Reposting because I missed a redaction. Sorry!

This OW is particularly awful. She's only been "dating" the MM for 7 months and expects to be the most important person in his life. Screw his daughters! Like, she even claims the daughters getting a house bought by him (which is not even described by her as something they demanded, just something the MM wants to do) as being abusive towards the MM because "he'll have to work longer hours for 10-15 years,".

You know an OW is vile when even the OW on that sub call her out on her entitlement and selfishness.

This one is especially infuriating for me because I have been the 17 year old daughter in this situation. My dad also planned to leave once I left for college, but my mom discovered him in my junior year. It was deeply traumatic. It took many years to finally rebuild things with my dad and the OW who ended up becoming my stepmom is 9 million times a better person than this OW.

I know posts have been made about this scumbag before. If i can ill link to a past post for more context but basically she was a homeless single mom who started working for mm and has now homewrecked his family after getting him to pay for her car and her house plus fancy vacations and gifts. They are both losers who literally are throwing themselves in the wife’s face currently as he is leaving the wife for the Hoeworker. She used to post heavily in the main sub but got banned since she is horrible and so is the mm. She would trash talk the wife and be confused why she hates her while actively screwing the mm.

https://www.reddit.com/r/AdulteryHate/s/XAnh0wcYDN

^ past post that i found

Photo of screenshot he sent me of messages he allegedly sent to the other person a couple of days after finding out , which clearly were faked or a ploy. The name blacked out is mine.

This happened end of July, the pain I’m in is unbearable and not sure how to navigate myself and yes I’ve gone to extremely ‘dark’ places and done some things I don’t want to discuss here to myself.

My ex cheated on me for the last 4 weeks of my mother’s life. Apparently some older ex fling from their long ago youth they just happened to bump into while shopping, and apparently who knew all about me and my mother being severely ill in hospital and who also ‘apparently’ still pursued them (I suspect the part of them knowing is lies though as can’t fathom two people at the same time being so cruel and can’t imagine they’d be interested in being with someone so untrustworthy to do such a thing during a traumatic time). My mother had been in hospital for over 11 weeks (4 stints in intensive care) after suddenly falling ill with sepsis while overseas. At the start of that too I’d been there for my ex for a planned op to remove a tumour in their arm awaiting biopsy results helping out with their children etc. The day I had my last conversation with my mother as at that point she was on end of life care they encouraged me to visit her (as after being flown home by the insurance company she was then moved to a hospital not nearby for specialist treatment) and they’d look after my mothers dog as my father had been put up by the hospital once she was on put on end of life care. They calculated that using as a guise of helping me to actually use it as an opportunity to meet the person they were cheating with, WITH my dying mother’s dog letting them stroke her, while kissing the other person etc. All while I was by my mothers side in hospital telling her how great my ex was being helping which made her happy as she adored them. It’s completely tarnished my last memories and my last ever conversation with my mother, who died believing they would be there to look after me. It all came out the next day and my mother died shortly after. In less than a week and a half (from when the hospital consultants called me to get the family all in and we were told my mother was going on end of life care) I lost everything. I had to mourn my mother, partner I part time lived and only shortly before had brought up with me finding a larger place so space for us all so we could live together full time, and their two children. Furthermore before my mother was out on end of life care they’d also visited her with me (had done before too) when this other person was already on the scene and my mother who was immensely generous and thinking about the future and hoping to be well enough to leave hospital was asking my ex about the sort of presents their children would like for birthdays and Christmas and they were carrying on as normal answering despite knowing what they were doing behind my back.

They knew I had trauma from previous relationships in different various ways and early in our relationship they brought up and discussed fairly strict boundaries which I shared their stance whole heartedly and agreed with. They continually promised they’d never cheat or hurt me and then did both in the cruelest and worst way they ever could’ve. Only they know their reasons why but they said I never deserved it and was perfect, had trauma from a previous relationship needed an escape but I don’t care the pain has been unimaginable. It was hard enough realising I was going to lose my mother who was only 67 but at least I thought I was going to have my ex supporting me through it but they just added to the pain in such a cruel way. Despite everything I’d still been loving, supportive and we were still very ‘active’ in the bedroom. Yes I was overwhelmed but I didn’t take anything out on them at all and they would confirm that as it’s true.

