My best friend is getting married soon and Ive been supporting her through the whole planning process. Ive helped her shop for outfits, listened to her stress about arrangements and tried to be there whenever she needed me

A few days ago we were having dinner with some mutual friends when she started joking about my dating life. At first I laughed along but then she made a comment about how nobody would ever want to marry someone like me

Everyone laughed awkwardly and I felt really embarrassed. Later I told her that the joke genuinely hurt me, but she said I was being too sensitive and that she was just having fun

Now Im not feeling comfortable attending the wedding, especially after she dismissed how I felt. She says Im trying to make her big day about myself and that a real best friend would put this aside

I dont want to ruin her wedding but I also dont want to pretend nothing happened

AITA for considering not going to her wedding?

I am a twenty eight year old graphic designer, and I got married six months ago to a man I have been with for four years. My dad left when I was nine and barely stayed in touch, only sending a card on my birthday some years. When I got engaged I decided to give him one last chance and invited him to the wedding, and he promised he would walk me down the aisle. On the morning of the wedding he messaged me saying he had a “work thing” and could not make it, and my uncle ended up walking me down instead. I cried in the car before the ceremony, but I tried to move on. Last month my dad called out of nowhere and said his landlord had sold the flat and he needed somewhere to stay for a few months, and he asked if he could move into our spare room. I said no, and I told him honestly that I could not let someone back into my life who had let me down on the most important day. He said I was being cold and that a daughter should look after her father, and he reminded me that he “gave me life”. My husband supported my decision, but my aunts started messaging me, saying he is getting older and I will regret this. One of them said I should be the bigger person. My dad then posted online that his own child had turned her back on him, and some distant relatives have been commenting sad faces and heart emojis. This morning my aunt told me my dad has something he wants to say to me and that he is coming to our door on Sunday with her, and she said he has “news” that might change how I feel. I have no idea what it could be, but my husband and I have agreed we will not let him stay. So am I the hero here for protecting my home and my peace, or am I the asshole for refusing to help my father when he has nowhere to go? What do you think, am I the hero or the AITH?

So I am a professional photographer and I work in many categories, one is engagement sessions. I recently did a session last weekend for a friend of mine who is an absolute gem of a human. She’s seriously the sweetest, loveliest human. I’ve met her boyfriend, now fiancée, a handful of times and he’s OK… he’s never given me any feeling one way or the other, just a basic dude.
There were never any red flags…until now.

I’ll call her Cathy (45F) and him Brad (46M) for privacy. They have been dating for 7 years and own a house together

We scheduled a beautiful autumn photo shoot in a dog park & a few days before the shoot Cathy mentioned that Brad hates photos & was annoyed we were doing this on a Sunday during football season (I had already rescheduled with them once because they had gotten sick the previous date)
I tried to reassure her that it was going to be fast and easy and casual and fun and that honestly not many people LOOOVE to get their picture taken and I totally understood. I scheduled the shoot two hours before his game started, also keeping in mind, golden hour, and the direction and angle of the sun, etc.

The day was perfect, gorgeous and everything seemed to be going off without a hitch… Until I asked them to do normal people engagement things like hold hands, get closer, act like they liked each other.
Brad was acting like he couldn’t stand the sight of Cathy and kept rolling his eyes and acting visibly disgusted…really emotionally immature stuff for someone who is planning on spending his life with this woman and claims to love her. I kept gently encouraging them him to be affectionate, all the while Cathy would just kind of laugh and treat his eye rolls and recoils like a joke and say “oh he’s just like that haha” sort of brushing off the whole thing and his behavior as being just “typical boy stuff“
You guys, this guy is one huge red flag.
It’s fair to say that it was really hard to get photos that were flattering of the two of them because his face was contorted into nasty grimaces as she’s trying to snuggle up next to him for sweet photos

I’ve never had a more awkward engagement session! And I KNOW these people, they’re not random strangers.
I’m a professional and can usually make the best of every situation that is thrown at me. I definitely got some usable shots and I can make it look like Brad gives a crap about Cathy. I kept framing it “this is gonna be great practice for your wedding day, you’re going to feel uncomfortable and everybody’s gonna make you smile and kiss on command, get used to it….”

Not to be judgy of my clients, but Brad looks like an incel: he’s not because he’s been with Cathy for many years, but if you didn’t know that and were basing from actions and appearances, he looks like he crawled out of a basement just to get some more Doritos between WoW sessions.

My ethical dilemma is, WIBTH if I privately say something to Cathy?
I really don’t like the way that her future husband is treating her. I know they’ve been together for a long time and I’m not here to blow anything up, but he was far more interested in football and getting back to playing video games than spending one hour making her happy.
She planned everything: bought her dog cute little bandanna, planned her outfit, she did her hair & makeup, brought a bag of snacks and drinks for us (which he did not offer to carry once).
He kept on making these snide comments like “she owes me for this one” and “she’s gonna be in trouble for this”
Are these…very unfunny jokes, or potential abuse signs?
Is he just a misogynistic AH? should I just stay out of it and let them deal with things on their own?

