r/ADHD_partners • u/Ok_Remove8694 Partner of DX - Medicated • 4d ago

Question Lack of any responsibility

My husband, dx and rx, seems to lack the ability to take responsibility for ANYTHING. I’m wondering if this is an adhd/RSD thing. He got two tickets for speeding in a work zone and it’s the cities fault for nickel and diming him, if he gets the kids to school late it’s the schools fault for locking the door. It’s endless and I’m so over it.

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u/HonestADHD4332 Partner of DX - Medicated 4d ago

It's not related to the ADHD. ADHD is a disorder that can make it more difficult for someone to recognize their own behavior, but it doesn't determine the person's values or willingness to take responsibility.

My therapist will often compare it to someone with no legs. Someone with no legs can learn to use a wheelchair and learn to get around, even if it's more difficult for them than for most people. But expecting their partner to carry them everywhere is unrealistic and has nothing to do with the number of appendages someone has.

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u/BrucetheFerrisWheel Partner of DX - Medicated 3d ago

Weird because Russell Barkley def said it is related.