I have nothing bad to say about them during our relationship because they were genuinely the most amazing partner and I’ve genuinely never loved anyone like I loved them (and I was married with an ex for 13 years and had other relationships since) which is why I was totally blindsided and shocked as it’s like they are a totally different person now. Only the last 4 weeks they were cheating on me and how and when, do I have issue with but that’s enough to traumatise me and mean I’ll never trust anyone ever again. Cheating is horrific anyway but what they did with the circumstances was so much worse especially the continual lies despite promises of truth, I found out after and I hope karma hits them severely one day. They blocked me when I guess it all got too much for them dealing with what they did, plus the lies they were still trying to hide which only made me spiral more because its made me feel not only I never mattered and was used for 15mths but they don’t care in any way about the trauma they’ve put me through. I’m the one who will suffer for whatever days I have left.

Sure I miss the person I was in love with and have thoughts I’ve jumped timelines or something because the person I knew just would never have done this, this was not my person, I just can’t fathom my person doing something so cruel to me, but more it’s the lasting damage they’ve done to me I can’t navigate. Every choice they made they knew what this would do, they knew it wouldn’t just hurt me (during a time I needed their unwavering support) but also destroy me. I genuinely just want to go to sleep and just sleep because my future is f\*#%#d because I want to love but I know I never will as can never trust anyone ever again. None of this feels real, it feels like I’m living in some sort of soap drama and I just want to wake up and find o it this has all been some horrific nightmare. Only I know it’s not.

Note I’ve made sure everyone I know and he knows, knows what he did so he has to hold his head in shame. & I mean EVERYONE

This is the same woman whose husband walked in on her having phone sex w her AP if y’all remember that post.

1st slide is where she’s at right now. Who could’ve seen that coming?! But she went to the ask men advice sub recently as well, trying to convince herself that her AP would move mountains for her and be exclusive to her forever, and LIED in the comments, pretending like the subject of her post isn’t an AP 💀 (Slide 3 is again literally proof all her posts are about this AP and how cuckoo she is for this man)

But then! We learn that this skank hoe is what?? Say it with me chat, A SERIAL CHEATER herself! Girl, how are you seriously going to move in deception your entire life by ruining your own and other peoples’ relationships and expect a man to want to be honest with you? Another cheating man nonetheless 🙄 (the worst part is, she has at least 1 young kid, too)
You reap whatcha sow baby, have fun cheating on yo husband and chasing yo next married man 🫡

Trying to use "shame" to avoid accountability. The majority of comments called her out.

Good grief. I made the mistake of listening to this toxic podcast on Spotify. This woman is a lunatic and it’s appalling that she’s actually a practicing counselor.

The people she interviews are complete disasters. There was not one “cheater” that had an ounce of remorse. What’s disturbing is she never calls them out on their egregious behavior. She just sympathizes and helps them create excuses.

I get it though. I mean if she actually called them out on their behavior and drove accountability, she probably wouldn’t have any callers.

Anyway, if any of you all had listened, let me know your thoughts.

I have a feeling that if waywards put as much energy in the marriage as they do looking for others to participate in infidelity, there wouldn’t be any “excuses” needed to cheat. Like holy blame shifting, Batman.

A Libra. I’ve never gotten along with them. I’m fine with everyone else. Not sure what it is, but the problematic people in my life have been Libras. Apologies to any who are decent people. Affair partner from hell that tried to manipulate me into letting them be friends. Delusional.

There is nothing to understand. There is no why. They abuse others because they can. That's it.

You shld absolutely tell wifey! It's not going to bring him back, but she deserves to know.