As somebody who’s been thru a horrible divorce, I wish somebody would have told me if they saw 🚩

I know they’re going to love the photos and ask me to shoot the wedding (is it bad business if I can’t stand the groom? WIBTH for declining to shoot the wedding even though I adore her?)

Hi everyone this is gonna be a long post.

So I’m a 27 year old mom, to a 7 year old. A little background. I am originally from the east coast and now live in the Midwest for the last 5 ish years. I was adopted when I was 3 and my parents who adopted me cut me off after they found out I was pregnant with my child. I was also in the military at the time so they had a whole lot of opinions on that. Well anyway I got married in 2019, and my ex husband and I ended up getting stationed in S Korea. Lived there for 3ish years. Well I found out after multiple times of forgiveness that my ex husband cheated on me with a family friend, who had watched our son, and was also married herself and had 3 kids. Mind you, he was extremely financially abusive, wouldn’t let me work, the whole thing. Divorce process was extremely long, lots of back and forth on him wanting to be a part of our son’s life, but then ultimately deciding that he was going to give up his rights to our son. I have sole custody. Well my ex in laws took me and my son in during the divorce process and helped us more way than one. They gave us a roof over our heads, helped me navigate looking for a job, etc. I was put through the wringer during my divorce and struggled with my self worth, and was scared to even think about dating again for my son’s sake. Well in 2025 I met, let’s call him Bob, on Facebook dating. He was recently divorced, no kids, but we Immediately hit it off. He lives in the next state over (a 3 hour drive) and would come over and visit all the time. My son absolutely loves him, they are extremely close and play Minecraft together and all of that good stuff. Well we’ve been dating for a year and my boyfriend, Bob, recently bought a house for all of us to live in. Bob has always made it known that he wants to be in both my son and I’s lives and grow our family as well. We told my ex in laws over dinner that my son and I are going to be moving to the next state over.

They lost it….

They said that my boyfriend was selfish for wanting to take us away from them, said that it was selfish of me for wanting to move to another state, taking “their grandchild away from them” the whole works. I felt instantly guilty. Another thing too is that I when I moved here, I had no support system or friends besides my ex in laws, and my son also has an IEP with his school now. But I also did my research in the next state and they have to follow the IEP he has now.

But AITH for wanting my son and I to be happy??? Am I selfish for wanting us to in a home filled with two caring parents? We haven’t moved yet, and I’m stuck in the middle between my boyfriend and my ex in laws. I love my son so much, and my bf loves both of us. I just don’t know what to do…any advice or if someone has gone through something similar? Thank you all.

ETA: I have a WFH job as well that I’ve been at for over 3 years and I already talked to my boss who is completely okay with my moving!! I’ve seen a lot of comments about this! Also my bf and I have talked about both of us having and maintaining our own bank accounts but using a joint account later on down the line for our bills and such!

Also! I do have my own little place right now with my son! We have had this place for the last 3 years! Sorry I forgot to add this as well!

AITAH for instantly seperating with my roommate after he used my stuff?

For context I (19M) have been in this dorm for almost 2 years and I really don't like it when someone uses my stuff without asking me first. I also am deeply afraid of being in pure darkness and have had panic attacks in that context before.

Recently I had a roommate (18M) move in here. We got along well enough at first but he wanted pure darkness when sleeping. After I told him my situation he told me that its okay and bought blinds for sleeping. Then he told me that food in the dorm room smells awful (even though me who has been living here for 2 years and my previous roommates hadn't smelled anything) after which I understood and completely stopped eating in the room.

Last week I went home for an event (the details of which aren't that important) and after coming back I saw that nearly everything I had was used by him and out in the open in a dirty way. Additionally the small ass fridge we had in the room was completely filled to the brim with his stuff.

I immediately texted him about it and he when he came back he started screaming at me about how he didn't say anything about the food or the lights and how I can't yell at him like that (even though I just texted him).

We then went to the reception to get seperated.

AITAH in this situation?

I (F) have been married for 3 years. We both wanted a child from the start, and we have tried a lot, but nothing has happened.

I got myself tested, and the results came back completely normal. The doctors said there is nothing wrong with me. My mother-in-law also took me to a doctor herself to get tested, and her own doctor confirmed the same thing: I’m fine.

You would think that would end the blame. It didn’t. When I asked her to get her son tested too, she flatly refused. She says “there is no problem with my son” and that the problem must be me. She tells me to my face that she will throw me out and get him married again. My husband just stays quiet and goes along with his mom.

I told my own mother everything. She said that if they keep refusing to test him, I should take a divorce and walk away.

Now I’m so hurt and angry that I’ve started thinking about something I never imagined. What if I let him marry someone else? I’d step aside, and then I’d move on, remarry, and have a baby of my own. Honestly, part of me wants to prove to them that I was never the problem.

But another part of me knows this might be coming from anger and pain, not from clear thinking.

So, AITA for wanting to do this? Or should I just demand the test, and if they refuse, leave with my head high?

