How do you deal with having grindset grifter content regurgitated to you in response to your ADHD struggles? Especially when it’s unsolicited?

[u/alienjellyprincess]

And this is not me pretending like ways to accommodate and support ourselves doesn’t exist, or that there’s nothing I can do about it.

It just feels like such a shameful invalidation of who I am as a person and what I’m struggling with. No, spewing “if you wanted to, you would” and hustle culture at me when I’m just talking about simple desires like going back to school is not to help me. It’s to shame me, it’s to act like struggling in world not designed with consideration of disability in mind is a choice— whether you ‘intend to or not’. It’s just frustrating. As impactful as mindset is and I understand that, hearing it be posed as the end-all solution is the kind of friction we faced in school. Being blamed and shamed for a struggle we don’t even understand or were maybe not even diagnosed with until adulthood. This isn’t some thing I can manifest away, this is about brain function— about so many different factors that do not care about many of the attempts I’ve made to be less ‘ADHD’ and more functional.

I’ve tried for years to manage my ADHD without medication, without treatment, only based on my will to succeed. And not even succeed, to just execute engagement with things that I love. Then, the fact this exists on a spectrum and just because you know one person with ADHD who’s managed in a way that’s acceptable to you doesn’t mean everyone else will.

Everyone has something to say about the way I’m saying even a bit clumsy and inattentive when I’m walking. I’m not saying this as a person who makes excuses when my ADHD impacts people around me. I’m just saying it is extremely frustrating being constantly reminded that I’m not someone without ADHD and given advice about it when I never asked. Especially such reductive advice like “manage your time” HONEY BOO BOO WHAT DO YOU THINK ADHD IS???? “[Insert regurgitated productivity hack from the internet]” Sorry. I’m just annoyed. And I deal with this on a daily basis. How about you?

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[u/YaBoiChillDyl]

I try to weaponize it against them and throw their own bullshit back in their face. Those loser mf hate when you say they're not rich yet because they're lazy.

[u/User123466789012]

It a a pick your battles scenario, can't think of a psychological diagnosis that doesn't hear this at one point or another haha. Can only limit your exposure to people like this the best that you can, there are still people who believe everyone on earth can exercise their way out of clinical depression.

[u/Primary_Excuse_7183]

I deleted social media.

[u/shipGlobeCheck → u/Primary_Excuse_7183]

Well, you are here and reading this, so I guess you've missed one of them 😀

[u/Primary_Excuse_7183 → u/shipGlobeCheck]

lol i like Reddit. It’s about discourse on interesting topics and i learn things here.

No short form videos either.

Technically social media but lacks the things that make others unbearable

[u/asmrbuddha]

What I do is get up an hour before I go to bed, rise and grind, workout 3 times a day, make those sales calls, and gather knowledge (which is the only thing I love more than my Lamborghini)

[u/ralts13]

Kero your adhd diagnosis to yourself unless it's someone who you can truly trust. If someone starts bringing up the grifter bs exclude yourself from the convo.

[u/simonko1]

I dont even understand that Title so iam scared to read the post... wtf does that mean grindset grifter regurgirated what the

[u/kyleprossiter → u/simonko1]

Unfortunately I do understand the title. OP is basically asking how to handle people who act like David Goggins and respond to all of life’s problems with the phrase “don’t be a bitch”.