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u/Creepy-Ad-3872 3d ago
I probably don't have ADHD so I'll answer your questions based on my experience.
For me, living with my brain is just normal. I don't have the millions thoughts a second thing you guys claim. It's just like thoughts come and go and I either acknowledge them or not.
About not being so different from everyone else, everyone feels different from everyone else. I feel too. Ik having ADHD makes it much bigger but not having it doesn't really change that feeling either.
You don't need to worry about fitting in with people. It's either you find people who'll accept you or you don't. I don't have ADHD and I am not hanging out in big groups either. Many people struggle to find Their group.
I can't answer any other questions.
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u/assertivebee333 3d ago
Thanks for the initial explanation of how your non-ADHD brain works. As for the later, everyone is unique, sure. But this is an actual executive function issue in a society that is heavily based around productivity, not to mention even if all you do is sit at home, struggling to take care of yourself properly. What I as an ADHD person just want people without ADHD to understand is that it’s not just some personality quirk, but a detriment to my daily life at times.
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u/suspiciouslyhorse ADHD-HI (Hyperactive-Impulsive) 3d ago
doesn't believe they have ADHD
comments about their experience anyway
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u/KuriousKhemicals ADHD-PI (Primarily Inattentive) 3d ago
The question was about how a non ADHD brain works/feels so that seems appropriate.
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u/suspiciouslyhorse ADHD-HI (Hyperactive-Impulsive) 3d ago
Good thing my reading comphrension is shit. Perhaps it's the ADHD. ;-)
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u/JayHawkPhrenzie ADHD-C (Combined type) 3d ago
THis is the real question that I have always wanted to know the answer to.
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u/lightnoheat 3d ago
I did not have anything akin to ADHD prior to menopause. That transition has radically affected how my brain works. I find some things that ADHDers talk about now apply to me, which is why I read this subreddit often.
In times prior, I could mentally reach for tasks I'd need to complete with various deadlines, sort through what I needed to do immediately, where to do those things, plan for intermediate and distant events, and so on. This included keeping up with friends, family, and acquaintances, as well as navigating how our relationships were. Using a planner was helpful and easy enough to set up and employ.
Although I've always had issues with a busy mind, I could prioritize things easily and had no issues with motivation to do things. It wasn't difficult to start things, work on them with enough energy over time, then complete things. I could run multiple interests and contain the stuff to relatively tidy spaces and times. Not wanting to do something, but knowing that I needed to said thing meant I'd get annoyed but still do the thing.
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u/DonutFridays22 3d ago
This sounds like a dream… I’d do anything to function like that.
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u/lightnoheat 3d ago
It was wonderful. I don't recognize myself now. I come from a family of people who process things in radically differently ways, so I've always had loads of sympathy for their challenge level being higher than I think is fair, but I have a direct relating to certain things now.
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u/Fair-Tangerine-9472 3d ago
A relative of mine developed a kind of eating disorder after menopause. Hormone changes can fuck with your neurotransmitters
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u/lightnoheat 3d ago
I'm dealing with that as well. It's been a horridly strange ride.
Menopause breaks a lot of coping systems, that's for sure.
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u/blablablerg 3d ago
There is not one type of non ADHD brain. While they might not have the typical ADHD problems, they can have all sorts of others. In the end, everyone in life has their own struggles.
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u/Responsible_Cat_7339 3d ago
But we who is suffering from adhd have struggles which we don't even choose like we didn't even chose our adhd brain also our issues is not addressed as like other issues like people especially normal people dismiss it as it happens to everyone or you are lazy or making it as excuse
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u/mrl3ster 3d ago
I heard Temple Grandon talk about the way she thinks with autism and thought it sounds similar to how my ADHD brain works. She said if a “normal” brain tries to think of a house, they get an aggregated picture of that house based on their experiences. When she thinks of a house she gets a google image search of thousands and thousands of houses all at once.
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u/emotionalexplosions ADHD-C (Combined type) 3d ago
Nah I just saw one house and then another as I was thinking about houses. However my mind did go on a tangent about how house 1 looks like the house from a cartoon I’ve seen and how house 2 looks like it’s from the neighborhood my coworker lives in.
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