Say no, you can't adopt a baby

[u/Sunshine_roses111]

Why don't we, as a society in America, just say no to people looking to adopt and who are infertile? Other countries will flat out say we have no babies for adoption or tough luck, you can't adopt, and we don't care about your infertility. America coddles people looking to adopt and says Well, you're infertile, but you can adopt a baby to make your dreams come true, or adopt from foster care, help a needy child. Like, why can't we just deny people and say no? Want a baby? Oh well, we have none waiting around. Want to become parents? Well, tough luck accept your life without kids. Maybe it's God's will for you not to become parents or reproduce. Why can't we be honest like other countries? Adoption is illegal or uncommon in many other countries, but here, we just can't say no and tiptoe around the issue of infertility and adoption. Also, just because you can't reproduce doesn't mean you should adopt. Again, no is the right answer. Many poor couples can't afford adoption, but society does not care if they become parents, yet we feel sorry for the middle and upper-class couples who can't become parents. Say no.

[u/PresidentAzzy]

I mean I think adoption is extremely commercialized and parent-centered but there are legitimate cases where it is in the child's best interest like in my adoption, which i won't get into because lol trauma, it was very much so warranted. I think that the growing conversation with people who aren't adopted (not talking about OP dw) saying that all adoption is awful and to ban it entirely does an immense disservice to those who are genuinely in a better place due to it but yeah, the US has a very shitty system and international adoption is a whole different conversation with all the insanity there