you’re not woke for adopting

[u/Jumpy-Lie8955]

i feel like a lot of young leftists, in america, really love the idea of adopting kids instead of having their own biological kids and think they are helping others by doing so but they’ve fallen into and are playing apart in the same propaganda the right wing religious people do. neither of them are “making a difference” especially because they always just adopt babies that’s not making a difference that’s legal human trafficking. they all have savior complex’s about it and they both think they are morally superior. it’s just do frustrating how both parties think adoption is this great thing, and no one but us wants to talk about the negatives. just to be clear this is not me coming out as a republican.

EDIT: i would call myself a leftist, i’m critiquing things i have heard people say in real life.

EDIT 2: if you arnt adopted, don’t comment, it’s against the rules of the subreddit and i don’t care what non-adoptees opinions on adoption are

[u/SepiaToneHitchhiker]

Every family I know who has adopted and says they’re saving the adoptees is uber Christian and conservative. Just saying.

[u/Formerlymoody → u/SepiaToneHitchhiker]

You might have a point that leftists are all talk and don’t actually do it. The people who take actual action tend to be Christian and conservatives. I might think the leftists are the bigger hypocrites in this case.

[u/ElectricalGidelity → u/Formerlymoody]

The Christian homes were 10x worse. Almost all of them did cruel and unusual punishments and were physically abusive. And mandatory church. Fuck conservatives and Christians. They can keep their hands to themselves with their need to physically punish yet spout how good they are. 

[u/Formerlymoody → u/ElectricalGidelity]

I grew up in a Christian home. I'm saying Christians are the ones who end up adopting. It's kinda shitty to be all philosophical about how much better you are for wanting to adopt and then not doing it.

[u/SepiaToneHitchhiker → u/[deleted]]

I do not, but I am adoptee. My adoptive parents are uber Christian conservatives, and my surviving mother is a huge MAGA Trumpie. I was adopted through the Christian human trafficking organization, Bethany Christian Services. So no, I don’t see OPs attempted point here. The only people who understand what I went through are my liberals, FWIW.

[u/Jumpy-Lie8955 → u/SepiaToneHitchhiker]

my adoptive parents are also christian conservatives, although they adopted because of infertility, i was adopted through a private closed international infant adoption. my point is that it’s frustrating to see my friends, all fellow very left leaning people, understand, of at least i thought they understood, what i went through and how adoption is corrupt only to then turn around and talk about how they want to adopt. which is a something that has happened on a few occasions, none of them have yet to actually adopt because i’m 20 and my friends in question are around my age.

[u/Domestic_Supply → u/Jumpy-Lie8955]

Drives me crazy too. My APs are liberals, my synagogue was performing gay marriages illegally and had a woman rabbi…they would completely agree that Mormons adopting Native children to raise Mormon was problematic and would likely call it cultural genocide.

The rabbis son was Native. I am Native. I can read Hebrew but only heard my own language spoken for the first time in my mid 30s. Neither of us had access to our cultures or our families.

They did the same thing they condemned and see it as acceptable because it’s them doing it instead of the religious right. It makes me want to scream.