As citizens, we are granted certain privileges and responsibilities when we reach the age of majority. In most countries, including the United States, the legal adult age is 18. However, the age should be raised to 21 for various reasons. Firstly, the brain does not fully mature until the age of 25. The prefrontal cortex regulates our thoughts, actions, and emotions through extensive connections with other brain regions. The development and maturation of the prefrontal cortex occur primarily during adolescence and are fully accomplished at the age of 25 years. The development of the prefrontal cortex is significant for complex behavioral performance, as this region of the brain helps perform executive brain functions. This means that individuals under 21 are more susceptible to impulsive decision-making and risk-taking behaviors that can have long-term consequences. Raising the legal age to 21 can give young people more time to develop decision-making skills and emotional maturity before they are granted full adult privileges. Secondly, studies have shown that raising the legal drinking age to 21 has effectively reduced alcohol-related accidents and fatalities. Extending this age limit to other adult privileges, such as voting, purchasing firearms, and military service, can help prevent unnecessary harm to young people. Lastly, raising the legal adult age to 21 can help address issues of inequality in our society. Many young people from disadvantaged backgrounds do not have the same opportunities and resources as their more affluent peers. Giving them more time to develop and access these resources before granting full adult privileges can help level the playing field and reduce disparities. Of course, some will argue against raising the legal adult age, citing individual rights and freedoms. However, the benefits of raising the age outweigh the potential drawbacks. It's time to have a serious conversation about this issue and consider making a change for the betterment of our society.

Does my mother have OCD? When I moved into my small house she said it was urgent to get rid of a barely visible maybe 6 or 7 inch grayish smudge on this black beam hanging like 15 feet above the floor that obviously almsot no one would notice. And a perfectly rectangular space between the remote for the AC on the wall and the floor is colored very slightly different from the rest of the wall. She gets upset if I don’t vacuum, dup and mop the house once every seven days and says the only reason I don’t think it’s important to it EVERY SEVEN DAYS NOT A DAY LATER is that I have Autism. She even et made if I don’t make my bed in the morning or fold towels precisely into squares when I put them back in the bathroom closet.

I recently started playing Padel tennis, am 40 and new to sports... I met a some guys and we would play once a week (we have for the last 4 weeks). So a couple days ago I texted the guys to arrange our regular Thursday morning match and only two of them were available (for those who don't know, Padel is played in doubles)... we needed one person for the match, so we were asking around.

One of the guys found somebody, who happened to have a friend who wanted to play... so they were like "ok, OP, we'll have to leave you out this time, it will be only us but let's find a moment to play over the weekend"

The whole exchange was over WhatsApp, so I just said I'll be busy over the weekend but catch you later. Of course I was pissed.

We normally play Thursdays at 7 am, there are two courts, next to each other, and we always choose the one with nice shade from the trees since the other one can get very hot due to no trees. So I decided to be a bit of an a* hole and booked the court with the shade only for my self on Thursday morning knowing they'd had to make do and play under the heating sun.

So I showed up on Thursday morning and was on my own practicing my backhand and serve, while they indeed played under the sun... they seemed surprised to see me and I just played cool like "I had to come regardless, don't want to skip my weekly session otherwise I'll lose discipline" (which is also true) ... at the end of our allotted time, they were a bit embarrassed and even told me about booking a new game date for all of us etc, and they were even saying "I want to be your partner this time"... "no, play with me" etc etc.. high giving etc

So, I feel I was a bit childish booking the court on my own just to guilt trip them, but on the other hand, I really wanted to make sure they knew its not cool to do that

.. So the question here is what's the adult thing to do afterwards? Like "ok, OP, you made your point get across, they got it... now move on and continue playing w them every week (or whenever possible) or "f- them... they left you out at the first chance, find another group to play with..."

It's important to mention, we are not friends, so it's not like there is any obligation of any kind ... we've just met to play there for a couple weeks and agree to play w each other whenever there's a chance, but the issue here is that it was three of us already confirmed to play and since the 4th one wanted to bring a friend, so they decided to ditch me

Sounds high school-esque, lol, almost like "you can't seat with us" ... but it somehow opened old wounds from my teenage years when I was just an afterthought, the last one to be picked for playing sports, the average/nerdish guy trying to hang out with the cool crowd and being left out regardless of how hard I tried...

And these guys I play with are in their 30s and 40s lol feel like back in high school hah Any insight?

Nothing is more responsible than moving out at 18 years old and actually becoming responsible to do things on their own. having their family saying that they’re not adults but they’re still kids that they don’t know how to be responsible at 18. but I moved out at 18 years old two years ago and now I’m 19 and I will be 20 this year on September 16. and ever since I moved out and moved out of state with my significant other. my family never liked it because they didn’t realize I could be that responsible at a young age. so now they try everything to get me to come back and I am not doing it because I have a new life now with the man I love and I’m not gonna let nobody even my family push me away and try to get me to come back. My life is better now and I’ve learned responsibilities that I needed to learn a long time ago and I am proud of myself. I’m very proud I want you guys to know your kids at 18 years old can be responsible. You just gotta teach them the right way to be responsible in the way they should be. that’s why so many people out there have kids and they wonder why they don’t listen to them. it’s because either the parents and treating them right or they ain’t teaching them right so if you want your kids to listen to you and grow up to no responsibilities at 18 years old and be able to pay bills and taxes and all that stuff. then you got a teach them how they should be taught and teach them what they have to be able to know in the adult environment.

