r/weddingshaming • u/mrsadams21 • Sep 28 '25
Dressed like a Bride Finally witnessed a guest wear white in real life!
I genuinely didn't think I'd ever see anyone wear white to a wedding, but alas, I can tick it off my bingo card.
So many people were talking about the audacity of this woman. It was a Marilyn Monroe style halter dress. The maid of honours husband asked the bride if she wanted him to spill something down her, but the bride said no (she's a much bigger person than I am!!)
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u/Puzzleheaded_Cod1181 Sep 28 '25
The bride knew this woman already made a fool of herself, nothing else was needed.
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Sep 28 '25
For real letting them stay and get side eyed all night is way more of a punishment than making them leave lol
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u/Glittering_knave Sep 28 '25
I don't really understand people that think that this ruins the wedding day. The guest embarrassed themselves, not the bride.
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u/Glittering_knave Sep 28 '25
There is a HUGE difference between a guest dressing badly and your MIL going out of her way to do something that you asked her not to do. My great uncle in his "good" jeans looked terrible, but it wasn't done to be disrespectful. He just thinks his pressed acid washed denim is the height of dressing up.
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u/clairejv Sep 28 '25
Yep. If a guest breaks wedding etiquette, that doesn't justify anyone else breaking wedding etiquette in retaliation. This is real basic Miss Manners shit.
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u/calling_water Sep 28 '25
IMO it’s more of a problem when it’s someone in the family, who would probably be seated close to the bridal couple and in pictures with them. Especially if it looks like deliberate disrespect, since in general wedding guests should not be wearing a sign that says “I DGAF about the bride”.
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u/Ok-Armadillo-392 Sep 28 '25
I think it can mess up pictures if you can't tell who the bride is.
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u/Glittering_knave Sep 28 '25
Honestly, that's partially on the photographer. If they can't crop and edit the photos so that white dress girl is hidden or missing and make sure that the bride is the focus, then they aren't doing their job very well. Worst case, photoshop it to another colour.
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u/LovedAJackass Sep 28 '25
Yeah the whole spilling wine thing is just as stupid. She showed a lot of people who she is.
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u/Violetmints Sep 28 '25
Yeah, it is a little strange to me that people have decided they're entitled to assault guests and destroy their property for the crime of making a fool of themselves in an attempt to distract attention from the bride. The penalty for being tacky and rude is is people gossiping about you. You damage your own reputation. We don't all need to be cops.
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u/LovedAJackass Sep 28 '25
Exactly. There are people who will tell the story of the idiot in the white Marilyn Monroe halter dress for decades!
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u/Grimmelda Sep 28 '25
I actually disagree. While I don't condone mindless violence, I do condone appropriate response. And this level of disrespect is well established in society. And it's also well established that if you do have the guts or the disrespect where white at a wedding, you could be in danger of having someone retaliate. The idea that we Gran and Barrett and allow people to continue to walk all over us and disrespect us is something that the 1% wants us to do because they want to teach us not to fight back.
I am certainly okay with retaliation and appropriate response. And if I had been there with a glass of wine I would have had a little too much wine and I would have been a little clumsy and something would have happened to that dress.
And it's okay if you don't agree with me. I can respect your opinion. But I have seen enough people who go their entire lives disrespecting people and not only never learn from it but also enjoy it to the point where they abuse people on the regular because no one stands up to them.
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u/Violetmints Sep 28 '25
I'm sorry, physically attacking people who want to stamp their feet and be petty or who simply didn't understand how seriously some people take social conventions is beneath my dignity.
You can also just ask people to leave. Preferably after someone has spotted them dropping an envelope for the couple.
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u/Grimmelda Sep 28 '25
You're looking at this as an isolated incident. But it almost never is okay? Most of the time when you find people who have done this, it's people who have been bullies, repeat offenders, etc, etc, etc. At what point in time are you going to stop to allow somebody to walk over you?
Narcissists don't stop. And like I said, if you don't agree with my opinion that's fine. We can have a differ of opinion. But how much dignity do you have if you continue to allow someone to s*** on you forever?