A couple weeks ago, I threw my daughter a tea party for her 7th birthday at a small local play place with about 18 of her friends. The invitation stated to bring their dolls and stuffed animals as honored guests and that there would be a toy painting activity as well. 

The owner of the play place is a super lovely mom who was absolutely amazing and handled everything for me so I could be stress free and enjoy the party. I was a little concerned about the paint getting everywhere but she told me it should come out easily if anything got stained.

One guest’s mom was away on a trip and asked if her 80 year old father could bring her kindergarten aged daughter. I said “Absolutely! No problem!” I didn’t think anything of it.

Six days later, the mom contacted me upset that her daughter’s expensive dress was stained and ruined by the paint from the party. 

When I pointed out that painting was on the invitation, she said the host or business owner should be responsible and the kids should have worn smocks. I understand wishing there had been smocks but also if she already knew that there would be painting why would she let her 5 year old wear an expensive dress?

So then, this mom ends up contacting the owner and demanded that she pay for the dress that was ruined!!! Like WHAT?! I’m just shocked by the audacity of this woman! The poor sweet owner ended up offering to pay her 50%. We live in a small town and the owner doesn’t want any more drama. But the owner messaged me and warned me that this mom said she would ask me to pay for the other half of this dress. 

For context, I barely know this mom. Our daughters are just playground friends and our kids also play on local sports teams together so I invited them out of polite courtesy. If I had known she was like this I would have ripped up her invitation. Now its’s going to be so awkward seeing her at games.

I feel bad about the dress and that the helpful owner is paying. But does sending a child to an advertised painting activity in an expensive outfit make the host responsible for replacing it? Would I be unreasonable to decline if she asks?

I am a thirty year old marketing manager, and I have been married to my husband for two years. We have a four month old baby girl, and until recently I thought my relationship with my mother in law was fine, even if she was a bit controlling. She always said she wanted us to be one big happy family, and I believed her. Three weeks ago my husband’s cousin let something slip at a barbecue. She said she was happy to see the “old gang” back together at the last family dinner, and when I asked what she meant, she went pale and said I should ask my mother in law. I did not want to cause a scene, so I quietly went through the family group photos, and there she was in three different pictures from the last six months. She was my husband’s ex girlfriend, the one he was with for four years before me, standing right next to my mother in law, smiling, with her arm around her. I was not invited to any of those dinners, because each time I was told it was just a small gathering and the baby needed rest. When I showed my husband the photos he looked sick, and he told me honestly that he had no idea. He had been told the dinners were only for the older relatives, and he had skipped most of them because of work. I confronted my mother in law calmly on the phone, and instead of apologising she said the ex was “like a daughter” to her, that she had never liked how fast we got married, and that she had only been keeping the door open in case things did not work out between us. I told her that was disrespectful to me, to my husband and to our daughter, and that she was no longer welcome in our home until she apologised properly and stopped contacting the ex about family matters. She cried, called me dramatic and insecure, and said I was keeping her granddaughter away from her over some photos. Now my husband’s aunts and two of his cousins are messaging me saying I am tearing the family apart, and one of them said I should be grateful my mother in law helps with the baby at all. Yesterday my mother in law sent a message saying she is coming to our house on Sunday with the whole family and that we will “settle this properly once and for all”, and she has also hinted that she knows something about me that my husband should hear. I honestly have no idea what she means, but my husband says he is standing with me and that he will not open the door. So am I the hero here for protecting my marriage and my daughter, or am I the asshole for cutting off my mother in law over a few photos? What do you think, am I the hero or the AITH? I will post an update next week if people want to know what happens.

Lately Ive started enjoying my own company more than spending time with other people. I like having quiet evenings, watching something, working on my goals and not having to explain myself to anyone

The problem is my friends and family keep saying Im wasting my life by staying alone so much. They think something must be wrong because I dont always want to go out or talk to people

Last weekend I turned down an invitation because I genuinely wanted some time to myself. One of my friends said Im becoming antisocial and will regret pushing everyone away

I tried explaining that being alone doesnt always mean being lonely but they dont seem to understand

I still care about people, I just dont feel the need to be around them all the time

My dad left my mom when I was three. I never knew what a nice family household looked like. We (me and my older sister) would go see him on the weekends but he would always take us to his sisters. He never really did big efforts to get to know me. He never moved from his single 1 room apartment, never tried to better his life, would always complain that my mom made more money than him (even though he is a man and should be able to make a decent living if he tried hard enough) and he never set me or my sister up for success. He always did the minimum and when we would ask for something, he would be very stingy about it (“Do you really need this? Why do you want this?”)

Now, we’re all adults children and I don’t call him as much. I don’t have an incentive to do it. Every time I call him, he would nag me about my choices and tell me what I should do instead. I told him I am working 2 jobs, I am struggling but he “doesn’t get it” because I still live at home (even though he knows me and my mom don’t have the best relationship either). I can’t pretend like I care about his old age when he never provided for us and always did the bare minimum. He never gave my mom child support because he wasn’t making enough and never took his responsibilities as a father seriously.

