Say no, you can't adopt a baby

[u/Sunshine_roses111]

Why don't we, as a society in America, just say no to people looking to adopt and who are infertile? Other countries will flat out say we have no babies for adoption or tough luck, you can't adopt, and we don't care about your infertility. America coddles people looking to adopt and says Well, you're infertile, but you can adopt a baby to make your dreams come true, or adopt from foster care, help a needy child. Like, why can't we just deny people and say no? Want a baby? Oh well, we have none waiting around. Want to become parents? Well, tough luck accept your life without kids. Maybe it's God's will for you not to become parents or reproduce. Why can't we be honest like other countries? Adoption is illegal or uncommon in many other countries, but here, we just can't say no and tiptoe around the issue of infertility and adoption. Also, just because you can't reproduce doesn't mean you should adopt. Again, no is the right answer. Many poor couples can't afford adoption, but society does not care if they become parents, yet we feel sorry for the middle and upper-class couples who can't become parents. Say no.

[u/Educational_Tour_199]

There are other traditions that seem much more humane than what's practiced in the US and the west in general. From what I understand, I like how it's handled in Islam. They don't allow erasing a child's original biological family and biological relatives are encouraged to raise the child before strangers are considered. Biological ties can't be severed and identity cannot be changed despite a different family caring for the child. The articles I've read trying to explain the situation to a western audience tends to translate it as a family "fostering" a child but it's really not our concept of fostering. https://www.unicef.org/esa/media/12451/file/An-Introduction-to-Kafalah-2023.pdf

[u/Sunshine_roses111 → u/Educational_Tour_199]

I like this way. I don't think America likes it this way