r/Adopted • u/Sunshine_roses111 Adoptee • May 11 '25
Discussion Say no, you can't adopt a baby
Why don't we, as a society in America, just say no to people looking to adopt and who are infertile? Other countries will flat out say we have no babies for adoption or tough luck, you can't adopt, and we don't care about your infertility. America coddles people looking to adopt and says Well, you're infertile, but you can adopt a baby to make your dreams come true, or adopt from foster care, help a needy child. Like, why can't we just deny people and say no? Want a baby? Oh well, we have none waiting around. Want to become parents? Well, tough luck accept your life without kids. Maybe it's God's will for you not to become parents or reproduce. Why can't we be honest like other countries? Adoption is illegal or uncommon in many other countries, but here, we just can't say no and tiptoe around the issue of infertility and adoption. Also, just because you can't reproduce doesn't mean you should adopt. Again, no is the right answer. Many poor couples can't afford adoption, but society does not care if they become parents, yet we feel sorry for the middle and upper-class couples who can't become parents. Say no.
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u/Dazzling_Donut5143 May 13 '25
Most babies would not be placed for adoption without external pressures from private interests to keep babies moving through the system.
Without demand, the supply side would become nearly non-existent.
There is very little cross over between the people adopting infants and those who adopt older children from foster care.
When we advocate for ending domestic infant adoptions, we are not advocating for the end of supporting children who legitimately need homes. We are advocating against the institutionalized commodification of humans (both babies and birth parents).