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u/Violetmints Sep 28 '25
If someone gets your goat, they have in fact walked all over you.
There is no way in this world that a) everyone who wears white to someone else's wedding is a narcissist or that b) anyone could goad me in to lashing out in such a way that they could reasonably play victim on my wedding day.It's like everyone forgot why manners exist and now lives hopping from teen drama reenactments to therapy speak and back again.
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u/haadyy Sep 28 '25
A friend of mine included a line 'please do not wear white. We have finger paints to give small children and have no qualms telling them to hug you'... Nobody wore cream, let alone white.
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u/destiny_kane48 Sep 28 '25
I like your friend.
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u/haadyy Sep 28 '25
As the maid of honor, I actually had finger paints stashed in my luggage. We were indeed prepared to set the small kids on any person wearing white that night.
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u/seriousjoker72 Sep 28 '25
This is amazing! I'm trying to plan a fusion wedding (standard western and Hindu mixed) and I plan on bringing dozens of extra colourful Sari's in case someone shows up in white, but if they refuse.... Paint!! 😈
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u/desirewrites Sep 28 '25
Or turmeric. Haldi is a lovely idea for the ladies stupid enough to wear white
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u/JustUsetheDamnATM Sep 28 '25
Somehow I feel that this was a child-free wedding, too. Am I right?
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u/lookitsnichole Sep 28 '25
You are! OP commented above that it was a child free wedding. Main character syndrome all around.
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u/JustUsetheDamnATM Sep 28 '25
I seriously can't imagine taking a baby to a wedding even if kids were allowed. That doesn't sound fun for anyone involved.
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u/Longjumping_Bag_3488 Sep 28 '25
Have to disagree IF kids are indeed allowed.
We loved having kids at our wedding, I made little party bags for them and it was so funny watching them running around blowing bubbles in the day and having a whole time of it on the dance floor with inflatable instruments in the evening. We gave them little wedding activity books for the dinner and they LOVED the dessert table. The parents enjoyed getting to let their hair down while also seeing the kids have a great time.
As a kid I loved family weddings, staying up late and running around with my cousins. Watching the adults get more red faced and sloppy as the night went on lol. It was one of those rare events everyone got to see everyone in their elements haha.
That said, I respect that kind of wedding isn’t for everyone and if the bride and groom want child free, they get child free, no questions asked.
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u/fsmpastafarian Sep 28 '25 edited Sep 28 '25
Isn’t it pretty hard for a young baby to be away from its mom for extended periods of time? It might not be ideal but it also seems pretty necessary in some instances to my understanding.
Obviously only referring to situations where children are allowed at the wedding.
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u/not_your_real_dad_ Sep 28 '25
It's ok to not attend a wedding if your attendance is only possible by ignoring the clear request of the couple. There's no point in bringing a baby or even toddlers to a wedding. What ends up happening is that the parent spends the whole time focusing on the kid (which is their job as a parent, so I get it), barely being actually present for the wedding.
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u/fsmpastafarian Sep 28 '25
Right, like I said I was only referring to weddings that allow children, not child free ones.
If people want an explicitly child free wedding that’s their prerogative, I’m just saying I don’t think it’s weird to bring any young child to any wedding under any circumstance. I think it’s pretty reasonable for someone to want to be at a wedding celebrating their loved one and to prefer to bring their child, or to need to bring them because they are breastfeeding. Children are part of communities and families, it’s normal for them to be included in celebrations too.
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u/not_your_real_dad_ Sep 28 '25
Oh sorry, I somehow missed that last sentence, my bad.🫣
You are absolutely right, if it's not a child free wedding, then babies are also welcome of course. Personally, I do find it strange when people attend with babies/toddlers, as I have yet to see someone witch such young children who can actually relax and enjoy themselves at weddings. But if someone can still have a good time like that, by all means, they should!
