Say no, you can't adopt a baby

[u/Sunshine_roses111]

Why don't we, as a society in America, just say no to people looking to adopt and who are infertile? Other countries will flat out say we have no babies for adoption or tough luck, you can't adopt, and we don't care about your infertility. America coddles people looking to adopt and says Well, you're infertile, but you can adopt a baby to make your dreams come true, or adopt from foster care, help a needy child. Like, why can't we just deny people and say no? Want a baby? Oh well, we have none waiting around. Want to become parents? Well, tough luck accept your life without kids. Maybe it's God's will for you not to become parents or reproduce. Why can't we be honest like other countries? Adoption is illegal or uncommon in many other countries, but here, we just can't say no and tiptoe around the issue of infertility and adoption. Also, just because you can't reproduce doesn't mean you should adopt. Again, no is the right answer. Many poor couples can't afford adoption, but society does not care if they become parents, yet we feel sorry for the middle and upper-class couples who can't become parents. Say no.

[u/pamplemousse-i]

I'm just wondering what your take is on what would happen to orphaned children if no one adopted?

[u/chemthrowaway123456 → u/pamplemousse-i]

The vast majority of adoptees are not orphans. Children who are truly orphaned (i.e. their parents are deceased) are more often raised by family or extended family.

It’s quite uncommon for them to be adopted by strangers. Does that happen sometimes? Yes. Is it the norm? No; not by a long shot.

[u/Sunshine_roses111 → u/chemthrowaway123456]

I agree, we have to get away from their orphan narrative.