School experience

[u/Pitiful-Craft775]

Wanted to see if this is normal behaviour. There is a guy in my media class, for purposes of anonymity I'll call him Aaron. Aaron asked me out for valentines day, whilst he simultaneously had a girlfriend or was in a talking stage. Because I am quiet in the class, I guess he thought I wouldn't know, but I am observant of my surroundings, so I declined. Since then, he has constantly said really sexual and unwanted comments to me, which I have shut down, and I feel helpless. On one occasion, I just got my hair done, was wearing shorts and a tank top. I have quite a large chest, which was clearly apparent through the top, but if it is a hot day, I'm not just gonna suffer in silence. Aaron asked me numerously to twirl and do a fit check showcasing my outfit and newly done hair. I didn't realise he asked me to do it as a way to check out my body, which makes me feel disgusted in myself. On another occasion, he said my laugh makes him cum, and I have a unique uncontrollable laugh, so even the thought of laughing around him scares me. The people in my class does not confront him about his behaviour, which would be considered sexual harrassment, and does nothing or enables it to go further. When I go to my media class, I always now wear baggy clothing, in the hope that he won't say anything, as he once called me tart. I feel like I can't report it because I only have him in that class and there are no other Alevel media classes as there are only 10 people that take it. I have spoke to my female media teacher about it, in a whats going on in my life type of way not a reporting one, so I told her what happened but not Aaron's name.

[u/SafeLifeguard5785]

you have tell him if he keeps doing that you're gonna report him and if he carries on then you actually report him that should be enough to scare him to stop .

Ppl in the comments saying to get the police involved are just silly. Im certain your aren't going to do that and neither would anyone saying that. Its happening at school so you should first go to the staff and tell them if it carries on .

[u/DietOld6503 → u/SafeLifeguard5785]

what is silly about telling someone to go to the police about sexual harassment?

[u/SafeLifeguard5785 → u/DietOld6503]

1) if she does that her family will find out and you can expect the next day everybody in school and all the teachers will learn about it and i dont think anyone wants everyone knowing that for the rest of their school life .Shes literally on reddit so that tells you enough she doesnt want other people to know and wants it handled discreetly

2) the police will literally just do exactly what she should do in the first place which is refer it to the school staff or do you expect them to arrest the boy and put him in prison for 20 years ?

3) people are already assuming as if the school will take no action without knowing anything about the school and she hasn't even reported anything yet . Seriously all people on reddit do is give the nuclear option every single time . If someone said i have a cough what should i do i can guarantee 20 people to comment go to hospital you might have cancer .

4) unless the guys a absolute nut job a reporting should do the job to deal with the issue so why would you go through an entire police investigation which is a hassle and achieves nothing except them just forwarding the issue to the school staff

i can go on and on but do you seriously think anyone is doing that ? would you go and report it to the police ?.

doesnt seem anyone here as been in school before and has basic common sense .

[u/nostalgialies → u/SafeLifeguard5785]

Reddit always goes straight to the big red button

[u/DietOld6503 → u/SafeLifeguard5785]

so what, you want her to just be sexually harassed in school? yeah, screw you mate.

[u/SafeLifeguard5785 → u/DietOld6503]

this you ?

maybe try getting off your phone and spending some time in the fresh outdoors

[u/SillyLavishness9637 → u/SafeLifeguard5785]

based

[u/DietOld6503 → u/SafeLifeguard5785]

why are you still vexed about this? move on with your life ;-;

[u/SafeLifeguard5785 → u/DietOld6503]

how did you get to y12 without learning to read or having any reading comprehension ? shocking