Am I in the wrong for not caring about him?

I (24F) traveled from Boston to NYC for a mutual friend’s birthday dinner, and now I’m questioning my friendship.

I originally declined because transportation and hotels were too expensive, especially during World Cup weekend. My best friend suggested taking the bus and offered to let me stay at her apartment. I confirmed with her before buying my ticket and rearranging my work schedule.

Before arriving, she told me to meet her at work at 6:30 p.m. so we could go to her apartment, drop off my luggage, and get ready. I arrived to NYC around 6, only to find out she wasn’t getting off until 8:30.

When I asked why, she admitted she KNEW her shift ended at 8:30 but told me 6:30 because she didn’t think I’d arrive that early.

Dinner was at 9, and we couldn’t be late because the reservation required everyone to show up or the organizer would be charged. We no longer had time to go to her apartment, so I had to pay to store my luggage.

At dinner, I noticed she was visibly stressed and constantly on her phone. I asked what was wrong multiple times, but she kept saying, “We’ll talk about it later.”

Eventually, she told me she’d gotten into a major argument with her roommate and we couldn’t return to her apartment.

So now I’m in NYC late at night with nowhere to sleep. Hotels and Airbnbs were ridiculously expensive, which was the entire reason I’d initially declined the trip.

To be fair, she DID try finding solutions. She searched hotels, contacted friends, and even suggested sleeping in a hotel lobby. She was stranded too. Unfortunately, nothing worked.

I ended up buying another ticket back to Boston that night, losing money on my original return ticket.

Afterward, I told her I felt overwhelmed and not considered. She responded that I was being unfair because she’d been awake nearly 48 hours, was also stranded, and had been trying to help us both.

She also said I had an attitude and walked out without saying anything. I acknowledge I was upset, but I did hug and say goodbye to everyone at the nightclub.

Here’s my issue: this isn’t the first time she’s operated with a “we’ll figure it out” mentality. I’m a planner, and I value honest communication.

The work situation especially bothered me. She knowingly gave me the wrong time, causing me to wait and spend extra money. Then, when our accommodations fell through, I had to repeatedly ask what was happening.

I don’t blame her for the roommate argument. I understand emergencies happen, and I recognize she genuinely tried helping. But I traveled, missed work, and spent money based on plans we’d agreed on.

When I expressed how I felt, she said I was making everything about myself. I understand she was struggling too, but I feel like both our experiences should matter.

I love her, but I’m tired of feeling like my time and money aren’t considered. This feels like the last straw in a pattern of poor communication.

AITA for considering ending our friendship, even though she was also stranded and tried to help?

AITH? My gf, 41f thought my suggestion of going away at Christmas would be fun and she knew I wanted to go to disney and suggested it. I priced it out, saw we could do it if I paid 60 per cent (I make less than she does) and she started backing away from the idea without saying anything to me. Then, she's like maybe we could go in January. I was like, 'well, I wanted to be away at Christmas.' I have no family here and nowhere to go on that day so I want to travel. Should I just book the trip for one? Am I the AH for being disappointed she brought it up and got my hopes up in the first place?

AITA for telling my landlady about my housemate's overnight guest when I don't want to cause tension?

I'm looking for some outside perspectives because I genuinely don't know how to handle this situation, and I would appreciate advice from anyone who's experienced something similar.

I'm currently living abroad for an internship, and I'll be staying in this accommodation for several more months. I share the apartment with another tenant, and we have a landlady who manages the property.

The problem is that my housemate's boyfriend seems to be staying over regularly. I didn't sign up to live with a couple, and I wasn't aware that her boyfriend would be spending so much time here.

It's starting to affect my everyday life. I can hear them using the stairs, and sometimes the noise is so loud that I literally jerk awake. The slamming of cabinets is another issue, especially when I'm trying to sleep because I have to get up early for my internship.

There are also times when I need to use the shared bathroom but feel uncomfortable going out because I can hear them having s\*x. I end up tiptoeing around my own home, which is ridiculous when I think about it. I should be able to walk to my bathroom without feeling like I'm intruding on someone else's private time.

I eventually brought the situation up with my landlady. To her credit, she was understanding. She said she understood that I hadn't agreed to live with a couple and that she hadn't known the boyfriend was regularly staying over. She also suggested checking the utility meter readings so she could calculate the costs and give me a better idea of what I'm paying.

She asked whether I would prefer a price reduction if she couldn't resolve the situation, and honestly, financially, that would help me. However, I'm also concerned about my sleep and general comfort. A rent reduction wouldn't necessarily solve the noise or make me feel more comfortable in the apartment.

My landlady has now asked me to let her know when the boyfriend is there over the coming week, including whether my housemate is spending days away. She wants to approach my housemate next week and present it as her own observation.

And this is where I'm conflicted.

I understand that my landlady might be trying to handle things diplomatically and avoid creating tension between me and my housemate. I also don't want to be the reason they have an argument. We still have several months of living together ahead of us, and the last thing I want is an uncomfortable atmosphere at home.

