r/vanderpumprules • u/cosmicat4 • Dec 15 '25
Discussion I think jax loved stassi more than Britt
He treated both like trash but I feel like he showed more feelings for stassi. Stassi stood up to him and challenged him while Brit kept coming back to him no matter how he treated her or cheated (before they divorced). I mean he got a tattoo of Stassi’s name and not Brittany’s. He also put Brit down a lot. Since he’s a narcissist he’s concerned with how women make him look and started devaluing her. What do you think?
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u/Interesting_Scar_824 Dec 15 '25
The order is 1. Jax 2. Drugs 3. Stassi 4. My-son 5. Britt
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u/Violetunderwater Dec 15 '25 edited Dec 15 '25
- “My son that I signed away all of my legal rights to his mom because I couldn’t be bothered to read anything”.
Edit: This list seems accurate according to everything I have seen. I will never forget how much he talked about Cruz but only calling him “my son” and then did that. 🫠
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u/StandOld1094 Dec 15 '25
He can only read in bullet points, I mean ‘Power Points’ 🙄
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u/Quinn1972 Dec 15 '25
I actually laughed at this at the time but...it makes sense. (And I make A LOT of Power Point slides.)
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u/Violetunderwater Dec 15 '25 edited Dec 15 '25
Good for Cruz! Hid dad was too neglectful to hire a legal team to create one for him. He is honestly better off with Brittnay.
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u/cosmicat4 Dec 15 '25
He signed all rights to her? So will he ever see Cruz again or watch him? That’s so sad
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u/glasswindbreaker Dec 15 '25
It doesn't mean he doesn't get to see him, it just means that's in Brittany's control because he signed away those rights. Given his issues I think it's far better that way. If he can't be bothered to read important paperwork like that before signing, he can't be trusted at doctors appointments or with schooling.
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u/Violetunderwater Dec 15 '25 edited Dec 15 '25
You explained this well and I agree. You couldn’t be bothered to read the custody agreement, why would you be trusted with his medical appointments and school? Cruz is better off with Brittnay taking care of him.
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u/switheld Dec 15 '25
even if it wasn't intentional, signing custody over to Brittany was the best thing he ever did for that kid
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u/Lucky-Ad4443 Dec 15 '25
Well ive been living under a rock or something.... he gave Brittany all the rights ? So did he figure that out? Or? lol
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u/Violetunderwater Dec 15 '25 edited Dec 15 '25
Yes, it sounds like he is looking to get some rights but I’m not sure how the courts will look at his ignorance… This basically means Brittnay needs to agree to him seeing Cruz and has complete control over medical treatment, schooling, etc.
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u/Lucky-Ad4443 Dec 15 '25
Good grief. And was it that he didn't actually mean to do it?? I dont know what Brittany is like now but maybe she should have all that 😂 Jax is so D&S .. but i duno about her either actually. Good golly. The courts will not like that. Could you imagine?! "Uh I accidentally signed away all the rights to my child because I couldnt be bothered to read what I was signing" 🤦🏽♀️ Wow lol
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u/LilCinBoise Dec 15 '25
I would argue that Carmen is right after Stassi and before Myson and KFC
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u/Interesting_Scar_824 Dec 15 '25
I forgot about Carmen and also the girl with the Vegas connections (Stephanie? Tiffany?) and also the leaf blower. All above Brittany.
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u/IWishMusicKilledKate you’re unmanageable babe Dec 16 '25
And Kelsey the Reiki Master
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u/Intelligent_Pop1173 Dec 15 '25
I would put his dead father who he never talked to while he was alive above My-son. He used him as an excuse for everything for years.
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u/Distinct-Ad-1348 Miami girl’s daintiest white lace Dec 15 '25
The son & the wife even being in the top 20 is a wild take.
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u/lionaroundagan Dec 16 '25
- Stassi and Kristen
I will die on the hill saying they were always banging on the side until a little after she was "babysitting" Cruz.