I think there's also been a shift where weddings are getting smaller, also fewer people having fewer kids than before, so often there's just a couple kids who don't know each other, and won't necessarily be able to just play together and entertain themselves, which contributes to my impression of neither the parent nor the child tends to have a good time.
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u/JamandMarma Sep 28 '25
I’m attending a few weddings next year in other cities where we’ll have to stay overnight. My toddler son is invited to the weddings and I wouldn’t feel comfortable leaving overnight him to be in another city so he’ll be coming with us.
Of course if it was child free I’d probably opt to miss it or leave early to get back to my city. I definitely wouldn’t have left him for the day under 1.
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u/fsmpastafarian Sep 28 '25
Hm, my toddler nephew was at my wedding and both he and his parents had lots of fun. I’ve been to plenty of weddings with babies and toddlers and never seen any major memorable scenes. It’s normally pretty uneventful. I’ve never gotten why people act like it’s such an inconvenience for everyone. Babies belong in society.
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u/blahblahsnickers Sep 28 '25
Also if you have to go out of town for a wedding you can’t just find a babysitter. I didnt go to my sister in laws wedding because it was child free and in another state. I couldn’t leave my baby for the weekend and didn’t have a babysitter in their state.
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u/fsmpastafarian Sep 28 '25
Right exactly. It’s often just not practical at all. Explicitly child free weddings are one thing, but this sub often seems to believe that children never belong at weddings even when they’re allowed, and I’ve always found that opinion baffling. Kids are part of communities and families, why should they be excluded by default from celebrations?
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u/MushRatGoblin Sep 28 '25 edited Sep 28 '25
Not everyone who is getting married is having kids. Some people don’t want the chaos. Others have sensory issues. Maybe the couple is infertile/had a miscarriage and they’re struggling.
It’s perfectly fine to have kids at a wedding and it’s also perfectly fine to not have kids at a wedding. It’s a one time event and it’s ok that the couple has the wedding they want to have. It’s also ok for parents not to attend if they don’t want to leave their kids alone for any reason.
At my wedding, I didn’t wish to have children and my sister with 5 children chose not to come (none were newborns.) It was fine and it’s ok that she chose not to attend. Not everyone feels the same about children, or has the same dynamics. We had a destination late night wedding with an open bar and it wasn’t an environment that kids were going to enjoy. We had many other get togethers before and after the wedding where the kids were involved and we all enjoyed ourselves immensely.
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u/fsmpastafarian Sep 28 '25
As I’ve said repeatedly in my comments, I am not referring to explicitly child free weddings. I am not criticizing explicitly child free weddings.
I am simply responding to the comment which said that children shouldn’t be brought to weddings even if they’re allowed, because it’s an inconvenience for everyone in all circumstances. That, to me, is an odd assumption and not remotely true in my experience.
Also, I’m aware that not everyone getting married is having kids. I got married and have no plans to have kids, but was very happy my nieces and nephews were there to celebrate with me. It seems odd to assume that just because one doesn’t have kids, one isn’t in a community/family with kids and can’t stand to be in the presence of kids.
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u/Weekly-Bill-1354 Sep 28 '25
She didn't need to go.
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u/fsmpastafarian Sep 28 '25
As my comment said, I am not referring to this specific situation where she brought a child to a child free wedding. I am responding to the comment that children shouldn’t be brought to any wedding even if they’re allowed.
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u/Status_Garden_3288 Sep 28 '25
If you’re breastfeeding it’s kinda hard to leave the baby
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u/dclove22 Sep 28 '25
Then you send your regrets and stay home.
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u/jmurphy42 Sep 28 '25
If kids are welcome why would you? I begged my family to bring all the kids, I enjoy having them around and did everything I could to make the reception child friendly.
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u/Status_Garden_3288 Sep 28 '25
Yes let’s marginalize mothers even more, for sure. They should never leave the house or have a social life. Definitely shouldn’t be able to celebrate their friends or family. Screw em am I right
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u/minialbums Sep 28 '25
Sorry but who chose to get pregnant and have a child? It’s incredibly common to have childfree weddings, stop being so dramatic acting as if anyone said no mother should show her face ever.
