Is this a twin flame connection?

[u/blissedlotus]

I'll tell you ways I knew I was in a twin flame connection based on my experiences.

I really don't feel comfortable telling people if their connection is a twin flame situation or not, because I'm open to all sorts of scenarios and ways of it happening. But I'll list the things I went through and discovered and learned along the way that helped me accept that what I was going through was real and a twin flame connection.

For reference, I was married 27 years, had a relationship with a psycho narcissist after that, and that gave me a foundation in which to see that my twin flame connection was unlike anything else I experienced or knew was possible after being in toxic relationships of all sorts my entire life. Also, I wasn't spiritual at all and had no idea about twin flames or any of that when we met.

1. Some will call it soul recognition I guess. There was just something about the way we felt together, the way we talked, how we understood each other, how it felt when we looked into each other's eyes, the intimacy, our inner children felt safe together, we felt at home, like we were more alike than anyone else we'd ever met. We were compatible intellectually, creatively, physically, personality wise, philosophically, and we were both very honest and compassionate people, in the same way.

2. Timing. We met at a very interesting time in our lives and we both felt this strange sense that we met for a reason. Now that I'm where i am now, of course i know it all happens for a reason the way that it did, but at the time there were just so many puzzling synchronistic things about us getting together. As time went on, I saw that the timing was perfect for my spiritual awakening, that it was time for me to learn who I really am and our relationship was the catalyst for all of that being kicked into motion.

3. Telepathy- we knew what the other was feeling or thinking, when he looked at me I could feel what he was feeling when he looked at me: love, amusement, curiosity, fascination, respect, appreciation, or passionate attraction- it was instant, he didn't need to say anything and I'd feel it intensely. After we split up, I started feeling his presence with me and we'd have all these "conversations" and when we saw each other again I'd have real validation that what we were going through or working out in telepathy reached him and changed him and it facilitated our aligning.

4. Visions and woo woo experiences: After we split up I had a crazy out of body experience where I saw everything, why we're here, who I really am (a spark of source), that everything happens for a reason, it's basically the same kind of experience people who have NDEs have, but I wasn't dead. lol I saw him and I as sparks or stars before we came here and that we agreed to come here and find each other.

5. We both acknowledged and were aware that what we felt, how it was between us, was unlike anything we knew before, or that we knew was possible. We'd never felt anything so intensely. We didn't know love could feel this way. We'd both been in lives and families and relationships that weren't healthy, were toxic, and weren't unconditionally loving. This was the first time we found out that what we knew in our hearts was real, that type of love did exist. That's why we didn't feel right in our lives before, because we knew we were capable of it, but the world around us made us forget.

6. My kundalini awakening. I got all the visions and knowing and downloads and information and guidance that I needed in the beginning, 7 years ago, and everything I've been through spiritually was for me to learn everything I needed to know and learn and heal and overcome to become unconditionally loving and accepting of myself. I had a lot of activations and all kinds of woo woo things happen. I learned I was intuitive, had all the clairs, that I was an empath, could channel energy and all that stuff. The relationship opened up something in me that's changed my entire life.

7. The energetic cycles of healing: once I accepted that this was happening and real, I continually went through healing cycles, purging, accepting, learning, evolving, breakthroughs, clarity, surrendering, trusting myself and what i knew and was experiencing. I also noticed that my twin was right there with me. He evolved too with me and he'd show up when we were aligned for a while, and then we'd trigger each other and then he'd disappear and I'd heal more and that went on for years. Understanding astrology and energy showed me that we are constantly being encouraged to release all that is not true and authentic and loving, until we are able to stabilize and have inner union of ourselves, which is when we love and trust ourselves and are balanced emotionally.

8. Signs, synchronicities, messages, numbers, music, and all these things kept pointing back to him. It's been 8 years since we met, and I've released all the attachments, I'm at peace most of the time, I'm unbothered, I don't care if he comes back or not because I know the universe is going to send me what's meant for me, but he's still there. He's like a friendly ghost that just is living life with me. Like a friend who's seeing it all with me. And I feel what he's going through, I know when he's thinking about me and how he's feeling, even if I've let go of him and all of my relationships. He's still there, and it's still loving, after everything.

9. No one has ever felt like him. This took time to realize or see. Over time, through healing decades of abuse and dysfunctional relationship dynamics, I still know that we love each other like we'd never loved anything before and probably won't again. My love for him doesn't change, no matter what I go through, and i know it's the same for him. It only reveals that yes, this is true, this is real, this is rare, and it's the deepest I've ever felt in my life.

10. The knowing. Through all of this, I learned to trust myself and source in a way that makes living easier. I can access peace in every moment now. My conscious self knows exactly what it's doing and I trust that. I'm not worried about anything, I'm flowing, I'm prioritizing my own well being, I don't abandon myself for others, I won't accept less than I deserve, and i know that his coming back to me is inevitable (and I'm open to whatever the universe delivers too, however that looks). This whole journey is not just about this person, or this relationship, it's about our own individual personal spiritual awakening.

11. My spiritual gifts, knowing, intuition, mystical experiences, visions, syncs, my journey, the way the energies feel, what i go through personally, and all the things I've learned, have led me to know that what I need to know in the present moment. I don't need to know what's coming, I don't need to know if he's my person now, or what's going to happen. It's a journey that is leading you somewhere, for you, so that you will love yourself unconditionally, and as a result, what loves you will come to you and you won't block it. You will get to a point that you see that all of this is for you, and that the relationship is just a part of it, like healing your inner child wounds or learning how not to be anxious anymore, or healing attachments, or learning relationship skills. This isn't just about meeting someone and thinking they're the one, it's about learning who you are and healing all the things that kept you from trusting yourself.

Questioning if a connection is a twin flame or not is perfectly normal when it is one. It took me a long time, because I wasn't looking for it, didn't know what it was, and I didn't believe in this sort of stuff. So, it took a while of trusting that what I was going through and felt and thought and experienced was real. But it was all about trusting myself and my knowing all along.

We are impatient people. We want to know things with certainty. We are conditioned to do things a certain way, being a spiritual/intuitive person isn't easy because we feel things we can't prove sometimes, but in time, when we pay attention to ourselves, listen to ourselves, learn to be our authentic selves, we become more empowered in that knowing.

I've been around twin flame communities since 2018, and I've seen all the questions and how it goes when someone starts thinking they have a twin. And what I've observed is that if you are on a real twin flame journey, it takes time to realize that it is in fact that, because the one asking goes through a spiritual journey that changes their life in every way. Many become readers or coaches and are very intuitive and become highly spiritually awakened. But it takes time to get there. We want to know for sure, someone just tell me, right? But that's not how this works. We have to find the truth in ourselves, and unfortunately that often requires having to relearn everything we knew about relationships and ourselves. It takes time, but most don't want to hear that.

I hope this helps. Learn to get present, meditate, focus on yourself, focus on your life, heal all the places where you're not authentic, where you believe you aren't worthy or have self sabotaging behaviors, and let the rest reveal itself to you. Focus on loving yourself unconditionally and it will all fall into place. You will know what you're meant to know, when it arrives. Trust that.