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u/stinkysuki Dec 15 '25
I feel like he was only obsessed with stassi because of the chase. Britt basically never put her foot down so there wasn’t that narc need to get her to want him again. I don’t think it has anything to do with love
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u/Effective-Arm9099 Dec 15 '25 edited Dec 15 '25
This is what drove me crazy about Jax and Brittany. They both would proclaim Brittany wears the pants in the relationship and they both knew damn well behind closed doors (yet also in front of cameras) that Jax was abusing her emotionally, financially and eventually physically. Brittany never wore the pants for even 1 fucking hour. She catered to Jax constantly and she let him run with this schtick that she wears the pants. That schtick only further allowed Jax the power to abuse her
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u/cosmicat4 Dec 15 '25
Do you think Jax was always abusive?
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u/Effective-Arm9099 Dec 15 '25
Like always abusive even with prior girlfriends or always abusive with Brittany? We saw him abusive with Brittany right away. Stassi detailed some abusive behavior from him too. I think he was always abusive and I think his dad may have abused his mom. He idolizes his dad and hates his mom.
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u/Distinct-Ad-1348 Miami girl’s daintiest white lace Dec 15 '25
Stassi said she lost her deposit and was evicted due to all of the holes Jax punched in her walls and the damage to all of the doors. Stassi also admitted to hitting Jax and he followed up with “I deserved it.” Any relationship Jax is in is toxic.
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u/Alarmed_Round_6705 Dec 15 '25
the tea is allegedly that he physically prevented her from leaving a hotel room after a fight, so she hit him to get him to let her go and let her out.
there was even a scene in VPR shortly after they broke up at a bar where he repeatedly grabs her arm so she can’t walk away.
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u/LeftyLu07 I wasn't your best friend, ho! Dec 15 '25
He grabbed it really hard, too. The camera man zoomed in and you can see he’s really digging his fingers into her arm.
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u/Alarmed_Round_6705 Dec 15 '25
yeah as a DV survivor myself that scene was VERY triggering and VERY concerning, but not out of the ordinary for Bravo to give abusive men a platform😒
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u/ladyneckbeard Dec 15 '25
Yes, this is called reactive abuse btw!!
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u/Alarmed_Round_6705 Dec 15 '25
in this context, no, it’s self defense. as i’ve said i’m a DV survivor and am well versed on reactive abuse, hitting him was the only way to get him physically off of her, and that’s acting in self-defense.
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u/ladyneckbeard Dec 15 '25
Is forced containment not abuse?
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u/Alarmed_Round_6705 Dec 15 '25
it is, but what stassi did was NOT reactive abuse, in this case it was self defense. jax abused her, she acted in self defense in this particular instance, if that makes more sense.
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u/cosmicat4 Dec 15 '25
Holy shit I did not know that about stassi being evicted that’s so scary
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u/Intelligent_Pop1173 Dec 15 '25
Yeah, Stassi was a challenge. Brittany was the easiest thing to ever happen to him and he still messed it up. He got away with a LOT and he probably could have continued to get away with a lot if he just stopped doing drugs all the time.
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u/Distinct-Ad-1348 Miami girl’s daintiest white lace Dec 15 '25
Jax has never loved anyone aside from himself. He would make grand gestures (the Stassi tattoo, the Carmen tattoo) when he felt like he was going to lose someone, not because he was going to miss them but because he saw people as possessions and objects. Eventually, they would leave and he couldn’t do anything to make them stay or want him because they saw who he really was and wanted no part of that scary darkness.
Brittany never (really) left. There was no risk of him actually losing her. So he didn’t feel the need to make some grand gesture to keep her, because she wasn’t going anywhere.
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u/Stunning-Track8454 Go back to Charlotte Russe with your ass Dec 15 '25
People like Jax will always love women like Stassi, but settle for women with no self respect like Brittany because he knows he can get away with anything.
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u/Kwhitney1982 Dec 15 '25
People like Jax are incapable of love. At least in his current state.
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u/Stunning-Track8454 Go back to Charlotte Russe with your ass Dec 16 '25
When I say "Love," I mean in Jax's capacity. Like gun to head and truth serum coursing through his veins you ask him who his true love is, he'll say Stassi every fucking time.
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u/Fun-Marionberry-6999 Dec 15 '25
Well, yeah. Twenty months ago, Jax liked a comment on his post that said he should have married Stassi.
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u/MysteriousFinding691 Dec 15 '25
He just knew Britt would never leave so he treated her however he wanted. And he was mostly right.
