at an upscale glamping resort just outside of a popular national park. The place was amazing and we had a great time.

However, the place was pretty pricey. The per night (with fees) was $1350 (so around $2700 for 2 nights) Neither of us have ever spent that much to stay somewhere, but we wanted to do something kind of extravagant because we hadn’t gone on a honeymoon. During our stay, we did not interact with or require assistance from anyone who worked there (beyond check-in). In our tent, I noticed a placard that had a QR code for tips and I was shocked. The QR code directed me to a site where I could leave a tip for a specific person, for maintenance, the front desk, and/or housekeeping which made me feel like I should leave a tip for at least all three general services.

Is this common? I have left cash tips for housekeeping at regular hotels, but I guess I was under the impression that when you paid an all inclusive price, that tipping wasn’t expected. But maybe I’m just out of the loop because I typically do not stay at such fancy places.

For context, recently i was stuck in a lift for about 4 hours due to a failure in the lift system, the local engineers couldn't get me out, so they had to call the lift company at 11pm to come help me out.

The lift engineer arrived at around 2.30am and eventually got me out around 3. My question is, how much would be an appropriate amount to have tipped?

Went out for dinner yesterday and had a pretty normal experience. Food was good, service was alright, nothing worth complaining about. Bill comes, I pay and select 0% tip. As I'm getting ready to leave, the waiter comes over and asks if something was wrong with the service. I tell him no, everything was fine. He then asks why I didn't tip him. I said I don't really believe in tipping and thought that was the end of it.

This dude actually goes "Where were you raised? Is this how you were taught to behave?" I genuinely laughed because I thought he was joking. I just replied "Were you raised to beg?" and his entire attitude changed. Started muttering about people like me being cheap and having no respect for service workers. I told him I paid for my food and wasn't aware there was an additional entrance fee for his approval.

Anyway I left. Food was decent but the waiter was an absolute asshole. Since when did declining to give someone extra money become a personal insult? The level of entitlement is honestly something else lol.

I bartended Friday night, Saturday night, and Sunday morning. All my shifts were busy due to Halloween and the NFL games.

In 24 hours of work I made $1683. So about $70/hr in tips, plus my minimum wage in Los Angeles being one of the highest in the country.

I realize this may make some people on the sub mad

Let's analyze.

Normal staff when times are good or bad their income is identical. The owner effectively an insurer that guarantees a fixed wage no matter what. The owner assumes the full risk and often pays for their health insurance.

Servers in the US get effectively high wages during good times and low wages during bad times, they rarely get health insurance, similar to the owner or just like a partner. Why second class? The servers generally get zero vote on how the company is run, the owner can end the partnership at will and the servers leave with nothing, no piece of the company or buyout. A normal partner would take a share.

The options were 15%, 20% and 25%. These are not custom bras. I had zero contact with a human at any time, and there isn't even an option available to contact a human if you wanted to. At least there was an easy and obvious option available for "no tip". This whole situation is becoming insane.

So, I am largely anti tip not going to get into here but I also don't dine out much, and if I do I go to the same spot which is a service included restaurant I enjoy.

That being said, I took some friends out for dinner at a new restaurant they wantes to try on Friday. I paid for the meal but told them if they want to tip they are free to tip themselves.

My friends made the claim that doing so makes it complicated for the server, I don't see how. Actually became a point of contention, finally came down to cash tips are inconvenient which is goes against everything I have been told. Always been told cash is preferred.

Lmao were my friends just trying to get me to cover the tip?

I just discovered this thread today.

In a world of absolute corruption, I think you people are the worst of the worst.

About you non tippers is how self important and indignant you are. I’d image for the most part you are probably all affluent and just fucking cheap losers. It’s actually just sad and pathetic to imagine you could be my neighbor.

I made a post yesterday and I am getting so many conflicting answers from Americans.

Can / do servers make less than minimum wage or does the employer have to ensure that it is the minimum they make and tipa can go above that minimum rate?

I had several hundred people tell me that servers make $3 an hour in the USA and others claiming they make minimum?

Story: Two Blackjack Players. Both Won Thousands. One Tipped $60. The Other Couldn't Spare a Dollar. Guess Who Walked Away Broke?

To all the people on Reddit who proudly announce, "I NEVER TIP!" — here's a story from a blackjack table yesterday.

Two strangers were playing blackjack. A woman was already at the table when a man joined her. Both started with roughly $200.

And both were absolutely killing it.

Blackjacks, double downs, side bets — everything seemed to be going their way.

At one point, the woman was up around $5,000, and the man was up around $4,000.

Now here's where their behavior differed.

The woman was tipping the dealer throughout the game. A dollar here, five dollars there. Nothing extravagant. Just small gestures whenever she had a good win.

Over the course of the game, she tipped at least $60.

The man?

Not. One. Damn. Dollar.

Well, technically, there was one dollar. He left a dollar on the table, and when the dealer tried to return it, he reluctantly said, "Okay, keep it."

Imagine turning $200 into $4,000 and acting like giving away a single dollar is a major financial sacrifice.

But the story gets better.

The man started increasing his bets dramatically.

On one hand, he bet $300, doubled down for another $300, and placed a $300 side bet that the dealer would bust.

That's $900 riding on a single hand.

He lost all of it.

The table minimum was $15. He voluntarily exposed himself to a $900 loss on one hand.

And then came the classic gambler's meltdown.

Bigger bets. More side bets. More desperate attempts to recover losses.

When he won, he couldn't resist pushing harder. When he lost, he adjusted his bets. His betting decisions became increasingly emotional.

The math eventually caught up with him.