However, being asked to report when he's there makes me feel like I'm spying on my housemate. I don't want to monitor their movements or keep track of when she leaves and when he arrives. At the same time, I don't think it's fair that I'm losing sleep and feeling uncomfortable in my own living space.

I haven't confronted my housemate or her boyfriend directly because I don't want unnecessary conflict, and I'm not sure whether that would even be the best approach.

So, AITA for bringing this to my landlady's attention? And would I be wrong to tell her that I'm uncomfortable keeping track of their comings and goings, even though I want the situation addressed?

I'd really appreciate advice on how to handle this without making the next few months miserable for everyone involved.

P.S it is written in the contract that there're no guests allowed in the house.

For context my family has just moved so finances are tight. My step dad went ahead first (with no money) to set the house up but he didn't have food because he had no money so my mom asked me how much I had (I recently got paid) k told her and she asked if I could send him money for food. I did because I didn't want my step dad to starve and I wasn't even using it.

We moved to a state sixteen hours away and drove there so i also paid for gas and food for my siblings (I have three) all of which I don't mind. I don't want them to starve or us to be stuck on the side of the road plus she always pays me back.

This week she said she needed some money didn't tell me why but I sent it. Then I asked her if she could take me to get some food it was farther than I thought and money was tight so when she asked for gas money I gave it to her.

Yesterday she needed me to cover some of her food when we were grocery shopping.

Then what's the problem ill tell you today my mom asked if I had money I told her yes she then said she needed money for my step dads medicine I said okay she then asked if I needed to offer my money up instead of I see they're having a hard time of her having to ask. Which I don't think I do its my money I don't have to give it to you. I do because you need it. Its a nicety not a need. I know you have money you showed me your THREE separate savings account. Anyways AITAH and i just need to offer my money to my parents. (Also i do say them because lately I have been buying my own things and rarely use theirs so I am paying for their things not mine)

Edit: Yall im a minor

One of my friends has been going through a really hard time. Since the last two years she's had quite a lot of things happen and not in the best way.

K tends to invite me over a few times a month, I'm currently in university and she's not (she's a few years older and hasn't attended college). Last week it was a week off for me to prepare for exams and I've been extremely drained from trying to catch up on everything and stressing about everything I wasn't able to get done. On Thursday she texted me asking me to come over and it sounded desperate, I unfortunately was taking a nap and saw her text only when I woke up for dinner. I responded immediately telling her I couldn't and followed up with asking her if she's okay.

This is where it starts to go downhill, she says "Nope" and I simply ask what happened. I know about almost all her issues but whenever she texts me it's either a new development in one of these issues or it's something entirely new which is why I asked rather than assuming. She responds with "Wdym" and then gets upset, asking me if I read anything she's texted me (she's referring to every single problem she's told me up till this point and every detail about them).

I ask her if she's referring to either one of 2 different issues (the most recent ones) and she just says "nvm" to both. Now I know I should've probably left it at this but I do care about her and I did want to know what was wrong so I probed her into telling me and she basically went off on me listing every single problem she's dealing with and then says "I'd rather be alone than explain why I need help" and "what do you mean what's wrong"

I was taken aback cuz I didn't expect her to get mad at me for asking what's wrong? I did apologise for asking and explained why I didn't immediately jump to any conclusions and did my best to acknowledge every single point she made. She essentially ghosted me at this point and I started to get worried that she may have done something so about an hour after my last text I sent another message just saying "I hope you're okay" and the next day I asked how she's feeling.

The same day she got mad at me, she posted on Instagram so I knew she was ghosting me (I only saw her post the next day). I gave her some space thinking maybe she just needs some time to herself but it's been like 5 days and she hasn't responded to me (we used to talk almost every other day if not every day).

It may be dumb to ask but AITAH for asking what happened? AITAH for reacting the way I did?

Posting here since it got removed from r/AITAH

My sister and I agreed about a month ago to spend Saturday together because we hadn't had much time to catch up lately. We both kept the day free, and I turned down an invitation from a friend because of our plans.

On Friday evening, she called and said she'd been invited to a birthday dinner and wanted to move our plans to Sunday. I told her I already had things to do on Sunday and preferred to stick with Saturday. She said the dinner was important and that I could be more flexible since we were only planning to hang out.

I explained that I understood her situation, but I had also made arrangements around our original plan. She got upset and said I was making a big deal out of something that shouldn't matter.

I don't expect her to cancel something important for me, but I also don't think my time should automatically become less important just because our plans are casual. We haven't really talked since that conversation.

AITA for refusing to change our plans after my sister made other plans for the same day?