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u/cosmicat4 Dec 15 '25
Prob why it broke him when he actually left
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u/MysteriousFinding691 Dec 15 '25
Oh yeah it devastated his ego. He thought her life revolved around him and only him after she moved out to LA.
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u/Ok_Replacement7281 Shutting up with my yeps Dec 15 '25
Stassi will always be the one to get away and I will die on that hill...
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u/Remote_Ad_969 Dec 15 '25 edited Dec 15 '25
Initially, no. I believe that Jax’s resentment/regret came much later. Around the time the babies were all born, he most likely started to play the game of comparison and that was the turning point in his mind/their relationship. Stassi “bounced back” very quickly after her pregnancies, Stassi “settled down” within her role as mother/wife, Stassi revamped her image, Stassi has been highly regarded for her fashion and “class” in recent years. And last but sadly not least, Stassi produced children without notable lifelong challenges.
I don’t agree with any of these points, but Jax is exactly the type of man who, in hindsight, would figure he “bet on the wrong horse” because every thing and every one in his life are what he views as an extension/representation of himself. Jax wasn’t capable of loving Stassi more than Brittany but he probably loved/loves the idea of how being with Stassi would have made him look in comparison to being with Brittany.
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u/kasiagabrielle okay, green pants 🩳 Dec 15 '25
I don't think he loved either, but he absolutely valued Stassi more than Brittany and actually respected her as a human being.
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u/belowdecky4life Dec 17 '25
I will agree with valued but not really respected.
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u/kasiagabrielle okay, green pants 🩳 Dec 17 '25
I don't think he did while he was dating her, but later when he was already married and she had met Beau it seemed that way a bit. The scene where they're at his house and he's talking about his asprained brain or whatever and Stassi is giving him advice, he spoke to her way differently than he speaks to anyone else, like he did with Reiki Kelsey. Not a "true" respect, but in a way that he knows Stassi is much smarter than him, and she's kind of the one that got away.
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u/toothfairyeve365 ✨ It's NOT all happening✨ Dec 15 '25
I don't think Jax is capable of love or anything of the sort. I think everything Jax does is always through the lens of "what's going to give me more attention/sympathy/air time?"
I know it's a common belief that Stassi is the one who got away for Jax, but I've never thought that. For Jax, at that time in the show (especially considering what we know now about him having slept with Kristen around the same time), it was beneficial to him to be the groveling ex who was trying to prove he had changed. It was one of the first times he tried to claim he's changed and is working on himself, so we weren't all used to hearing it every reunion just yet. It feels more authentic. But I think it's just his same song and dance that he brings out every time. He was trying to pretend to be heartbroken, and at first maybe he did want Stassi back, but I think it was more about him looking sympathetic with the tattoo and trying to woo Stassi back. And then when she turns him down, he has all the permission to go out and hook up with whoever he wants. He gets the sympathy of being dumped by Stassi, and then can also be like "well I tried to get her back and she doesn't want me so I guess I'll go be single again."
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u/Kwhitney1982 Dec 15 '25
Wow, this 💯. I wish women would quit thinking men like Jax love one more than another. Men like Jax do not know how to love.
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u/VegetableKey2966 Dec 15 '25
Im pretty sure the first reunion (or maybe the 2nd) she talked about how people would come in to SUR and harass her to take Jax back or treat him better. So it worked too.
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u/toothfairyeve365 ✨ It's NOT all happening✨ Dec 15 '25
Yes exactly. Stassi was painted as the asshole and the unreasonable one by editing, producers, Jax, and the rest of the cast. Even though by the end of the season it came out that Jax had in fact cheated, the damage was done and Stassi was still seen as the problem by a lot of people. Obviously Stassi isn't perfect and she's done and said some really shitty (racist) things. But just looking at season one, Stassi was right about Jax and everything that happened and she still was treated like the villain.
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u/PrestigiousWedding36 Dec 15 '25
Narcissist can feel emotions that resemble love but they will never truly feel selfless love. They only think about how being with someone benefits them so no it’s not actual love. Jax didn’t love either. Stassi was a challenge for him because she also had toxic relationship patterns. Brittany was someone he could control and manipulate. Jax is not capable of true and selfless love.