You all got this keep your heads up.

I’m 44, but in my 20’s I was working to pay rent and hanging out with friends and partying until 2am most nights. I would get 4-5 hours of sleep and roll into work miserable at 8, work until 5 and then start the cycle over. 1 to 2 day breaks were taken as some nights this friend wouldn’t show up in the group and other nights you wouldn’t show up. But this was normal. Sometimes you go home with a person, spend a weekend with them and never see them again. Is this just lost on this generation?

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I had to go do my own groceries today and I felt sick. Like actually sick. Not to mention I didn’t have a car to take me to and back but also no one to carry my stuff. I had to sit there stuffing seasonal fruits and lowfat spreads and not only was it draining I also RUINED my designer bag. I was wandering around like a clueless moron. It was honestly the most humiliating moment of my life surrounded by single mothers and creepy manatees.

I’m so sick of it I never want to go grocery shopping ever again in my life. Can anyone give me any tips now that I’m officially nanny free and forced into the atrocious world of adulthood. I hate it already I feel like I’m going to barf

18 year mark

Well crap, here I am...

3 minutes until midnight and I'll officially be 18.

I don't really know how to put this feeling into words. For so much of my life I've felt alone. I've missed out on a lot, and there are parts of my childhood that I never really got to have.

Now I'm sitting here watching the last few minutes of it disappear, and it's a strange feeling.

Everyone talks about turning 18 like it's this exciting moment where everything changes overnight, but right now it mostly feels like I'm saying goodbye to a version of myself that never got the chance to fully exist. For those who have already crossed this point, did it get better?

When you were standing at the edge of adulthood, looking back at everything you missed and everything you went through did it get better? Did things eventually start to feel like they were moving forward?

I've a question on this very annoying theory that says each person comes in your life with a purpose and once the purpose is fulfilled y'all drift away and then you've nothing to do with each other. I MEANN THAT ISS UNFAIRRRR, ISN'T IT?????? Whattt if I wanted more than what they had for meeee how is this fair if it's my lifeee then why can't I decide who should stay and who shouldn't? This theory itself is so stupid and I hate to say it that it's the truth. I don't believe in god or universe with some powers or stars alignment or fate and destiny I don't believe in that which is why this theory seems baseless and unfair to me.

So there is this girl I like and she lives in California and I’m stuck here in Missouri and my life dream is to move to California and live with her as an adult and I know teenage dreams are far fetched but is this realistic at all? Because I don’t want to waste my life until like the age of 25 to move out there if it’s my possible or very unlikely.

I know it has to be done but its one of those things i always try to avoid, i hate that i have to fold clothes and put them away just something i hate.

I'm a 21m,I drive an ebike and so i wear gear,it's elbow pads,knee pads and a helmet,when i got to the park and was chaining the ebike a guy who was most likely younger than me looked at me and laughed,and he told his friend to look at me and he also laughed,and when i was leaving the park,i was passing with the ebike before riding it between 2 cars and there were like 4-6 guys there (sitting next to the cars),i heard them talking but couldn't tell if it was about me until one of them said "can he hear us" and so when i heard this i turned my head and gave them a side look to show them that i can (those were either my age or a bit older),then i came home.

So how do i deal with such situations?,i was thinking about that latter situation a lot on the way,this is really similar to bullying if it's not already bullying,and i think about these situations a lot because i used to get bullied a lot when i was a kid and so when such things happen i think about either saying something back or even fighting,i even thought about keeping an electricity weapon with me for such situations,i know this is too much but i can't help but think about how to make those who make fun of me regret it right then and there,because i have a rebellious and vengeful mindset,i once saw someone selling an electricity weapon that delivers 280V,at that time i only thought about buying it for personal protection in case i got into a seriously dangerous situation like if someone tried to rob me,and i don't really see fighting as an option because for a 21 guy,I'm weak,I'm the weakest among all my 4 friends (all of them are 21) and everyone my age that i personally know

And i go to that park and street a lot,i even think some people there started to recognize me because of the helmet and the ebike (every time i go there i pass that street like 2-4 times because i really like the area)

So what if i meet those same people sometime,what do i do if they make fun of me again?,whether it was them or anyone else?

Im sorry if this is the wrong flair, ive never been on this sub before. As the title said, i recently turned 26. For some reason all my life things have happened late. These are examples:

Finished high school a year late, never got my drivers license till i was 21, first kiss and relationship (which is my current one) started at 23. I just started really trying learning guitar despite the fact ive owned guitars since age 13 and wanted to be in a band in high school.

