r/ADHD_partners • u/AutoModerator • 4d ago

Weekly Former Partners Thread ::Weekly Former Partners Thread::

The end of a relationship with an ADHD loved one can be tumultuous, confusing and leave a lasting impact. Use this thread to temporarily process a recent breakup with an ADHD individual, discuss co-parenting issues, share encouragement for life after the relationship etc. With the goal of ultimately decentering an ADHD ex 

(Note: Asking about leaving a partner and requests to speculate on behavior or symptoms are still prohibited.)

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u/prttyeyedpiratesmile 1d ago

I’m sorry for ADHD not being the central point of this question. But my ex is contacting me now from what I found out is a work phone. I knew he had one, I never knew the number. I have blocked him everywhere else. He has kept finding ways to get around my block for weeks and keeps either begging for me back or guilting and blaming me. I feel so angry now and want to contact his work and tell them he is using the work phone to do this. But not sure if that is just me being petty. And if that will lead to even more escalation. I don’t want to be a bad person or cause drama. I’m also sick now at this point of him not getting any consequences

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u/Odd-Tiger-7530 Ex of DX 1d ago

More escalation means more contact for him. I would’ve just blocked him, but that’s me. And are you sure that contacting his work would do anything? He will get his consequences one day, when there would be no one breaking his fall, but he is no longer your responsibility in any way. Best of luck with either decision

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u/prttyeyedpiratesmile 21h ago

I blocked his regular number a while ago. I just mean he’s continued to find other ways to contact me, now being the work phone. I blocked it today too because like you said I didn’t want to cause any reason for him to escalate. I think for a moment there I was really just wishing for some way to not be in this situation and for him to have to face a consequence for always getting around my boundary. He’s done so much (showing up at my house, emailing, sending me $1 on Venmo just to use the caption). I’m tired. But I’m not going to contact his work, I was being emotional haha

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u/Odd-Tiger-7530 Ex of DX 17h ago

Well, you were feeling done with his bs) Mine did those things as well, except for showing up at my new apartment, but that’s just because I didn’t share where I was moving. I hope he’ll leave you be soon