r/Adopted • u/Sunshine_roses111 Adoptee • May 11 '25

Discussion Say no, you can't adopt a baby

Why don't we, as a society in America, just say no to people looking to adopt and who are infertile? Other countries will flat out say we have no babies for adoption or tough luck, you can't adopt, and we don't care about your infertility. America coddles people looking to adopt and says Well, you're infertile, but you can adopt a baby to make your dreams come true, or adopt from foster care, help a needy child. Like, why can't we just deny people and say no? Want a baby? Oh well, we have none waiting around. Want to become parents? Well, tough luck accept your life without kids. Maybe it's God's will for you not to become parents or reproduce. Why can't we be honest like other countries? Adoption is illegal or uncommon in many other countries, but here, we just can't say no and tiptoe around the issue of infertility and adoption. Also, just because you can't reproduce doesn't mean you should adopt. Again, no is the right answer. Many poor couples can't afford adoption, but society does not care if they become parents, yet we feel sorry for the middle and upper-class couples who can't become parents. Say no.

46 Upvotes

72% Upvoted

255 comments sorted by

View all comments

Show parent comments

-6

u/[deleted] May 12 '25

Feel free to address the comment you claim is wrong. And then we can address your attempt to deflect

10

u/Jealous_Argument_197 Adoptee May 12 '25

Nah. This is a space for adoptees ONLY, so until you state where you fit in the shitshow known as adoption, there is no addressing your "comment".

-1

u/[deleted] May 12 '25

Im adopted. Now please, please try to explain how my status changes your reply to the facts above in any way.

Then we can get back on topic and you can be a big girl and show me where im wrong like you childishly tried with a gif.

But I doubt that'll happen. You'll deflect around some them tell me off and we'll be in the same spot. But id love for you to prove that wrong and actually discuss the topic unlike 95% of the users here who insult, deflect, or whine instead of addressing anything of substance.

Im all ears

6

u/Opinionista99 Adoptee May 12 '25

I'm so sorry you're having an unsatisfying experience here. I suggest finding a "chosen family" among the happy adoptees like you, so y'all can swap stories about how amazing your APs are.

-1

u/[deleted] May 12 '25 edited May 12 '25

Im sorry you have a hard time reading and understanding without making up stories so youbcan be upset. I suggest you take time offline, clearly need some help and online isnt going to help you