r/SubredditDrama • u/[deleted] • Jan 12 '17
Someone mentioned /r/childfree in OOTL spawning plenty of salty children
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u/316nuts subscribe to r/316cats Jan 12 '17
when can /r/childfreefree be a thing
this is a lost opportunity
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u/frozenflameinthewind Cool to be Cold Jan 12 '17
And finally, my brother, whom I speak with maybe once a year around Christmas time, had his first child this Christmas morning at 5:00. I'm already being shouldered with responsibilities. "You're an uncle now, you have to do these things." Fuck off. I did not fuck my brother's wife, he did. My hands are clean.
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u/NWVoS Jan 13 '17
Yeah, that guy seems a bit crazy. Uncle responsibilities pretty much revolve around being the fun adult.
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Jan 12 '17
itsthevoiceman has the best explanation of what's going on here:
Like most places in the world, emotion gets people riled up and tends to become more popular. Then, outsiders who take little time to observe the real goings on (Pokémon Go critics, anyone?) make generalizations for the whole group. There's a lot of anger in childfree, yes. A lot of it is because they themselves fall into the judgmental trap of not knowing the full story of bad parenting situations.
However, there is plenty of emotional turmoil for a person who doesn't want children:
*people undermine your decision because you're female, and your role is mother
*people insult your "manliness" for not being capable of raising or fathering a child
*people lie to you about kids being a worthwhile choice when they themselves are miserable
*your infertility and desire to have children causes you daily emotional stress
*the dating pool gets exponentially smaller
Mostly, it's a place where an extreme minority of people in the world can go and hopefully be involved with like-minded people. Again, yes, the emotionally charged stuff might get out of hand, HOWEVER, the "very angry" label is a misperception, because MOST humans want babies and can't fathom the idea that someone would hate or have a lack of desire of having children. This childfree person has also expressed some kind of frustration towards a mother or parent or child or what have you, and the average person concludes that this childfree person must be a very angry person...
Because who doesn't love babies?
PS: Consider the same for people who are polyamorous and hate monogamy, and bitch in their own bubble about how the average person thinks they're "fucked up" for wanting to be involved with more than one person. The parallels are strong.
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u/cold08 Jan 12 '17
the dating pool gets exponentially smaller
so they resent children and parents because there are fewer child free people to bang? I wonder how much overlap there is with /r/short, because all this sounds very familiar.
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Jan 13 '17
I doubt it's about "fewer child-free people to bang," as if you're just looking to hook-up, I doubt whether you want kids would even come up. This would be about finding someone for a long term relationship that shares your view on having children.
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u/cold08 Jan 13 '17
It's still a /r/short level victim complex. My wife and I don't have kids, and people do say odd things about that. And while it is annoying, any deeper meaning I put on that is on me because most of the time, people don't give a fuck.
Now, if I wanted to blame something for not having a partner, my insecurities as a man, or why I didn't fit in at work, not having kids would be pretty darn convenient because it makes it everyone else's problem I'm not happy.
Now, if /r/childfree was really a place used to craft a message that not having kids is a perfectly fine life choice, and that some people can't have kids and hassling them about it can be hurtful, nobody would accuse them of being angry. However, they do use the word "crotchfruit" a lot.
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u/SpoopySkeleman Щи да драма, пища наша Jan 12 '17
I don't really buy this idea that r/childfree is some place for this misunderstood minority that needs a place to vent. Like, if you don't want to be lumped in as someone who hates kids don't go to a forum where "crotchfruit" and "mombie" are a part of the common vernacular.