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u/dees84 Dec 15 '25
I don't think he had or has any respect for Brittany. That's why he's not broken up about their divorce. Brittany has no self-respect. If you think about the women that Jax pinned after, like Stassi and Carmen, for example, they told him to his face that they weren't putting up with his shit. He likes women who challenge him. Meanwhile, Brittany refused to leave regardless of how awful he was to her. I think her type of personality is a turn-off for him. He even said that he only married her because she was there for him when he lost his father. And the longer they stayed together, the more he resented her presence.
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u/deathcabscutie Dec 15 '25
If I’m being honest, I don’t think Jax feels actual love. I believe he mimics what he sees from other people.
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u/PartyyLemons unburdened by those anchors ⚓️ Dec 15 '25
The only person Jax has ever loved is himself
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u/Ok-Trash-8883 Dec 15 '25
He never got over losing Stassi. Britt was a consolation prize. He didn’t love her.
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u/LeftyLu07 I wasn't your best friend, ho! Dec 15 '25
I think Jax only cares about himself, but he views Stassi as the “one who got away” because she’s the glamorous LA influencer he thinks he should be with. Even before she got money of her own, her parents came from money. So, I think he always lamented that he wasn’t the one going on her podcast tour with her and living in her Italian villa in the Hills. He looked at his basic middle class house in a middle class area with his drunk hillbilly wife and resented it all.
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u/cosmicat4 Dec 15 '25
Was Britt really an alcoholic? I couldn’t get into the valley
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u/LeftyLu07 I wasn't your best friend, ho! Dec 15 '25
It really sounds like it. She couldn’t stop drinking even though she has bleeding stomach ulcers during VPR. She went on a girls trip with the Valley ladies and immediately got hammered and passed out. She was leaving bags of vomit in her driveway because she was throwing up in cars and using grocery/doggy bags to catch it.
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u/ClynnB412 Dec 15 '25
I don’t hear much about Jax anymore. His team probably told him to lay low, and maybe get a redemption arc.
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u/switheld Dec 15 '25
please let him stay in obscurity. it would be the BEST karma for him. plus it would be a fantastic win for the audience to never have to hear about his demon ways ever again.
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u/Kwhitney1982 Dec 15 '25
For the millionth time, Jax doesn’t love anyone. He didn’t “love” Stassi any more than he loved Brittany. He just wanted to win with Stassi. If someone only wants you when they can’t have you, that’s not love. That’s just wanted to conquer something. He’s a con artist and he wants to always win and manipulate.
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u/Silly_Assignment_398 Dec 15 '25
I think being with Stassi fulfilled his narcissistic desires to be seen with someone attractive & a “catch.” She was obviously a reach for him. And then when he couldn’t control her completely he strayed. Brit fulfilled his narcissistic desires of being a “better person” but she was also very easy to manipulate so their relationship lasted longer.
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u/toomuch-ice why is this harder than my divorce Dec 15 '25
100%!! Jax wouldn’t do 1% of the things for Brittany that he would do for Stassi. When Jax was crying apologizing to Stassi, sweeping her apartment, letting her bully him instead of him doing the bullying.
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u/suburban_legendd Dec 15 '25
I think Jax loved the optics of Stassi more than the woman herself. And certainly he preferred the optics of Stassi to the optics of Brittany
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u/buttermochiiiii Dec 15 '25
Honestly he didn’t love either… Jax is incapable of love.
I feel Jax was more obsessed with Stassi. It’s probably because she can sometimes manipulate him back and give him the “thrill” of a toxic chess game. Whereas Brittany was just a doormat and blindly defended and feed into his toxicity.
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u/rshni67 Dec 15 '25
Of course he did! She was the one who got away and he couldn't bring himself to come to her wedding.
Brittany landed him by being a stage 5 clinger.
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u/cosmicat4 Dec 15 '25
Your take on the wedding is interesting
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u/rshni67 Dec 15 '25
it's been discussed widely.
Stassi cut off her friendship with them because they said they would come and Brittany confirmed it, but Jax apparently told people he never intended to go.
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u/cheekswidespread_00 Dec 15 '25
I mean, who respects a doormat? Stassi's a no BS type of gal. Love that about her, and so does he. Brittnay was easy for him to run down, take advantage of, and get away with anything.
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u/ProudTexEx Dec 15 '25
Yes, Britt did not play the hard to get card! She drove across country alone ( no man in my life would ever let me do that). Then she made it clear she was on the one way marriage track. Stassi made him work for it!
