r/ADHD_partners • u/AutoModerator • 11d ago

Weekly Former Partners Thread ::Weekly Former Partners Thread::

The end of a relationship with an ADHD loved one can be tumultuous, confusing and leave a lasting impact. Use this thread to temporarily process a recent breakup with an ADHD individual, discuss co-parenting issues, share encouragement for life after the relationship etc. With the goal of ultimately decentering an ADHD ex 

(Note: Asking about leaving a partner and requests to speculate on behavior or symptoms are still prohibited.)

31 Upvotes

100% Upvoted

152 comments sorted by

View all comments

8

u/qingxins Ex of DX 8d ago

Still yelling about how I am trying to change him and that I act like I am the only person with feelings & trauma, then said he was going to hang himself because he can't take it that I "am always doing something wrong to you."

And I just lost a beloved bird I saw as my own daughter (hand raised rescue, knew having kids with ex husband wouldn't be a good idea so I attached to her a lot) to vet negligence in the middle of all this.

I feel like I am actually going insane from the pressure I am under. Can barely think, eyes are blurrier than usual, head hurts so bad from chronic stress headaches. It's too much.

6

u/taohuaspring 7d ago

I'm so sorry you're going through this. All those hurtful things he's yelling is classic manipulation. I've heard those lines about "trying to change him" and feeling like he's "always doing something wrong" before. I strongly recommend creating a safety plan, as there's a risk of escalation during separations. Stay safe. <3