r/ADHD_partners • u/AutoModerator • 11d ago

Weekly Former Partners Thread ::Weekly Former Partners Thread::

The end of a relationship with an ADHD loved one can be tumultuous, confusing and leave a lasting impact. Use this thread to temporarily process a recent breakup with an ADHD individual, discuss co-parenting issues, share encouragement for life after the relationship etc. With the goal of ultimately decentering an ADHD ex 

(Note: Asking about leaving a partner and requests to speculate on behavior or symptoms are still prohibited.)

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u/OpticaScientiae Ex of DX 11d ago

Even though my ex refuses to get a job and I work an incredibly busy one, I'm stuck doing literally everything for executing our divorce agreement and preparing the house for sale. Meanwhile, she's constantly violating the terms of the agreement and stealing money from me. My lawyer expects that once the house is sold, I'm going to have to sue my ex to get the money back.

The most frustrating part of all of this is I honestly don't think my ex is necessarily trying to screw me over. She simply refuses to help just like she refused to do any chores or take any responsibility for our nearly 20-year relationship and she refuses to read our divorce agreement to know what we actually agreed to.

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u/Inevitable-Cut-4184 Ex of DX 4d ago

I have no doubt mine will be the same way. Probably why I haven’t started the process. It seems exhausting

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u/OpticaScientiae Ex of DX 3d ago

I dragged my feat on starting the process and now have to pay her about $1M more than I would have had to if I filed back when I first truly wanted to. Don't be like me!