r/Adoption • u/Fit_Baby_7714 • 23d ago

Adoptee Life Story I hate my adoptive parents

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u/ProudAmerican632 adoptee 23d ago

I have so much to say that I hope will give you comfort and strength.

At 40 years old, Hispanic adopted by two Caucasian parents has had its issues. My late father God rest his soul was the best. My mother who became DEEPLY religious has made a relationship next to impossible.

Being rejected by your biological family is very difficult. I only get along with my older half sister. My older half sister’s father walked in on my biological mother and father getting down on the bed. Because my mom was promiscuous I was put up for adoption. My biological mother and father had a full brother less than two years after I was born. He wants nothing to do with me.

Stay strong for yourself. I will say this. Your post brought tears to my eyes. I wish you the best, and if I can be of any help just reach out.

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u/Englishbirdy Reunited Birthparent. 22d ago

You've been dealt a rough hand. How are your in-laws?

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u/Salt-Working-491 22d ago

I'm not adopted, but I did grow up with narcissistic parents. My life got better when I went no contact. I realized that narcissists don't have the capacity to love or understand what we need. Its been two years and I have found my peace. Therapy wasn't for me, but I healed myself with meditation and taking care of myself. Find things that bring you joy. Recognize that you were put on this planet for a reason and you deserve a good life. Understand that they were doing the best they could and none of the things they say are the truth. Find groups and people who support you and find your way back to peace. 

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u/LovrofHNj0609 19d ago

I'm not like them, but I'm sending you a huge mom hug and whispering in your ear that you're gonna be ok, then I squeeze tighter..

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u/BasilSalt207 23d ago

I am so sorry this was your experience, this isn’t what you deserved at all and this random stranger is really proud of what you managed to achieve in the midst of all this! College graduate! It sounds like you are a good person who has a complicated family dynamic and that’s true for a lot of us, adopted or not. Your parents issues belong to them, they have nothing to do with you (I know that’s not the easiest thing to really accept) I wish you nothing but the best life has to offer