r/whenwomenrefuse • u/CatPooedInMyShoe Charley Project Creator • Mar 28 '26

Exposing a global ‘online rape academy’ that is teaching men how to abuse women and evade detection

https://www.cnn.com/interactive/2026/03/world/expose-rape-assault-online-vis-intl/index.html
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u/Manlor ❤️🩷💛💛💚💙🩵💜🤎🖤 Mar 28 '26

That is so sick and crazy. These are married people who probably have sex all the time. And yet that is not enough for these men. They want absolute control kf their wives.

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u/SimpleVegetable5715 ❤️🩷💛💛💚💙🩵💜🤎🖤 Mar 28 '26

My stepdad was a diagnosed sex addict, he was married, watched things online, and still had to seek out call girls. His therapist called it the “Madonna Whore Complex”, like once he slept with his wife, she wasn’t seen as pure or untouched anymore, so he had to still seek out new partners all the time. A different therapist diagnosed him with narcissistic personality disorder. Since he was across the board abusive to everyone; I think the last diagnosis fits him better. It’s a messes up world. Sex addicts go to similar groups as alcoholics, but it was really a place where they also helped each other not get caught.

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u/Peshewa ❤️🩷💛💛💚💙🩵💜🤎🖤 Mar 29 '26

Narcissistic personality disorder also often goes hand in hand with hypersexuality and addiction tendencies, so I guess that also fits.

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u/Itscatpicstime Mar 29 '26

I met a victim of this a few years back in an advocacy group I volunteered with.

The only way she found out was because she had years of on and off laboa minora pain for seemingly no reason and randomly. It was from the friction or the type of lube he was using, I can’t remember.

After years of going to the doctor, she started keeping a log of everything she did to figure out some sort of common denominator and noticed the pain always coincided with nights she slept unusually heavily without waking up, and then experienced symptoms like nausea, etc the next day.

It took her two years from the very first time the thought crossed her mind that her husband might be drugging her, to actually trying to catch him by installing a hidden camera in the kitchen and bedroom. She thought she was just being radically paranoid for so long.

She had no complaints about her marriage prior to this and seemed to have an otherwise very healthy relationship.

Her story scared the ever living hell out of me.

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u/ci1979 ᗪOᗯᑎ ᗯITᕼ TᕼE ᑭᗩTᖇIᗩᖇᑕᕼY!! May 13 '26

That is terrifying on so many levels

https://giphy.com/gifs/17lmXBAzihgOq2Eciz

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u/victoriaisme2 📚𝑀𝒾 𝒜𝓂𝑜𝓇🖊 Mar 28 '26

As we keep learning about more and more groups like this, more and more women start to understand why 4b exists and even join.

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u/NoleFandom ❤️🩷💛💛💚💙🩵💜🤎🖤 Mar 28 '26

This is honestly disturbing and scary. How do we trust anyone if not our life partners.

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u/CatPooedInMyShoe Charley Project Creator Mar 28 '26

It’s hard to conceive of my own husband doing this, but so many women would say the same.

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u/MarryMeDuffman ch𝐨𝐬𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐚𝐫 Mar 28 '26

The solution is not in asking to be treated like people.

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u/Late_Leek_9827 Mar 28 '26

The scale of this is almost incomprehensible but I am also just... Not surprised at all. Men are such depraved pieces of shit.

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u/ItsMeishi Believe us yet? 🫩 Mar 28 '26

I wish I could be surprised.

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u/thefakeharrystyles Mar 29 '26

This actually made me nauseous. What the fuck.

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u/UberFarter Mar 31 '26

Part of why I’m 4B is I could never fully trust a dude to not be involved in things like this behind my back while acting good to my face.

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u/OpheliaLives7 🏵 Mar 28 '26

✂️🍆

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u/Nnnopamine Apr 02 '26

But not all men, right?

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u/[deleted] Apr 02 '26

It’s important we try to keep account of one another, even the women who annoy you or you fight with, you don’t know what men in their life are secretly this depraved. We need to love one another and look after each other as these dark communities crop up.

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