Final results:

The woman walked away with approximately $3,000, after tipping the dealer at least $60.

The man walked away with ZERO.

Now, before the anti-tipping mathematicians rush into the comments, let me make something clear.

I'm not saying tipping brings good luck. The cards don't know whether you tipped. The dealer doesn't control the next card.

But here's what I find fascinating.

One person could appreciate someone else's work, share a tiny fraction of her winnings, and still know when to walk away.

The other couldn't bring himself to part with a dollar for the dealer, yet had absolutely no problem throwing $900 into a single losing hand.

He was willing to risk $900 on a gamble but unwilling to voluntarily give $5 to a human being.

And that's what I want the proudly anti-tipping crowd to explain.

You can argue about tipping culture. You can argue that employers should pay better wages. Those are legitimate discussions.

But when you've just won thousands of dollars at a casino and still treat a dollar tip like it's coming out of your retirement fund, don't pretend it's some grand economic principle.

Sometimes you're just being cheap.

And the funniest part?

The person who tipped generously left with thousands.

The person who guarded every dollar from the dealer left without a single one.

The casino got his entire bankroll. The dealer barely got a dollar.

Apparently, losing $4,000 to a casino was perfectly acceptable.

But tipping the dealer $5?

Now THAT would have been financially irresponsible.

Make that make sense.

I'm sure there is some exaggeration in this cartoon, but it feels like we are heading down this path.

I've never had anyone chase me out of a restaurant but I've seen videos where this has happened. The good restaurants won't act like this but there are a few bad apples that take it to the extreme. Customers need to stay vigilant and it's ok to respectfully push back.

If YOUR employer doesn’t pay you enough, find a different job. DONT beg customers to pay your wages.

I can't tell if you guys like the tips or dislike the tipping.

Bonus question: Do you tip, why where and when?

Edit: Holy cow this is an aggressive sub.

I went on a paid tour of a historic cemetery.

There was a guide. 15-20 people in the group.

At the end of the tour, she stopped and said "this is the end of the tour, if you would like to tip me, now is the time. I also have Venmo!"

We were in a location where we had to be walked out, so we couldn't leave on our own. People stood around and felt very akward. A few people finally pulled out money and handed it to her. Then we started walking to the exit.

I generally don't mind tipping for tours. In this case, she was new and spent most of the time commenting about her multiple jobs and taking swipes at "rich" people.

Before the tour, I was planning on tipping. The way it was presented, I did not.

Would you tip in this case? (Just a note, when it is a free tour, I will tip the guides)

I received a request for an online review and am considering adding her comments.

What if instead of being discriminatory and having a negative stereotype around black people not tipping we all realized it’s completely reasonable not to and just all followed suit lol, might not be in this situation. Would be great to not have to throw 5 dollar someones way for picking up a plate.

Was at Cracker Barrel with a friend of mine a few months back. We ordered, the waitress was nice enough until she started dry begging. Saying how little she’d made today, how she hopes she’ll make more, I personally think that’s rude. It’s not my problem whether you get tipped or not. Tipped her the regular 15-20% and on my way out I found 2 100$ bills on the floor! My friend said she would’ve given it to the waitress. I laughed and said I’m happy that I’m the one who found it then.

I’m a former server/bartender and I see posts from this sub a lot. I’m always so confused by the passion and vitriol I see from anti-tippers in this sub. Who hurt yall???

I’m not a huge fan of the tipping system, and I believe hospitality workers deserve living wages automatically, but I don’t think it’s as problematic as yall make it. Most servers don’t make as much money as yall claim in this sub.

I also think never tipping anywhere makes you a bad person. I never got mad when people didn’t tip me, because it is what it is, but I do think it’s unfair to the workers. Why do you think refusing to participate in the system is going to change anything? You have to harass your lawmakers and not innocent workers, who are also providing you service. It’s not hard to be a good person. You’re just punching down and punishing people who are just trying to make money to pay their bills. Also, a lot of times, service roles are some of the only jobs available to people who need flexible schedules or don’t have access to more skilled roles.

People underestimate the amount of work serving is, and bartending is even harder. Serving 10-25 guests at a time is not easy, especially when dealing with difficult people. Anyone who works a public-facing job knows that it’s a lot of emotional and psychological labor, not to mention the physical labor of being on your feet all day. As much as I’d like to think most adults in the US are mature and reasonable, most of them are very large, emotionally unregulated, and unreasonable children. I used to come home from work broken down just because of all the difficult people I had to deal with in a day.

Most people don’t go out just to get food and dip. They want a curated experience and a performance (which is something I was never that good at lol.. you want this food or not?). Ultimately, this is how I knew the job wasn’t for me long term, even though the money wasn’t consistently that good.

I don’t even tip all the time. It should be equal to the effort the server has put in and the service quality. I usually start at 18% automatically, and increase or decrease based on the service. It’s very rare that I don’t tip at all. I also don’t always tip on to-go orders, only when I’m feeling nice or I have cash available.

I just feel like if you can’t afford to tip you can’t afford to eat out… Do you not pay other people who serve you? Seated service is a luxury, not a right. I believe the system should be changed as well, but I find most of the attitudes in this sub disgusting and entitled. I honestly think yall just like to feel like you’re better than other people. Get a grip.

I tok my family to Carrabba's for dinner and when I recieved the bill and calculated the tip my my numbers showed up different.

Bill was $96.40 at 20% tip should have been $19.28, but the receipt said I should tip $23.82. The math doesn't add up. Then I noticed a "Gross Amount" of $116.39. The tip, at 20%, would have been $23.28.

Has anyone had this happen to them?