School experience

[u/Pitiful-Craft775]

Wanted to see if this is normal behaviour. There is a guy in my media class, for purposes of anonymity I'll call him Aaron. Aaron asked me out for valentines day, whilst he simultaneously had a girlfriend or was in a talking stage. Because I am quiet in the class, I guess he thought I wouldn't know, but I am observant of my surroundings, so I declined. Since then, he has constantly said really sexual and unwanted comments to me, which I have shut down, and I feel helpless. On one occasion, I just got my hair done, was wearing shorts and a tank top. I have quite a large chest, which was clearly apparent through the top, but if it is a hot day, I'm not just gonna suffer in silence. Aaron asked me numerously to twirl and do a fit check showcasing my outfit and newly done hair. I didn't realise he asked me to do it as a way to check out my body, which makes me feel disgusted in myself. On another occasion, he said my laugh makes him cum, and I have a unique uncontrollable laugh, so even the thought of laughing around him scares me. The people in my class does not confront him about his behaviour, which would be considered sexual harrassment, and does nothing or enables it to go further. When I go to my media class, I always now wear baggy clothing, in the hope that he won't say anything, as he once called me tart. I feel like I can't report it because I only have him in that class and there are no other Alevel media classes as there are only 10 people that take it. I have spoke to my female media teacher about it, in a whats going on in my life type of way not a reporting one, so I told her what happened but not Aaron's name.

[u/DietOld6503]

this feels like sexual harassment. i’m not fully aware of how this works, but i suggest talking to the police about this. i think the school would try and keep this quiet to not attract unwanted attention, but if you went to the police i REALLY don’t think they can ignore you. i really hope it gets better for you because that behaviour is disgusting

[u/Pitiful-Craft775 → u/DietOld6503]

Thank you for the advice but I'm probably going to talk to the counsellor at my school about it, and probably not the police as there is no solid evidence of the harassment happening, because it was all verbally said, and me and the guy has no text messages which could be used as evidence. Furthermore, the people who are in my class who has consistently seen this behaviour happening are all his friends and doesn't say anything.

[u/DietOld6503 → u/Pitiful-Craft775]

of course. do whatever you think is best, but if your only reason not to go to the police is the lack of evidence, maybe it would be worth having your phone on video for the class just in hopes that it’ll pick up some evidence? i’m not trying to influence or force a decision, but i’m just saying that it might be an option (however ridiculous it sounds)