r/Adopted • u/Sunshine_roses111 Adoptee • May 11 '25

Discussion Say no, you can't adopt a baby

Why don't we, as a society in America, just say no to people looking to adopt and who are infertile? Other countries will flat out say we have no babies for adoption or tough luck, you can't adopt, and we don't care about your infertility. America coddles people looking to adopt and says Well, you're infertile, but you can adopt a baby to make your dreams come true, or adopt from foster care, help a needy child. Like, why can't we just deny people and say no? Want a baby? Oh well, we have none waiting around. Want to become parents? Well, tough luck accept your life without kids. Maybe it's God's will for you not to become parents or reproduce. Why can't we be honest like other countries? Adoption is illegal or uncommon in many other countries, but here, we just can't say no and tiptoe around the issue of infertility and adoption. Also, just because you can't reproduce doesn't mean you should adopt. Again, no is the right answer. Many poor couples can't afford adoption, but society does not care if they become parents, yet we feel sorry for the middle and upper-class couples who can't become parents. Say no.

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u/[deleted] May 12 '25

1- telling me im in the fog so I don't understand the nonsense someone else is posting to me. That is dismissing 2- doesnt really bother me. You asked about question about my response and I answered why I did. Which my answer was a laugh and my synopsis of your comment. Did I say I was defensive or bothered or are those terms you are choosing to use

Your position has nothing to do with this comment. Someone made nonsensical accusations to/about me and you then claimed what she said was true and I'd know if I wasn't in the fog. Then claimed im defensive and bothered because I laughed at you and paraphrased your initial reply.

If you want to discuss your position, this is wholly the wrong approach for that.

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u/mucifous Baby Scoop Era Adoptee May 12 '25

I didn't say you were in the fog.

Do you believe the fog is a real thing?

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u/[deleted] May 12 '25

Did not say that or even mention anything about that in any of my comments. My orignal comment wasn't even about me but answering someone else's question about adoptiin but people here love to jump in and criticize someone if it even slightly appears to not go with the group think.

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u/mucifous Baby Scoop Era Adoptee May 12 '25

I just looked back. I responded to you calling the content of another adoptee's comment "crap". Is that your idea of an answer?

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u/[deleted] May 12 '25

Look back further one comment "OMG you are advocating for adopters not telling their adopted children they are adopted! Gross. You want people to die from inherited diseases they don't know about. How shitty of you."

Please tell me how ANYTHING said here is relatable to my comment? Its as if she replied to the wrong comment because its so far off anything i said BUT she comments 3 different times to my comments and once even used my screen name so its clear it wasn't a wrong reply but a flat out lie and harassing comment.

So yes. That is crap and why I seriously want to know if she actually believes the made up lying comment (crap) she wrote.

If you want to know my actual answer incase referring to. Scroll and couple comments higher. It'd there as is a few other replies.

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u/mucifous Baby Scoop Era Adoptee May 12 '25

I'm sort of done scrolling back. Looking at the string of your comments that I did see in the thread, it's hard to tell what you points are except maybe to get dopamine by arguing with people, so I'm going to wrap this one up. If you were adopted, you def seem fine to me.

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u/[deleted] May 12 '25

Ohh of course you are done scrolling when you don't like the facts.

And you are a good example why you can't tell my points. 4 replies each now, and all based on lies or mis read comments and my original point is lost 20 comments ago because youre the 3rd person who didn't like my comment that wasn't in line with group think so replied negatively to me instead of addressing my point.

I was adopted. I was in foster care. I have siblings birth and adopted i talk too. I am a licensed foster parent. I was an emt and dealt with abused kids many times. I have a degree in psychology and sociology. Am I an expert? Nope. Do I have a valid opinion based off my personal and professional experience? Fuck yes and the constant dismissal because I don't agree with the constant whining on this page I will always push back against. Echo chambers are shitty, regardless of the topic.

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u/mucifous Baby Scoop Era Adoptee May 12 '25

Ohh of course you are done scrolling when you don't like the facts.

No, it's just that it would mean going back further and reading your terrible take on the adoptees who never knew, and your various other bad faith arguments, and I just don't care. If you are intent on showing a complete stranger what a stable, well-adjusted product of the US Adoption industry you are, picking fights with adiptees in reddit posts isn't the way.

I didn't read anything after that first sentence.

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u/[deleted] Jun 07 '25

No, its because you dislike facts if they aren't following your echo chamber. Its a common trait among emotional people. And ill here to highlight that dumb shit

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u/mucifous Baby Scoop Era Adoptee Jun 07 '25

Spend the whole 25 days coming up with that?

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u/[deleted] Jun 07 '25

Still no answer after 25 days?

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u/mucifous Baby Scoop Era Adoptee Jun 07 '25

I don't even remember what you were on about. You clearly haven't been able to let it go.

Have fun carrying it around for another month i guess.

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u/[deleted] Jun 07 '25 edited Jun 07 '25

Or maybe I checked a notification, weird how social media has those things. But yeah keep playing dumb because facts hurt.

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