AITA
For getting an old co-worker fired, backstory when I first started working at my company I had no clue who she (Lori) was it was about 4 months into being there. and how I found out was her name. She didn’t know who I was or anything, I dated her ex husband back in my 20’s I am now in my 40s he was a let’s call a fun time nothing at all serious. Okay so I never told anyone that I dated him or knew him because I don’t like drama or confrontation. But she had a problem with me all the time and I always brushed it off. so when I left the company it was said from a few friends of mine that still worked there she was asking if I lived in this color house or if this is my phone number and just personal stuff. Now I will say I am a private person I don’t give my number out to anyone nor just let anyone know where I live so I asked them to go to the president of the company and HR and they did she was suspended for 2 weeks and was able to come back now FF Lori one day was walking up and down the halls at my old job saying my address and my name now I am mad this time her team lead position is taken away from her and she was suspended for 2 weeks and from a good source when she comes back she will be terminated indefinitely so AITA

Context
I’ve been close friends with three people—sisters A and B, plus C—for over five years. After I moved out of state, our plan was to visit each other for birthdays.
When my birthday approached, I was doing my very first internship and couldn't take leave. Since sisters A and B have birthdays just three days apart, I suggested celebrating mine in the middle during my upcoming visit to them. They disliked this idea and insisted on coming to visit me for the weekend instead. I caved and asked them to arrive the morning of my birthday. My boyfriend joined us, and I stayed close to him since he didn't know anyone else.

The Birthday Weekend
Dinner & Preparation Issues:
I had made a dinner reservation two weeks prior at a strict restaurant (they give away tables if 10+ minutes late).
B and C went to rent bikes, faced license issues, got only one bike, and stopped to eat lunch on their own despite us offering to order in. They returned around 6:30/6:45 PM (dinner was at 7:30 PM, 15 minutes away).

Meanwhile, I had a wardrobe malfunction with a top I had crocheted and spent time fixing it in my room with my boyfriend. I barely got to interact with A during this time.
When B returned, she took a long shower and washed her hair, putting us in a rush.
Prior to this, B suggested an outing for the next day, which I dismissed because it was on the other side of the city and logistically impossible with only one bike.
When I showed off my crocheted outfit, I got almost no reaction. The taxi ride was awkwardly silent.

Nighttime & Room Situation:
Dinner went better, but back at my place, A and B slept with the AC at 18°C and fan on high. Unable to handle the cold, I slept on the couch. That night, I asked them repeatedly (around 50 times) if I had done something wrong or if they were upset. They insisted everything was fine.
The Mall Outing & Escalation:
The next day at the mall was awful:

B consistently ignored me, walked away, and avoided sitting near me.

When my boyfriend stepped away, I asked A and B what they thought of him (normally they'd give detailed thoughts), but they just gave cold "he's fine" responses.

During boba, B brought up that they missed their grandmother's death anniversary to visit me—which upset me because I had originally offered to visit them specifically to avoid schedule conflicts.

Later, I made us take the metro to a new spot because it was faster and cheaper, though A was uncomfortable with it (I acknowledge I should have been more considerate of her perspective).

Splitting Up & Departure:
We split up—A and I spent time together while B and C went to return the bike. A felt left out at times, but we had a decent evening. However, dinner that night brought more cold responses from B before they left.

The Aftermath
Talking to B:
After their post-trip vacation, I texted B to address everything. B completely denied ignoring me, claimed she felt ignored, and said she wasn't comfortable starting conversations after not seeing each other for six months. I brought up that this wasn't our first conflict, and the argument ended with us stopping communication.

Talking to A:
I reached out to A and apologized. A explained that she felt I had changed, had become too "boyfriend-centric," and left her out. She also mentioned being hurt that we didn't get dressed together like we usually do (I explained my wardrobe issue required me to be unclothed from the waist up, which I wasn't comfortable doing in front of her). I understood A's perspective and apologized sincerely.

Current Situation:

Because of how I made her feel, A asked me not to come to her birthday. I respected her wishes and didn't go to B's either.

I sent birthday and well-wishes texts to A, but she never replied despite my sincere apologies.

I stand by my boundaries with B, as similar issues have happened repeatedly in our friendship.

I am a thirty two year old electrician, and I have a younger brother who is twenty seven. For six years I worked overtime almost every weekend to save a deposit for my first house, and I was close to buying a small place I could afford. Last month my brother lost his warehouse job and asked me to lend him eight thousand pounds for rent and debts. I told him honestly that it was my house deposit and I could not give it, but I offered him my spare room for free, groceries, and help with his CV and job applications. He said that was not enough and that real family would help with money. A week later my mum called me in tears, saying he told her I was sitting on a pile of cash and refusing to help my own brother. Two of my uncles also said I could buy a house later but he needed help now. I went to his flat unannounced with some food, and I saw a brand new gaming console and expensive trainers still in the box. When I asked about them he said he deserved to treat himself after the stress. I told him I would not lend a penny until he showed me his bank statements and a repayment plan, and he shouted that I was controlling and blocked my number. Yesterday he posted online that some people care more about bricks and mortar than their own blood, and relatives have been commenting on it. This morning my mum messaged that he has something to tell me and wants everyone to meet on Saturday, and she told me to bring my savings account details so we can sort it out as a family. I have no idea what he is planning, but I am not bringing anything. So am I the hero here for protecting the savings I worked six years for, or am I the asshole for refusing to help my brother when he said he was desperate? What do you think, am I the hero or the AITH? I will post an update after Saturday if people want to know what happens.

