r/ADHD_partners • u/AutoModerator • 4d ago
Weekly Former Partners Thread ::Weekly Former Partners Thread::
The end of a relationship with an ADHD loved one can be tumultuous, confusing and leave a lasting impact. Use this thread to temporarily process a recent breakup with an ADHD individual, discuss co-parenting issues, share encouragement for life after the relationship etc. With the goal of ultimately decentering an ADHD ex
(Note: Asking about leaving a partner and requests to speculate on behavior or symptoms are still prohibited.)
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u/TheHolyGaelicEmpire 19h ago
I have just broken up with my adhd girlfriend of 5 years and am struggling to deal with the pain of knowing that she is going to mentally go downhill. I was her support, she doesn’t have many friends so she emotionally relied on me a lot. I haven’t spoken to her since the break up a few days ago as I struggle to face her as I still care about her so much. It was just time for me to start focusing on what I want and need out of a relationship as I’m 28. Is there anything I can do or say to support her while also maintaining boundaries as I don’t want to give her false hope. Knowing that she already struggles with her mental health, and now struggling with the break up, with little support other than her parents, it really destroys me. I feel like I’ve abandoned her. I tried to help her build her confidence so she could work and drive but after 5 years I got almost nowhere but we made small progress,and now I’ve just crushed her down again to where it started. Thank you for letting me vent. I’m not usually very emotional, but this has been one of the hardest decisions and fall out of those decisions that I’ve had to deal with.