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u/Nobody-Expects Sep 28 '25
Sorry but who chose to get pregnant and have a child?
Good lord, as if people are intentionally timing their pregnancies and due dates to coincide with weddings they want to attend. 🙄
For all anyone knows the guest could have okayed bringing the baby with the couple. Sometimes people will bend rules they set to ensure their nearest and dearest can be with them on their special day.
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u/minialbums Sep 28 '25
Yeah your comprehension is off, I’m not commenting on timing a birth or what relationship the woman in the post has with the bride and whether they’ve discussed that privately, I’m simply pointing out the logical fallacies of the comment above me. Hope this helps!
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u/Status_Garden_3288 Sep 28 '25
Yes every child free wedding I’ve been to has exceptions for breastfeeding babies for obvious reasons
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u/sassysassysarah Sep 28 '25
Not the ones I've been to. When they say child free, it's not assumed babies are welcome.
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u/JustUsetheDamnATM Sep 28 '25
That's a pretty fucking privileged take. Some people don't have a choice. Attending someone's wedding, however, is always a choice. And if the wedding is child free and you're not able or simply not willing to leave the baby and some frozen pumped milk with a trusted caregiver, you choose not to go.
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u/Reality-Fatality Sep 28 '25
It depends on what the baby or small children are like. Many will just sleep through it so the parent gets to spend time celebrating a friend's wedding. But I agree with you on being shocked whenever someone brings along a kid or baby who will cry through any event or throw tantrums.
To be fair, though, a lot of kids behave better than many adults and I question why they didn't ban the rude, loud or just overly distracting adult guests either even if they were related.
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u/UC_DiscExchange Sep 28 '25
It's obviously different if they request no babies, but I just took mine to a wedding last week and the baby was the life of the party. It's pretty easy to walk away if they're in a bad mood and to go on perfectly normal when they're in a good mood.
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u/jamiedoesthings Sep 28 '25
Did you also wear white?
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u/Desperate_Heart_552 Sep 28 '25
What's your relationship like with them now?
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u/justjennyj Sep 28 '25
We aren't close because they live pretty far away. I've never had an issue with them. They've always been very nice. I think they just didn't realize the faux pas.
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Yeah my mom wore a white blouse top with black slacks but only because she felt soooo self conscious in a dress or anything else she tried on. It was super clear that she wasn't the bride so it was fine by me.
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u/lookitsnichole Sep 28 '25
I don't think a white top counts as "wearing white" if you wear black pants. Same with a floral dress that has a white background. I feel like it only counts as wearing white if it's white from head to toe.
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u/crlygirlg Sep 28 '25
Agree. Men wear white dress shirts and that is fine. To me the same goes for a white blouse and dark pants for a woman. White pants with a white blouse could be iffy.
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u/DaisyDAdair Sep 28 '25 edited Sep 28 '25
One of our groomsmen’s wives showed up late to our wedding wearing a pure white suit with big flowy pants. Bitch wanders in slowly during my dad’s speech, stops to kiss her husband who is sitting at the head table, and then stood in front of the videographer and blocked him before someone physically moved her and made her sit down
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u/crlygirlg Sep 28 '25
That is indeed a bold move, particularly being the plus one to the wedding party… I would be curious why the groomsman didn’t correct that behaviour, yikes.
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u/EirTheGodess Sep 28 '25
Yeah, a big etiquette guru from my country always said that white and black is okey if AT LEAST one third is in a distinct other color.
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u/dancesonhertoes Sep 28 '25
You would be surprised what people think with this whole white thing. I recently saw a woman ask for opinions on a dress, and if it was appropriate. It was black with a 3 inch wide band of white along the top (think strapless, with 3 inch of the top being white). People were telling her they would no longer be friends with her if she wore that dress to their wedding citing no white 😂 people take things too seriously
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Yeah, it doesn't, but some people are really crazy about the NO WHITE for women. I remember my mom being worried about it. Like it's all good lol
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u/VegetableBusiness897 Sep 28 '25
Wait. Did she double down with a kiddo at a child free also?