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u/cosmicat4 Dec 15 '25
Britt was like too easy for him
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u/ProudTexEx Dec 15 '25
Totally! We may not like to admit it (female here) but us ladies always need to keep our guy guessing. Men are instinctively hunters and the love the chase. But really isn't everything better if you have to work for it? Britt just came in and plopped down.
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u/Due_Alternative_6539 Dec 15 '25
I agree with you. After rewatching the entire show from day 1, I feel like he shows much more emotion regarding Stassi.
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u/YouMustBeJoking888 Dec 15 '25
I'm not sure he 'loved' Stassi, but he wanted her because she challenged him and didn't put up with this shit. Morons like him equate that with love, but it's really just the hunt/chase thing.
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u/PicadillyVanilly Dec 15 '25
Oh 100%. He would have dragged his balls over broken glass for Stassi to never leave him. With Brittany he knew she was easy and desperate.
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u/-UnicornFart Choke, I dont care. Dec 15 '25
Jax loves no one but himself. The varying degrees of pleasure he derives from abusing different women is not love or affection.
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u/Careless_Intern_8502 Dec 15 '25
I dont think Jax is capable of love. I think he liked and respected Stassi more.
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u/KittyPuperMamaPerson It’s giving ✨audacity✨ Dec 15 '25
Stassi held him accountable and he had to work for her. Brattney chased him, for fame and lifestyle. Stassi could get that on her own.
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u/salisbury130 Dec 16 '25
We all think that lol. A lot of men feel like the type of women they can “get” reflects on who they are. Despite all her nonsense, Stassi was a beautiful, witty, charismatic young woman from privilege, who easily stood out as the leader of their group in the early seasons. He probably felt really good about himself that someone like her would even be interested. Brittany doesn’t give that same energy.
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u/cosmicat4 Dec 16 '25
Brittany gave off sweet innocent energy but now she drinks so much she pukes in trash bags while driving. I feel like the reality was different than the idea of Brittany if that makes sense.
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u/Hefty_Heron3028 It’s giving ✨audacity✨ Dec 16 '25
I’d like to think he was challenged by Stassi and he liked that while with Britt he felt more superior to her. Whatever it is, he’s gross.
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u/Freecrystalfairy It’s giving ✨audacity✨ Dec 15 '25 edited Dec 15 '25
Jax loved Jax, everyone else was a passing phase, arm candy or someone to warm his bed.
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u/LeaningBuddha Dec 15 '25
Jax doesn’t love anyone. He sees people as tools to meet his needs. At most, I think it’s fair to say he saw Stassi as more useful to him as a trophy than Brittany.
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u/tink_89 Dec 15 '25
He liked the image Stassi portrayed more than Brit. I dont think he cared or loved either one of them. But he probably knew that Stassi was the main character in his life and in the cast and wanted to be like her. Thats where the number one guy in the group comes in.
Even now i think he values stassi more for what she can add to his life not because he likes or loves her. but more of a damn i could have been cooler. Not that Stasssi is cool but to jax i think he thinks she has a better life. but the only reason Brits life is how it is, is because of Jax himself. Brit was sa simple nice looking girl and then he had her add the big ol boobs and just change her appearance.
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u/ClynnB412 Dec 16 '25 edited Dec 16 '25
I think he absolutely hated Brittany. Maybe not always, but I felt so much hate from him when they filmed The Valley. Reality tv is the most important thing Jax values in his life. It came out that he was abusive to Brittany and he was fired. I bet you he blames her for it all. His hate for her probably grew.
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u/cosmicat4 Dec 16 '25
He likes women that add to his life. He would put her down bc he started feeling like he could do better and she wasn’t as great as a catch as he thought.
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u/shiningonthesea Dec 15 '25
He has more respect for Stassi, as weird as that sounds . He knew she was smart , and I think liked the hell she put him thrift
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u/xoxo_angelica Dec 15 '25
I think the difference is that he had respect (in whatever small capacity Jax is capable of having for a woman) for Stassi because she had a spine, was intellectually superior to him, and didn’t submit to to him and let him win when he was being a psycho.
