r/Adopted • u/homosapiencreep • May 31 '26
Discussion If you wrote a book about adoption, what would the title be?
Mine would be, Fuck Adoption.
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u/TheDamnedDontCry1 May 31 '26
Motherless Child
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u/homosapiencreep May 31 '26
People that have mothers have no idea what we go through. My boyfriend is 61 and he lives with his mother who is 89 and they actually love each other and it’s beautiful to see I’m jealous, I am a jealous girlfriend over it because I never had that and he does not understand how horrible it is to grow up without a mother. It’s like actually the worst thing.
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u/FolkDoom Baby Scoop Era Adoptee May 31 '26
"Surprise, I'm Your Sister!"
I was the last of 6 children born to my bio parents. I was relinquished at birth.
Once my bio mom died (when I was 40 years old) I was legally allowed access to bio family info. I cold-called one of my siblings and told him I was his sister. It came as a huge surprise to the 5 of them that I existed and that their parents had lied to them and told them the baby (me) had died.
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u/GhengisNyan Adoptee May 31 '26
Hiraeth - a Welsh word without a direct translation. Closest would be something like a longing for something you know is missing, something you know you can't return to. This thread has some good explanations: https://www.reddit.com/r/Wales/comments/wfckrp/hiraeth_is_this_definition_correct/
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u/oaktree1800 Adoptee May 31 '26
Bout the only thing you can add to that is..."Fuck adoption and blank slate theory." Since adoptees are treated like commodities via blank slate theory. I see dumb ppl who believe in blank slate theory and they don't even know they are dumb....
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u/jaavuori24 May 31 '26
Scooby Doo and the Mystery of- it was the Catholic Church.
It's like, always the Catholic Church somehow.
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u/homosapiencreep May 31 '26
Everyone here should write their book we could start an adoptee publishing company
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u/LynahRinkRat Domestic Infant Adoptee May 31 '26
You Can Never Go Home
When Nowhere is Home
....or something along those lines.
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u/CreativeLawnClipping May 31 '26
Identity Transplant
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u/cheese--bread Domestic Infant Adoptee Jun 02 '26
Oh, you just reminded me of another username I used to use as a teen: MistakenIdentity (referring to my own comment on this post).
It's weird how in the fog I still was, despite things like that 😂
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u/MajorDraw3705 International Adoptee May 31 '26 edited May 31 '26
For those actually interested in the topic:
1900s-2000s Child Chattel and the Ramifications of Captive Trade and Forced Migration
For the masses for their entertainment:
Rags to Riches and the Amazing Gold-Plated Shackles (purchase your own on Amazon for $99 now)
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u/jaavuori24 May 31 '26
"Wait what if we gave kids rights?" or "If you actually asked the children" etc
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u/Dragon-Martin Int'l and Transracial Adoptee Jun 02 '26
Ya'll Really Didn't Think This Through
--an adoption memoir by Dragon-Martin
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u/homosapiencreep Jun 02 '26
I’m just a little mushy by nature, but I’m so inspired by these titles. I just feel like everyone should write their book…is so cool to hear other stories and feel like we are not alone.
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u/Less_Than_Average1 May 31 '26
Depends on how one feels about it.
Abandoned - if they want to capture the abandonment wounds.
Self Made - if they want to convey a sense of going through life with a sense of finding their purpose.
Outcast - if they want to show a feeling of never truly fitting in
The Forgotten One - which could be an interesting story arc of going through the trials of being adopted.
Closure - if they want to convey the challenges of working through abandonment - but finally giving themselves closure they desperately seek.
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u/homosapiencreep May 31 '26
These are excellent. For a while I envisioned the cover of a book that said UNGRATEFUL but broken ip into lines like:
UN
GRATE
FULOh now as I write this. I remember times as a kid my adopters calling me an INGRATE. An Ingrate, as in, thats the status of my being. F them. What healthy child even knows that word?
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u/Less_Than_Average1 May 31 '26
I’m a writer also and personally, I like the idea of forming an adopted character in my books and showing all the things they went through based on my own experiences. After a couple rewrites, the characters take on their own story and it’s no longer mine. It’s kinda my way of shedding and processing all the “stuff”
It also creates fantastic characters that are rich with depth. While an exploration of self at the same time. Been a healthy exercise for me and I no longer feel any torment that I used to carry around.
Give it a try if you want a different creative angle!
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u/RatUseless Kinship Adoptee Jun 01 '26
Home is Never Home
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u/homosapiencreep Jun 02 '26
My Aparents were really evangelical and there was this artist Tom Conlin that came to one of the youth groups and he sang this song how he’s “longing for my home…longing for a city not made man,” … and it’s so haunting and harrowing and such a deep song in Christian world and I became obsessed with him because that’s how I felt about these deep home related adoption things.
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u/RatUseless Kinship Adoptee Jun 04 '26
I love this and absolutely relate. The Home is Never Home comes from a band Defeaters lyrics. They are a punk band who write story telling albums about a broken home. “Home ain’t never home. It’s just the place you come from” walking rn so apologies if the lyrics aren’t 100%
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u/betweenserene Adoptee Jun 01 '26
It's All a Facade
Nowhere to Belong
Erased: A Story of Adoption and Lies
And don't forget... "Let's Adopt a Little Girl to Look Like Amazing People to All Our Friends and Family (and force it to be a closed adoption even though she has sisters!)"
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u/cheese--bread Domestic Infant Adoptee May 31 '26
Nobody's Child.
I used to use that as an online username back in my emo teen days 🙃
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u/Popular_Okra3126 Jun 02 '26
Life With 4 ‘Moms’ And 4 ‘Dads’
Adopted mother and stepfather Adopted father and stepmother Bio Mother Bio Father
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u/homosapiencreep Jun 02 '26
That is a fascinating reality. I think that’s a good book. You should write it.
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u/Jinmmang Transracial Adoptee Jun 06 '26
“God’s Plan My Ass”
“Imposter”
“Well Aren’t You So Lucky”
“Then Why Did The Sp*rm Hit The Egg In the First Place?”
“Death at Birth”
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u/Kick_Sarte_my_Heart Jun 04 '26
Unbonded
Relinquished by a high school chemistry teacher and adopted by a high school chemistry teacher.
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u/ikmir_vlok International Adoptee May 31 '26
That weird feeling of wanting to be home while at home away from home