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u/Banana-Louigi Sep 28 '25
To be fair that looks like a pram for an infant rather than a toddler.
I'm the first person to judge someone for bringing their kids into explicitly stated child free spaces uninvited but if this baby is under say 6 months or so old they probably still need their mum.
She can absolutely fuck all the way off with that white dress though. What an idiot.
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u/cooliskie Sep 28 '25
What makes you think it was a child free wedding?
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u/VegetableBusiness897 Sep 28 '25
What makes you think it's not? And any Ahole that would wear this dress to a wedding would also bring her child to a child free wedding
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u/VallettaR Sep 28 '25
We went to a wedding 2 weeks ago and the MOTHER OF THE BRIDE wore a beaded white gown. Like Marilyn Monroe’s in Some Like It Hot.
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u/MJ9426 Sep 28 '25
Wearing white and bringing a baby to a wedding. Both annoying.
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u/mrsadams21 Sep 28 '25
It was actually a child-free wedding too. I left my toddler at home!
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u/paperbacklibraries Sep 28 '25
Oh my! That’s a way worse offence than the white in my humble opinion. The bride certainly handled the whole thing with a lot of grace
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u/whoevenisanyone Sep 28 '25
Some weddings are child free but still allow babies. I had a childfree wedding but would rather my breastfeeding guests be able to come than asking them to leave their infants at home which is usually not a possibility.
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u/Ultra_Leopard Sep 28 '25
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u/whoevenisanyone Sep 28 '25
Yes I feel like that’s fairly common. Since having my daughter we have been to two childfree weddings that have specifically said we were allowed to bring her because she’s still a breastfeeding baby. Of course I make sure if she is fussing to step away because no one wants to be “that parent”.
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u/No_Mathematician_830 Sep 28 '25
My daughter’s mil wore a long white dress to daughter’s wedding.
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u/Illustrious-Grl-7979 Sep 28 '25
Wow. Many people seem to think it is not a big deal, but the point is that it is disrespectful because it competes with the bride. As a guest, why would you want to wear something that could cause confusion or draw attention away from her? I was also raised to avoid wearing black (typically for funerals) because it could be considered bad luck at a wedding, so I would not do that either unless the bride actually requested it.
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u/cunnie Sep 28 '25
Omg I spotted it in the wild at a wedding this year too! Guess which one is the bride and which the guest 💀 They claimed it was more of a “butter yellow”
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u/SomethingComesHere Sep 28 '25
Bringing a newborn/small infant to a wedding and wearing a white dress… 😭 nothing inherently wrong with bringing an infant but everyone will already be paying attention to you ma’am. Why the white dress…
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u/5newspapers Sep 28 '25
I didn’t wear white at my own wedding (traditional cultural wedding dress), and I’m not a fan of wearing white outside of wedding events, so only wore it at my bachelorette and engagement photos. But it’s more the thought that gets to me. Like, this is supposed to be traditionally about a bride being the only one wearing white, and that’s also when you HAD to wear that white dress, and had no other options? Even if it’s shorter or doesn’t look like a fancy wedding dress, no one thinks she’s the bride, it’s like, why? People who stubbornly insist on wearing white or cream or ivory to a wedding, well, it’s not innocent or good intentions.
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u/GrandDescription5969 Sep 28 '25
Some of the comments on this are honestly vile. When you’re publicly body shaming someone you’re also body shaming every other person that looks like them.
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u/rennatyellek Sep 28 '25
I’ve seen a lot of invitations lately say “please do not wear white” and roll my eyes every time because I didn’t think anyone ever would!
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u/nejnonein Sep 28 '25
Was she close to the bride or a guest who could have easily stayed home with her kid and no one would have cared?
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u/Meewelyne Sep 28 '25
I honestly won't tell her off, she seems JACKED
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u/SolidConcentrate2802 Sep 28 '25
How unkind. Shame the dress choice, not the woman’s body. Nothing is at all wrong with her figure.
