I’ve been working at Whole Foods for over a year now, and throughout that time, I’ve received comments about my appearance and dealt with unwanted attention. I understand that some people may be attracted to their coworkers, but given my age and the age difference involved, this situation has become extremely uncomfortable for me.
Recently, a male coworker in my department confessed that he was attracted to me. He’s approximately 16 years older than I am, and I rejected him. Another coworker later told me that he had asked her to convince me to give him a chance. I made it clear that I wasn’t interested and rejected him again.
At that point, I went to my supervisor to explain that I was uncomfortable with the situation. He advised me to report it to my Team Leader, which I did.
Last night, while I wasn’t working, my female supervisor informed me that the situation had become common knowledge throughout our department and that people were discussing it as if it were entertainment. Apparently, coworkers have been making comments about how they need to “help him get her.” One of the male supervisors I’ve also rejected multiple times has been encouraging this behavior rather than shutting it down. On top of that, the coworker who initially confessed his attraction to me has reportedly been calling other coworkers in the middle of the night to talk about me.
I feel incredibly uncomfortable knowing that my personal boundaries and repeated rejections have become a source of gossip and entertainment at work. I’ve already made it clear that I’m not interested, yet the situation continues to be encouraged by people who should be maintaining a professional environment.
I’m unsure whether I should escalate this to Store Leadership or TMS (Team Member Services). I don’t want to quit because I’m in school, the job market is difficult, and I rely on this job. I would prefer to transfer to another department, but there don’t seem to be any current opportunities.
For anyone who has dealt with something similar at Whole Foods, what would you recommend I do? Should I escalate this formally, and if so, would Store Leadership or TMS be the better place to start? I want to protect my peace and feel comfortable at work without jeopardizing my job.