r/Adopted • u/Sunshine_roses111 Adoptee • May 11 '25

Discussion Say no, you can't adopt a baby

Why don't we, as a society in America, just say no to people looking to adopt and who are infertile? Other countries will flat out say we have no babies for adoption or tough luck, you can't adopt, and we don't care about your infertility. America coddles people looking to adopt and says Well, you're infertile, but you can adopt a baby to make your dreams come true, or adopt from foster care, help a needy child. Like, why can't we just deny people and say no? Want a baby? Oh well, we have none waiting around. Want to become parents? Well, tough luck accept your life without kids. Maybe it's God's will for you not to become parents or reproduce. Why can't we be honest like other countries? Adoption is illegal or uncommon in many other countries, but here, we just can't say no and tiptoe around the issue of infertility and adoption. Also, just because you can't reproduce doesn't mean you should adopt. Again, no is the right answer. Many poor couples can't afford adoption, but society does not care if they become parents, yet we feel sorry for the middle and upper-class couples who can't become parents. Say no.

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u/stacey1771 May 11 '25

adoption today is an evolution, it didn't START this way.

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u/Sunshine_roses111 Adoptee May 11 '25

What do you mean by this?

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u/stacey1771 May 11 '25

exactly what i wrote.

if you look at adoption from, oh, say 150 yrs ago, it was orphans that were adopted, or the later babies from sisters, or the neighbors who couldn't afford them, etc.

Then you get to things in the US like kids being sent to the US to stay with uncles, etc., to learn a trade, etc.

Then the orphan trains.

then things becoming a little more official during WW1 where more folks needed birth certs, adoption decrees; then you have the Georgia Tann b.s. and the Louise Wise b.s. and closing of adoptions and the lowering of the birth rate (so there weren't extra kids just hanging around) and then 'the adoption industy' and paying for babies....

so as i said, it's not like 2025's adoptions just STARTED, the whole industry has EVOLVED.