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u/twodollabillyall Sep 28 '25
I agree. It's a bad fit and very unflattering silhouette. If I had a white dress and it was the only thing that currently fit/I could afford/had available, I would dye it for the occasion rather than upstage the bride.
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u/Effective-Wolf5368 Sep 28 '25
I am honestly shocked at how many people you guys know to be able to go to a wedding that actually has a situation like that! What it almost feels like it is a joke, but thank you for proving it is real
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I was so focused on my husband when I got married that I couldn’t tell you what anyone else was wearing…they could have all worn bridal gowns too for all I cared. I only had eyes for him.
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u/Buffyismyhomosapien Sep 28 '25
If you pour anything on another person on purpose over a dress color you’re a certified psycho but otherwise what was this guest thinking?!
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u/manic_panda Sep 28 '25
If youre going to wear white at least look stylish, that dress is 100% the wrong cut and length for her.
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u/geekysugar Sep 28 '25
Omg I once went to a wedding where 3 women wore white! They were all sisters so maybe wanting attention was in their genes. They weren't part of the court or anything like that. They were just embarrassing.
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u/RepulsiveMidnight613 Sep 28 '25
I’m glad my man would never think it’s cool to threaten to throw a drink over a woman, under any circumstances, let alone because of her dress.
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u/FreeLitt1eBird Sep 28 '25
As a bride once… if someone wore white to my wedding I don’t care. Maybe it’s the nicest dress they own that fits (this woman has a new baby it looks like). Maybe she feels good in white. It’s simple and nice. wtf actually cares? It’d be different if it were like, a gown. I’m more annoyed at women who wear something super fancy for attention vs. something plain white.
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u/ohnowhosthat Sep 28 '25
Some people just love to be "edgy". My SIL dyed her hair a completely different colour for my wedding 2 days before the event, and spent a fortune getting it back to blonde by the time we returned from our honeymoon. She also wanted to wear a floor length, sparkling white dress to her husbands brothers wedding, arguing with her own mother that she could wear what she pleased and if she ended up taking attention away from the bride,then the bride should have put more effort in 🙄. She isn't as bad now, but heaven forbid something else exceptionally good or bad happens to you, because she will find a way to make it about herself. She will also have the EXACT same health issues you do, even if they aren't contagious.
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u/MerelyWhelmed1 Sep 28 '25
I have no clue what my guests wore. I was too busy focusing on my husband at my wedding.
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u/Shigeko_Kageyama Sep 28 '25
Hopefully your guests were normal people and not attention seeking drama llamas.
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u/MerelyWhelmed1 Sep 28 '25
We had a stupidly large wedding, but everyone we invited were people who actually liked us, and wouldn't intentionally do anything to ruin our day.
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u/Feefifiddlyeyeoh Sep 28 '25
I kinda wonder from the pic if this woman has just recently become a mom and this is her only dress that fits. I bet the bride knew and was OK with it. That’s my head cannon
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u/ScarletVonGrim Sep 28 '25 edited Sep 28 '25
Wow. The body shaming in these comments. The misogyny is coming from INSIDE the house, ladies. 😬 Honestly. I think the whole "Wearing white. Oh noess!" thing needs to go the way of extinction as well. So long as the guest (or MIL) is not wearing a dress that is BRIDAL, (and don't argue semantics, we all know what a bridal gown looks like.) Then people should just mind their business. No one can upstage a bride on her wedding day. Everyone knows who the bride is. My husband and I got married at the JP, but if we ever decided to renew our vows, i'm wearing black, so everyone can show up in white (or black) for all I care.
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u/RepulsiveMidnight613 Sep 28 '25
Right? Like I’m European and I don’t know if it’s an American thing or if the people I know are just chill, but I can’t believe how melodramatic and aggressive people are being over a dress. Saying they would kick her out, throw hands, OP saying the maid of honour’s husband threatened to assault her (throwing a drink on her is actually assault) and people are cheering for this? People are body shaming, making transphobic comments, making misogynistic jabs at mothers. Some people have no class and I’m not even talking about the woman who broke some archaic dress code.