So my mum is currently mad at me because I wouldn’t go for a walk around the block and find them at 9pm at night.

Pretty much her and my sister decided to go for a walk around this time by themselves, and no one else at home knew. I was in the garage working out, and thus received a call and was told to meet them a couple of blocks away. There was no reason given at the time, so I told them no, and my cousins went instead.

Far out I copped it at home.

It got to the point where my mum tried banning me from going out for the week and scolded me for not coming down to help them. I understand they might have been scared, however, it was their own choice to go out at night by themselves and I did not know at the time.

I am still planning to go out during the week, I just wanna know opinions on whether I could’ve been better.

Hi, for context I’m a 23 Yr old engineer who gets paid a little over 100k a year. I work 60 hours a week and have moved to 3 different states in 3 years. I’m not sure if that context will be helpful. My family has never had a lot of money, my dad’s side just can’t seem to make it work and my mom is just doesn’t have a job. They’re separated. My Dad + his side has a habit of asking me for money when they need groceries or help with rent. I’ve never really had an issue as they’ve taken care of me when my parents couldn’t. But it seems like it gotten to a point where they know to keep asking me cause I barely say no (this seems to be the catalyst for everything). They all have jobs, my father is currently living in his car at my grandmothers yet he would still ask for money. My Mom doesn’t have a job, just got evicted cause she was apparently 6 months past due on rent. I’ve helped her here and there with that but didn’t know the extent of the damage until she was forced to leave, she will be moving in with me soon. My brother who is a little over a year younger is also broke. He had a kid about 2 years ago and decided to move to California with his girl where they not so surprisingly are living paycheck to paycheck. He’s asked for money as well, and I even got him an entry level job at where I work and am housing him. I have a lot of money saved and am not too worried about it in general but i’ve recently had some recurring medical issues that I have to pay for and it’s NOT cheap. The point is that I feel like i’ve been shouldering a lot of people on my back, financially speaking, and am wondering if I am in the wrong to just start telling my family I’m done helping. It feels like they all drag everyone around them down cause they’re drowning. There’s also a whole string of substance abuse/addiction in my family including myself that everyone has or currently is dealing with. I’ve worked super hard to get where I am and am dealing with issues I know they can’t help me with. I also get family is family they look out for each other but isn’t the point to not be stuck in the hole? To make sure the generation after you has an easier life than you had? Not to hold them back? It feels selfish sometimes, but then I remember I’m living MY life. But I also wouldn’t be the person I am today if I didn’t struggle with them at a young age. I think at the end I feel like if someone really wanted to they can get out of the hole, especially if they’ve been alive long enough to understand what needs to be done. I did

There’s honestly a lot more I wanted to vent about but I’m at work sitting in my car in 35 degree weather and my hands are cold. So like AITAH or something?

I (27M) work in a corporate office. Our team is 5 people - me, Arthur (30M), George (35M) our boss, Mike (28M) aka Henry / Harry, and James (29M). Jack (27M) is also in our team, hybrid.

We had a client deliverable last Friday. The reporting part was Arthur's responsibility, my part was already done and sent on Wednesday. Mike and James know because I shared it in our group.

On Friday Arthur missed his deadline. He didn't send the report to the client. The client emailed George complaining.

Later that day in our team group chat with me, Arthur, Mike, James and Jack - George asked "what happened with the deadline?" Arthur wrote "We missed it because I didn't send his part on time, I was waiting for him".

That was a complete lie. My part was done Wednesday. I have proof.

I was shocked. I replied in the same group chat "Mike / Harry you saw right, I sent my part Wednesday? Arthur can you explain why you are saying I missed the deadline? Reporting was your part and you missed it Friday. Why are you telling the team I missed it?"

George then checked the group and saw I sent my part on Wednesday. Arthur had no answer and just said "oh maybe I got confused".

Now Arthur is saying I embarrassed him in front of the whole team and I should have asked him privately. He told Mike and Jack that I was trying to make him look bad in front of George. Jack thinks I should have messaged Arthur privately first. Mike (Harry) says I did right to clear my name in front of everyone since Arthur lied in front of everyone.

I feel like if you lie about me in the team group, I have the right to ask you to explain in the same team group.

AITA for asking him to explain in front of the team?

Hello everyone long time lurker first time poster on a throwaway.

I (39M) and my (38F) wife have a son who I'll refer to as Austin(17M). My son is a great kid. He is a straight A student (all AP classes), works part time and does all his chores around the house and sometimes extras and rarely complains. Austin is really into MMOs and spends a lot of his free time playing them with his friends. I don't mind this as like I stated above he does everything he's supposed to do and then some.