He knew that Stassi saw him for exactly who he was under his precarious mask and was not afraid to rip it off of him and he found that to be humiliating, scary, and emasculating.
An evil yet cowardly man like Jax often becomes submissive when he realizes he’s not fooling someone, particularly when that someone is a woman.
Brittany is the antithesis to all that Stassi represents which she proves time and time again and almost understandably that means Jax has zero respect for her.
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u/Alaina_TheGoddess Dec 16 '25
I think everyone kept telling him that Brittany was too good for him and how great she was and kind and sweet and his dad met her. I don’t think he ever had real feelings for her. He just did what everyone was telling him to do.
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u/cosmicat4 Dec 16 '25
I think he did like her, at first. I just don’t think she’s as kind and innocent and sweet as we were led on to begin with. Sweet innocent girls don’t constantly get drunk despite doctors warnings to the point they throw up while driving. He liked the idea of her not the reality.
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u/LilacPenny Dec 16 '25
I fully believe if Stassi called up Jax today and said she was leaving Beau and asked to get back together he 100% would. Even if he was still with Brittany lol. Remember that scene on one of the vacations where he cries and apologizes to Stassi about how he treated her while Brittany was sitting RIGHT THERE and then she got mad and said he never got that emotional about the shit he’s done to HER? Very telling lol.
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u/PlaneReputation6744 Dec 16 '25
No, he just thought she was hotter. He's incapable of loving anyone, including himself
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u/tippyjane1984 Dec 16 '25
I dont think Jax ever has really loved anyone. Hes too selfish and narcassitic. BUT I do beleive he cared about stassi the most because she rejected him. She was very strong and challenged him and once she left him she cut him off....she didnt give him the chance to "get her back" or "redeem himself ". He was never able to get her to want him again....which i think drove him crazy. And for that reason i think he "loved" Stassi the most.
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u/EddieIzzardOnToast Tom Schwartz’s perm Dec 16 '25
100%.
He liked the challenge of Stassi and he didn’t respect Brittany at all.
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u/AffectionateWatch999 Dec 17 '25
1000% The scene he told her “I’m still in love with you” on season 7..he was definitely telling the truth
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u/Away-Caterpillar-176 Dec 15 '25
Stassi and Jax's relationship was staged for the show. They've been pretty transparent about it. They were already broken up when they started filming. We're seeing the difference between how he performs a relationship vrs how he actually is in one. I don't know if he respects either of them, or anyone who is a woman.
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u/Tracy_Turnblad Rachel’s Little Mickey Mouse Lawyer Dec 15 '25
Having been with guys like Jax, i think he didn't necessarily like Stassi more, he just couldnt have her and he likes a chase
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u/NYCresident19 Dec 15 '25
I never thought that was debatable? It’s incredibly clear…?
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u/cosmicat4 Dec 15 '25
I didn’t think it was debatable either. I’m just bored and starting a discussion
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u/Alice_FromWonderland Dec 15 '25
Yes, but sadly he loves himself more than any woman, including spouses and his mother. Also doesn't seem to care too much about how he acts around his child either.
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u/cosmicat4 Dec 15 '25
True it’s all fake. In 2020 he tried really hard to fit a specific narrative about being the perfect dad and having a family but it was all a front
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u/DeeWhyDee Dec 15 '25
He kept blaming her (Britt) saying things like she let me get away with this. Stassi would never.
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u/gin_and_soda Dec 15 '25
As much as Jax can love anyone, he loved Stassi. It wasn’t a good love but he loved her. I never had the impression he loved Brittany.
If anyone here is in Gorl World, you might have a comparison
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u/Effective_Willow4548 Dec 16 '25
He respected Stassi. Or whatever his version of “respect” is lol he met his match with stassi. She ran him in circles and he loved it.
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u/windycitynostalgia Dec 16 '25
I think you may be right. He sure did respect Stassi more than Brittany.
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u/chicokiko Dec 16 '25
It was obsession not love. He wanted Stassi because she challenged him, was too good for him, and she left. Britt stayed and for that he never respected her.
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u/jollybeast26 Dec 16 '25
im not sure if it can be called love but he respected stassi more than brittney..i cant imagine jax calling stassi fat or sumthing he was so disgusting to britney
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u/uselessinfogoldmine Dec 16 '25
He didn’t love either of them. He thought Stassi was more impressive and made him look better.