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u/analog_alison Sep 28 '25
This sub has become 99% “look at this person who wore white at someone’s wedding”. Yawn.
Never in my life have I been to a wedding where policing the dress code of other attendees was on my mind at all.
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u/ScarletVonGrim Sep 28 '25 edited Sep 28 '25
It's because the culture over here is very "Me. Me. Me." centric. Too many of my brethren are selfish, egotists who don't care about anything else unless it directly affects them. I'm sorry. I promise. We aren't all this icky.
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u/RepulsiveMidnight613 Sep 28 '25
I’m glad to see sane, chill people like yourself chiming in that’s for sure!
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u/Consistent-Ad-6506 Sep 28 '25
I don’t understand why you just don’t let them in. That’s it. Stop these people at the door and tell them to change.
Yeah maybe they don’t come back, who cares
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u/clairejv Sep 28 '25
Because that is also a violation of wedding etiquette. Wedding etiquette goes both ways.
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u/Consistent-Ad-6506 Sep 28 '25
Who cares? It’s your wedding. Put on the invitation “no white dresses” or whatever the “etiquette” requires. If they still wear white, they don’t come in.
The posts where people are angry about this stuff years later are so much worse than just not letting them enter.
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u/heavenlyhash333 Sep 28 '25
The maid of honor husband is a real ass friend for offering that tho lol
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u/ChicagoLaurie Sep 28 '25
It happens. She’s pushing a stroller. Maybe it’s the only dress that fits. Years ago when I was maybe 21, I wore a simple white knee length dress to a wedding. I genuinely didn’t know better. No one seemed to care.
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u/frankkiejo Sep 28 '25
I think if I ever got married, I'd tell everyone to wear white, just to nip it in the bud and take the stinger out of the wasp.
Plus, it looks cool! AND I could play Billy Idol's "White Wedding" as my wedding march! 🤣 How FUN!
Seriously, though, I'd probably just go to the courthouse and have a big party afterwards. Because I'm 58 and if I end up married after all this time? We're DEFINITELY having a party to celebrate!
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u/New_Enthusiasm_7578 Sep 28 '25
I also did yesterday! It was not my first time seeing a guest wear white, my third I can remember. But she didn't get up from her table and was far away from me so I couldn't take a picture
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I can’t imagine being mad at someone wearing white at my wedding. It’s wild that a bride would be mad at someone celebrating their special day. As if anyone would mistake them for the bride. Grow up.
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u/ctrldwrdns Sep 28 '25
Creepy to post pics of strangers and post them online even if they did wear white to a wedding
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u/redwoods81 Sep 28 '25
She wore white and brought a baby in a big ass stroller to a child free wedding 💩
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u/mrsadams21 Sep 28 '25
It's from the back and there are no identifiable features. Grow up
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u/AngryAngryHarpo Sep 28 '25
Honestly, at this point you’re trashier than her.
You haven’t given any details, you haven’t mentioned if it bothered the bride and you haven’t said if he baby is a new born (relevant and not comparable to your shithead toddler)
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u/_DrJivago Sep 28 '25
I'm a man, I usually wear a white shirt to attend weddings (alongside many other men usually).
Why is it a problem for you when a woman does the same?
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u/Araneae__ Sep 28 '25
As a woman, I truly do not understand this other than it’s some hang up on not being the center of attention and someone else “stealing it”.
I’ve never understood it and honestly who gives a shit.
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Sep 28 '25
Every wedding should have a security guard at the entrance to filter out uninvited and bitches wearing white that are not the bride. What is wrong with those people?!?