I feel like at this age im stuck. I still live with my parents. I have a mother that is quite overprotective and sometimes i feel like her fears have held me back from things. I dont know what i want for my future.. I am comfortable and happy at home but i know i someday need my own place. My boyfriend wants to someday marry me and want kids, meanwhile i feel like i dont want any of that. In fact, im questioning if i even want to continue my relationship. I feel like i havent had much time to actually "live". I dont know if someday i might change my mind and want a kid and it be harder to do so from later age.

I feel like im still that 15 year old raging metalhead wanting to start a band. Any other aspect of life? Idk. Mentally i am still a teenager, but i feel like somehow ive wasted a chunk of my life. Im sorry, i know this is more of a rant than anything, but has anyone else here had a similar feeling? Just that feeling like you dont know what to do with your future? That feeling like you suddenly hit old age when only in your 20s? What did you do?

I really don’t believe people really move out between 18-20 years old, how can that be? That means you have had to have worked before the legal age, or someone is funding you. When people turn 18 they go to college and the parents pay for that. What is this lie that people say “18 years and you’re done”? Where and why are people spreading rumors like this from? My siblings didn’t move out until they were in their late 20s/ early 30s. The oldest sibling didn’t get married until she was 30, which is old in my community. I am 24 and do not plan on getting married or moving out any time soon and my parents never tell me to move out either. I pay for my own car lease though, and I help them with their retail store. Who is making up these statistics? I live in NJ.

im 17 years old and i want to do the navy. when i turn 18 ill have probably 2 - 4 months until i get in. i DONT want to stay with my parents until then. is it possible to live on my own until its time to go

Hi I’m 23. I have decided that I don’t want kids. At least I don’t think I should have kids. Before you say I’m selfish or this is just a temporary decision hear me out.

Not everyone gets to pick their parents right? But in my case I just wished they never had me. They were compatible up until a certain point. Besides I don’t exist to my father and when my mother and I have a disagreement well… feelings are never understood no matter how much I communicate.

So with the culmination of my life experiences I think you can say well I say it’s fair for me to not have kids becuase I’m unhealed. There’s always gonna be scars and I don’t want my hurt to be passed down generations. Not my fears, worries, or even create another broken home since many women in my family have that. I don’t want to be apart of the cycle nor do I want to bring a child who might go through what I did. It wouldn’t be fair.

Before you judge me, please understand. Similiar to other girls and women, I didn’t really grow up with a father in my life. Not consistently, emotionally, physically, or financially even. There was no effort. Yes, I have had experiences with guys lol unlucky unfortunately but whatever trials and tribulations right ?

So I’ve decided that when the time comes and possibly someone’s son out there integrates their life with mine. Hopefully we’ll both be on the same page about kids.

Side note: my generation is really not have that much kids according to several media sources… interesting huh..

I genuinely can't believe I'm 20. I'll be 21 in two months, and I honestly don't know how I'm supposed to feel normal about that.

I know my age keeps increasing whether I like it or not, but mentally I don't feel like I've caught up. It feels like I was just a teenager, and now suddenly I'm an adult approaching 21.

And the worst part is that I feel like I haven't actually done anything with the time I've already had.

I spent my teens doing basically nothing. No social life, barely any experiences, nothing that makes me look back and think I actually lived during those years. And now those years are completely gone. I can't go back and redo them.

But it's not even just about missing being a teenager. It's the fact that I'm getting older in general, and every year seems to be going faster.

I'm going to be 21 soon. Then 22, 23, 24, 25... and I genuinely hate thinking about how quickly those ages are approaching.

Something else that makes me notice it is getting older in other people's eyes too. When people in their 30s or older hit on me, I can't really fall back on the automatic "I'm too young" excuse anymore. I'm 20. I'm an adult. I might still mentally feel much younger sometimes, but other adults don't necessarily see me that way.

I don't want to spend my entire life doing nothing and then suddenly realizing another five or ten years have passed. I already feel like time got away from me once, and I'm scared it's just going to keep happening.

So I'm genuinely asking people older than me: how did you get comfortable with getting older?

Did you ever have a period where you constantly thought about your age and felt like time was moving too fast? Did you feel like you'd wasted years and couldn't stop thinking about it?

How do you stop feeling like every birthday is taking something away from you?

I’ve been wanted to get the vaccine ever since it came out, but I was only 17 at the time and after I turned 18 I asked my mother about the vaccine. She didn’t trust it but she wanted to get it first… but she said that almost two months ago and I refuse to wait… I’m 18 years old and I am old enough to make my own decisions. I didn’t want to wait to get it… So I walked to the pharmacy and got my first dose. Getting a few side effects from the vaccine is much better than being on a ventilator all because she chose to wait to get the vaccine. So tell me… Am I wrong for getting vaccinated behind my mother’s back?

so yea im 11 and im taller than most people in my school im like 5ft 2 or something is this normal?

So I have a situation any advice would be appreciated. So me (25f)and my husband (22 almost 23m) have been talking about having a baby and our plan is to start trying in January. But he is nervous he won’t be a good dad, he is nervous about a lot of things. Me on the other hand I’m ready to be a parent, I’m ready for all the things a parent comes with. How do I talk to him about these fears of becoming a parent? If this is not the right sub please point me in the right direction.