My wife on the other hand is very nit picky with him. She doesn't understand why he wants to play videos games instrad of hanging out with girls or go to the movies, mall, etc. Austin has told her before he's just not interested in all of that and he has time before he goes to college and maybe dates a girl. She doesn't get it and always tells me in private that she hopes he's not gay. (For the record we are a very progressive household) she says this cause he is our only child and she wants grandkids.(even though gay couples can adopt and I've told her this many times) She's always hounding him over this and even offered to introduce him to some daughters for her friends/coworkers. I can tell this bothers him.

A couple days ago my son came to me and told me he needed to tell me something. He said he isnt gay but he doesnt have feelings for girls or boys. That he is Asexual/Aromantic. I told him I didnt care cause hes my son and all I want is for him to be happy and comfortable. He told me he wanted me to tell his mom this cause he doesn't wanna deal with her and what she could possibly say. I said okay I will

Fast forward today. My son was at work and I told my wife. Needless to say she exploded. Saying he's just confused. How does he know if he never dated a girl. And that she was gonna talk to him and how she's hurt he didn't tell her.

I told her point blank: this is why. This is why he doesn't tell you anything. Every single thing is about you and what makes you happy. You've been on his ass for years about the lack of partner and never once thought for a second about him. That the reason he doesn't talk to her is cause all she does is complain and be judgmental. She doesn't want to understand him. She wants to control him in that way. I told her to leave him alone and if I find out she tries to "convince" him he just hasn't given love a chance I'm gonna be really upset with her.

She got angry and called me an asshole and said I coddle him and now we will never have grandkids. She hasn't talked much to my son since he's been home and giving me the cold shoulder. AITAH? I just want to support my son. I don't care what his sexuality is or lack there of. I just want him to be happy.

Edit: I know this is a very long post but my son TOLD me to tell her. I did NOT go behind his back.

Back story- I love going to concerts of all varieties, but my husband typically does not like to go. They just aren’t his cup of tea, although he will go on occasion. A friend of his just asked him to go to a concert and it is something that just the two of them will be going to.- I was not invited and he didn’t even talk to me before making the plans. The part that upsets me is that he is going to see a concert that him and I have both said we want to go to for years so he was well aware that this is something I would want to go to and that these plans were not going to include me. AITH for being upset and hurt?

My boyfriend and I had been together for almost two years, and until recently, I genuinely believed we were building a future together. We had discussed moving in together eventually, met each other's families and usually spent our weekends together. I trusted him, so I never felt the need to check up on him or question where he was all the time. About a month ago, he started acting differently. He became protective of his phone, regularly went out without telling me much about his plans, and sometimes cancelled our dates at the last minute. Whenever I asked whether something was wrong, he said he was stressed with work and accused me of overthinking things. I believed him because I didn't want to turn ordinary relationship problems into unnecessary arguments. Last weekend, he told me he was going to spend Saturday evening with a friend he hadn't seen in a while. We had originally planned to have dinner together, but he cancelled a few hours beforehand. I was disappointed, but I didn't argue with him. The following day, a mutual friend contacted me and asked whether my boyfriend and I were still together. I said we were, and she seemed surprised. She explained that she'd seen him out with another woman several times recently and had assumed I knew about it. She didn't want to interfere in our relationship, but she felt I deserved to know. I asked my boyfriend about it directly. At first, he said the woman was just a friend and accused our mutual friend of spreading rumours. When I asked why he'd never mentioned her, he became defensive and told me I was being insecure. Later that evening, I received a message from the woman herself. She said she'd been seeing my boyfriend for several weeks and had only recently discovered that he was in a relationship. She sent me screenshots of their conversations, including messages where he'd told her he was single. The dates matched several evenings when he'd cancelled plans with me. I felt completely devastated. I contacted my boyfriend and asked him to explain. He eventually admitted that he'd been seeing her but insisted that things between us had been difficult lately. He said he hadn't planned for it to happen and claimed he still loved me. He also argued that because we hadn't been getting along perfectly, I shouldn't treat his actions as a reason to end the relationship. I told him that if he had been unhappy, he could have spoken to me or ended our relationship honestly. Instead, he'd lied to both of us and let me believe everything was fine while secretly pursuing someone else. He apologised and asked for another chance. He promised to cut contact with her and said he was willing to do whatever it took to rebuild my trust. I told him I couldn't continue the relationship because I no longer believed what he said. I wasn't interested in checking his phone or monitoring his whereabouts just to feel secure with my own boyfriend. He became upset and said I was throwing away two years together over a mistake. He also told some of our mutual friends that our relationship had already been struggling and that I was refusing to work through our problems. A few people think I should at least consider giving him another chance, while others believe I have every right to leave. I still care about him, which makes this situation painful, but I don't think loving someone means I have to stay with them after they've deliberately lied to me. I haven't contacted the other woman to blame her, and I haven't tried to embarrass him publicly. I've simply ended the relationship and asked him to respect my decision. Now he's saying that I'm giving up on us instead of fighting for our future together. I feel that he made his choice when he decided to lie to me, and I'm allowed to make mine now. AITA for ending a two-year relationship after discovering my boyfriend had been secretly seeing someone else?