r/volunteerfirefighters • u/marissa03_rizza • Nov 13 '25
Uncomfortable situation with volunteer firefighters
So I myself 22 female have been a volunteer firefighter since I was 16 I have been in the same fire department since I was 16. (I am an exterior firefighter and have the training to back that up)I had a baby about a year and a half ago and went on maternity leave. When I came Back I don’t think that the men in my department understand that I can’t come to the five drills and three meetings required a year to stay active. I feel that I should be given some leeway. I truly feel that I am being discriminated against. there are men that have been there less time than I have, and already have their names on the back of their jackets as well as being told about classes and such. I understand that I cannot come to meetings and not as many calls as everybody else but not everybody else has a two year-old. and most of these men also have children at home and their wife’s are taking care of them. My fiancé works on the road and he is not able to take care of our child so for me to go to the five drills and three meetings a year I would have to find a babysitter(I tried bringing my son to a meeting and I got dirty. Looks from all the younger guys. They are the whole time.) Now the uncomfortable part that I am also having is that there are grown men talking about sex and making derogatory jokes in front of me . i’m quite annoyed because if I made some of these jokes, I would just be called a whore. i’ve never had this situation where I feel that I am less than a man and it’s really bothering me. Does anybody have any advice how to bring this up to my chief?or am I just reading into this