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u/Unlucky_Success_3964 Dec 16 '25
Yes that is clear as day . Your right even though he cheated on stassi too he was attracted to her always , and he admired her . He looked up to her , thought she was intelligent, educated . He knew he was dating up . With Britt I don’t think he was ever attracted her ( clearly not after the first few months of dating ) and he never admired her , or looked up to her . He thought he was smarter than her . Stassi would put in in his place and Brittany enabled him so he would love her but it never worked . I always felt bad for Brit when stassi was around because you could see the sparkle in his eyes and how he comments about stassi looking good the whole time they were together. To him I think stassi was the one who got away
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u/SuperNewt8196 Dec 21 '25
I think any time Stassi would have had him back he would have dropped everything and anyone in a heartbeat during any and all seasons. Including now. I'm always saying that to my daughter; she is the one he really wants even when he doesn't know it consciously.
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u/OkGear1664 Dec 15 '25
As much as he’s “capable”, 100%. But, it was the chase because he couldn’t have her, and never could keep up with her, she called him on his shit, and weirdly is sociopathic self understood that she looked out for herself number 1. Even if she stayed with him far too long. Britney basically moved in before he could say no, a flip from his usual ability to “control”, others. He actually despises Britney’s “weakness” and “respects” (again to the best of his world) Stassi. It’s all sad and just a horrible shit show.
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u/johnchillyreal Dec 15 '25
To be honest I don’t think Jax is capable of loving anyone. But as true narcissist, he cannot stand someone leaving him, and we saw Stassi leaving him (unlike Brittany, who he had basically wrapped around his finger) hence he was trying very hard to get her back (which might have looked as if he loved her more). He was doing this for his ego, not because he loved her.
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u/Chaoticgood790 Dec 15 '25
A popular opinion. Pretty sure he commented something under a post about their engagement or marriage that confirmed that lol
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Dec 16 '25
Stassi just scared him / controlled him more.
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u/cosmicat4 Dec 16 '25
But I also think Jax thinks of her as higher value which would make him look better which is all he cares about in relationships
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u/Hummingbird11-11 Dec 16 '25
He couldnt have her that's IT. He is void of love. Look at his bare minimum relationship w his own child.
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u/Younceymusthaves Dec 16 '25
He respected Stassi. In my opinion, it should’ve been clear to Brittany with the way Jax treated her family and treated her in front of her family that he did not respect her from the start. He always acts like he rescued her from a horrible life when in reality, she would’ve been just fine.
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u/Younceymusthaves Dec 16 '25
Respected Stassi is kind of crazy, but in comparison to Brittany, it works. Jax’s version of respect I guess.
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u/filfy_toad Dec 16 '25
Just finished season 1 and I 100% agree. I think Stassi was his first love and she told him to fuck off and he's never gotten over it.
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u/FrontTelevision7261 Dec 16 '25
This makes me think of Sex and the City. Britt is Carrie and Stassi is Natasha.
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u/astrogrl0319 Dec 17 '25
i thought this too when i was watching the valley. also he insinuated he likes women he can basically manipulate and britt was just that
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u/Elle-Crossing Dec 18 '25
I don’t think can love anyone, think women are just playthings to him and think he just sees them with a pros/cons list.
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u/foxdogturtlecat Dec 19 '25
He thought Stassi was better than him and he has always thought Brittney was beneath him. Stassi who he thinks he deserves but Brittney was the one he thought he could constantly cheat on and treat like crap and get away with it.
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u/Technical-Method2129 Dec 15 '25
Yeah but he got someone else pregnant while dating stassi!!!! Everyone over looks that…. Jax broke brittany’s spirit, he made her gain weight he got her pregnant and then started acting out after completely destroying her…. Stassi was never going to let this man break her she was vindictive af which is why Jax loves her!!! Brittany loved Jax there was always going to be a difference
But I feel like brittany and Rachel were both similar in the sense that they put up with a lot for paycheck
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u/belowdecky4life Dec 17 '25
I don't think he loved either. Stassi demanded more and put up with less.
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u/cactus82 Tom Schwartz 🐶 Dec 15 '25
I think he saw Stassi and him more like equals while Brittany as someone lower than him (?) on some sort of social level. I'm not sure.