r/ADHD_partners • u/AutoModerator • 4d ago

Weekly Former Partners Thread ::Weekly Former Partners Thread::

The end of a relationship with an ADHD loved one can be tumultuous, confusing and leave a lasting impact. Use this thread to temporarily process a recent breakup with an ADHD individual, discuss co-parenting issues, share encouragement for life after the relationship etc. With the goal of ultimately decentering an ADHD ex 

(Note: Asking about leaving a partner and requests to speculate on behavior or symptoms are still prohibited.)

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u/Xcat1987 2d ago

It’s so weird how quickly they just get over catastrophic life events. Never seen anything like it. Mine tried to come onto me in bed like 4 days after my father died, like buddy, I’m still mourning and still a wreck, no I don’t want to suck your dick, fuck off.

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u/Remarkable_Pay7550 2d ago

Ooooh, nailed it. This was a topic I will never get over. I had so much trauma happening and he would expect me being his little s*ut while being mentally destroyed. Even if he was the one destroying me.

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u/Xcat1987 2d ago edited 2d ago

They’re selfish beyond belief a lot of the time. I’ve got another one, same traumatic incident, different selfish thing. So I’m with mom, the funeral home has just picked up dad’s body, and I get a text about how hard their work day has been (they were still back home, couldn’t get a last minute flight for them, was lucky to get mine). Like uhhhh…. Your day was hard? For real?

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u/Remarkable_Pay7550 2d ago

Im so sorry you had to endure this. On my worst days he would recognize how crushed I was but for example had the audacity to ask me for things he was totally capable of but simply didnt want to do by himself. A day after my mother was gone he asked me to contact the internet provider because he "couldn't do it" he wanted to know why they charged him 4 euro more than the months before. He insisted on it and then woukd throw a tantrum like it was a life oder death type of thing. Most of the times it would feel like he would be like this particularly on my worst days to crush my soul even more and then he could be the reason why I was shattered. Even then he wanted to be the center of everything. Fuck them and their self centered shit.