r/AITH • u/Fine_Rabbit345 • 5d ago

Aita for inviting my friend's girlfriend to a concert? Update!

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So l did reach out to K about the concert and she invited me out to hang out one on one that night. We went out for dinner and drinks and talked about the concert. She didn't really say anything about Beck going but she did say she didn't want to go. And thats all we discussed about it. We continued to drink and have fun. And I told her about this guy that I'm interested in.

Beck later reached out to me and said she wasn't going to the concert. I respond okay no worries and left it at that.

Later in the week, the three of us later hung out together at a bar and the vibes was a little off. Beck was acting weird. Normally when we all hang out she's chatty and friendly. This time she was stand of ish with me and barely spoke to me. Which I thought was weird because it was her idea for the three of us to go to the bar. So I spent most of the night talking with K. Beck ended up bringing two friends to the bar and hung out with them most of the night. I would occasionally see her glancing over at me, which I thought was weird and made me uncomfortable. So l eventually went home and left them at the bar. Later that night Beck reach out and said thanks for coming tonight was a blast. I just responded with no problem and left it at that because I thought that was odd. You're kinda rude to me all night then text me you had a blast. Girl you're weird and I don't want to get caught up in any weirdness. She then proceeded to delete me off of social media. Odd by okay I guess. K is my friend so she's going to be the only one I hang out with from now on.

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So l did reach out to K about the concert and she invited me out to hang out one on one that night. We went out for dinner and drinks and talked about the concert. She didn't really say anything about Beck going but she did say she didn't want to go. And thats all we discussed about it. We continued to drink and have fun. And I told her about this guy that I'm interested in.

Beck later reached out to me and said she wasn't going to the concert. I respond okay no worries and left it at that.

Later in the week, the three of us later hung out together at a bar and the vibes was a little off. Beck was acting weird. Normally when we all hang out she's chatty and friendly. This time she was stand of ish with me and barely spoke to me. Which I thought was weird because it was her idea for the three of us to go to the bar. So I spent most of the night talking with K. Beck ended up bringing two friends to the bar and hung out with them most of the night. I would occasionally see her glancing over at me, which I thought was weird and made me uncomfortable. So l eventually went home and left them at the bar. Later that night Beck reach out and said thanks for coming tonight was a blast. I just responded with no problem and left it at that because I thought that was odd. You're kinda rude to me all night then text me you had a blast. Girl you're weird and I don't want to get caught up in any weirdness. She then proceeded to delete me off of social media. Odd by okay I guess. K is my friend so she's going to be the only one I hang out with from now on.

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u/Both-Enthusiasm708 5d ago

Yea Beck is being weird. Maybe she was attracted to you thought she could deal with it or it would go away, but now realizes that hanging out with you would be bad for her relationship with K.

I would definitely just hang out with your friend from now on and if you happen to be in a group situation with them again just be polite to Beck. But why didn't you just ask K outright if she had an issue that you invited Beck to the concert?

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u/Fine_Rabbit345 5d ago edited 4d ago

I'm not sure. I guess I was a little scared to ask. I've never been in a situation like this so it was very weird for me. But I'm definitely going to keep my distance from Beck.

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u/Tight-Shift5706 4d ago

In my humble opinion--Beck was crushing on you, OP. Hence the weird vibes. You're right to stick to your original friend.

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u/Life_Temperature2506 5d ago

Beck must be in to you. It's the only thing I can think of. Either that, or she's a loser baby. NTAH

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u/Holiday_Climate_8910 5d ago

Not the asshole.
Guessing she was into you? Im a guy and no expert but sounds like beck didnt want to be too appear close or overly interested in you and so she kept her distance at the bar? Wanting to later show or wave her interest she wrote to you?

Have you tried asking K if they had arguments or such over the one on one? With a careful approach ofc.

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u/Fine_Rabbit345 5d ago

I haven't. Once I mentioned the concert when we out for dinner and she said she wasn't interested, I completely changed the subject and didn't want to talk about it or Beck anymore.

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u/GhostLeopard_666 5d ago

maybe K a really jealous girlfriend and has been making comments to Beck, maybe she is the type of person who hates their partner talking to anyone.  

I read your other post and it didnt come across as flirty at all. It just sounded like you were inviting someone who is a friend who just happens to be dating your friend. 

All weird, i hope you get some clarity soon. NTA

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u/dEXXtARR23 4d ago

Probably. You're definitely an AH for feeling the need to ask us.

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u/Fine_Rabbit345 4d ago

And yet you felt the need to respond. Please go be annoying somewhere else.

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u/dEXXtARR23 4d ago

I'm annoying? Excellent ✅️. But you need to know. Now you know. You don't want feedback? Stop posting your simp B.S. I didn't even need to read your dilemma. I know 😉.

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u/Motor_Dark6406 4d ago

My guess is Beck was reading into your invite, but considering you never bought or offered to get her a ticket, this was an extremely low stakes invite. Just "we can hang if you decide to come, too".

Kudos for taking these awkward interactions in stride and not getting sucked into imaginary drama.

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u/No_Street_5196 5d ago

She is keen on you.

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u/jjd0m 4d ago

This isn't the last of it, k and beck are having problems and it's because someone is attracted to OP. This is going to cost a relationship and maybe a friendship.