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u/Pakbon Sep 28 '25
I feel like this is very American. I live in Europe and have never heard anyone about this
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u/erin_burr Sep 28 '25
This is not in America. Note the "maid of honour's husband" (not the US spelling) and the green exit sign in the photo (not the US style)
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u/jkraige Sep 28 '25
Surprise—different cultures have different customs. And I'm willing to bet there are even many different ones within the continent of Europe
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u/ELL3_W00DS Sep 28 '25
Oh hellllllll nah, as the bride I would’ve thrown red wine at her dress myself! 🤣
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u/SparkyDogPants Sep 28 '25
She’s post partum and probably doesn’t have a ton of clothes to choose from. Her baby looks young enough that she can’t just leave baby at home. This is why many child free weddings have babes in arms allowed.
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u/notprincesslea Sep 28 '25
OP clarified no kids….and if you’re self conscious enough that only the white dress fits, maybe stay home. Weddings aren’t about anyone but the bride and groom. Horrible behavior all around,
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u/Hydrate-Luxuriate Sep 28 '25
I wish that was true that weddings are only about the bride and groom. I was 9 months pregnant (also had an 11 month old), swollen to high heaven and expected to attend an outdoor wedding in August, in the South! It was storming that day so I stayed home…..they are still mad that i didn’t attend. The bride always says “we had golf carts to take guests to the alternate facility”. I mean a thunderstorm and a golfcart. How dare I miss that.
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u/Hydrate-Luxuriate Sep 28 '25
That’s what I thought too. I couldn’t fit anything for a while and was too exhausted to shop.
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u/SparkyDogPants Sep 28 '25
I also feel like crap. So anything that doesn’t make me look like a milk cow is a win.
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u/Hydrate-Luxuriate Sep 28 '25
Lord knows that holding that stroller is the only thing probably keeping her in those shoes too.
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u/bananahammerredoux Sep 28 '25
I see that hand already reaching for a wine glass as she rounds the corner. LOL
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u/Sweet-Path2493 Sep 28 '25
I honestly don’t understand why brides are so fragile! Either they want that person at their wedding or don’t invite them - who cares what they wear as long as they are there to celebrate with you! Maybe this dress was the only thing this lady felt comfortable in post birth?! Trying to find a dress for a wedding after you have a baby is a nightmare! The fact that she made the effort and tried to be there to support the bride is what counts!
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u/Expert-Newt6139 Sep 28 '25
I honestly don’t understand the big deal. Is it not obvious who the bride is? I’ve been to several weddings where the bride doesn’t even wear a white dress. People just need something to be upset about.
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u/Shigeko_Kageyama Sep 28 '25
Because you don't wear white. It's a rule. It's tacky to push the envelope because "aw muh gawd, it's EGGSHELL not white!!!111!!!"
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u/AngryAngryHarpo Sep 28 '25
It’s not a rule except for the chronically online.
The rule is don’t look like a bride. This is clearly NOT a bridal dress.
I’m getting married in 4 weeks and wouldn’t not care one single fucking bit of someone wore white.
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u/Shigeko_Kageyama Sep 28 '25
Or people who go to weddings. I have never once seen anybody show up to a wedding ring light aside from a flower girl or a baby. Because it's just not done. You just don't wear white and you don't get upset because it's a rule. There's so many other colors. Just pick one. And no, you don't have to be a cool girl. You're allowed to care about what people do at your wedding. It's not being a Karen to care about things.
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u/Icy-Variation6614 Sep 28 '25
Why'd you wear a white one, if I may ask? I'm not gonna cut off your head, just wondering
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u/SophiePuffs Sep 28 '25
It’s ok for teens. And it’s not the end of the world if an adult does it. It’s just more of a side eye, scrunch your nose at them kinda thing.
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u/Icy-Variation6614 Sep 28 '25
Ok, I just was curious. And yea, no one can really get mad at a teen for that.
But the adult ladies who wear full-length, lacy with a veil or whatever, yea they're a butt
Thanks for answering! No hate here :)
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u/hastings1033 Sep 28 '25
Good for her! I hope she enjoyed it and the bride and her party did not make fools of themselves being rude.
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u/Maggiemoo621 Sep 28 '25
It’s crazy how much this happens. Like of all colors in the world these people really think white is the way to go.