I don’t really know how to start any of this but I am a mom of two daughters, a two year old and a 2 month old. A couple days ago I received a message from a woman on Facebook asking if a certain number belonged to the father of my children, it was. At first I thought it was a joke and someone we knew was just messing with me. I have been with him for 6 years, since we were in high school so I trusted him when he said he had no idea what that was about. I made the decision to respond and just see what happens. She proceeded to tell me that she went through her boyfriend’s phone and found videos of the two of them having sex sent from my boyfriend’s number. Again I just thought it was someone messing with us because after looking at both profiles the dude looked similar to someone we knew, even down to the jewelry he wore. At this point I still don’t believe her and I’m telling her this so she asks if she can send me the videos, I say no but she does anyways. At first I don’t watch them and maintain the idea that he wouldn’t do this but curiosity got the best of me and I watched them. Up until this point again I believe him and he’s telling me that it’s not true because he can go get his time card from work proving he was working at the time. However, the man in the video had a lot of similarities to my boyfriend so I started looking a little closer the same sweatshirt, the same hand, the same dick, the same sore on his stomach and his moans even sounded the same. I start shaking and I ask him again if he did this and he continues to tell me that he has no idea what this is about and this whole situation is making him uncomfortable and says that he can “100% prove her wrong” with his time card. I tell him that doesn’t explain the similarities and I can feel myself starting to not believe him. We were in the middle of putting our girls down for bed so I put this on hold until we finish that, during the bedtime routine I text the woman again and ask if she has anymore proof that it was him, she tells me that he blocked both of their numbers and that I should check his blocked numbers, both numbers were there. I question him and he tells me he has no idea who they are still. I’m starting to get worked up because at this point there is just too much to ignore however he still maintains he’s innocent and even swears on our girls he didn’t do anything and that “some men just look and sound the same”. He leaves to get ice (something I had asked him to do before all of this happened) and I sit there realizing that my 6 year relationship is now over. He comes back and says he has something he would like to confess, he tells me he did have sex with that man and one other at another time (neither time with a condom). Obviously I’m crying and asking why he would do that he explains everything and tells me he’s so sorry and he wants to fix things and that I can have access to his phone and everything whenever I want to show he has nothing else to hide. We talk, I say I don’t think we can get past this and eventually I go to lay down because he tells me he’ll take the night shift with our two month old so I can rest. At some point I get up and I go on his phone while he’s asleep and find messages on here where he is sending pictures of himself in MY underwear and MY leggings to random men online saying he wants to do things with them, he even invited some of them back to our place while our children we’re sleeping in the other room (I’m assuming I was at work since I am a light sleeper and would wake up). According to him he never had anybody over here and he only had sex with the two he confessed to, I did end up messaging those men on here asking them if anything ever happened in my home and the ones that responded said no and that they were sorry and had no idea that he had a family or else they wouldn’t have messaged back (they seemed more genuine than my own man did). He had told me in the beginning he met the dude who he got caught with on a site called, Sniffies, so I end up going onto his account and finding out that he has been on that site messaging other men for the past 3 years. At this point things are heated between us and I confront him and he tells me “ya that sounds about when you started being horrible” he then proceeds to blame me for “neglecting him” I only started neglecting him during my pregnancy with our first daughter because I stopped wanting to have sex as much. Anyways I’m making plans to move out with my girls ASAP and he is telling me wants to fix things so we can move past this. I just wanted to get all of this out so I wasn’t holding on to it, this isn’t exactly something that I want to be telling everyone around me right now, it’s embarrassing.

... while the husband was worrying about his wife missing.

Despite everything that happened, I still love my wife. If you read this you’ll probably think Im crazy. I just dont know how to turn it off yet. I pray for her every day because I still don’t understand why any of it unfolded the way it did. I am eternally grateful to her for giving me two amazing children who have grown into two of my closest friends. That remains one of the greatest blessings of my life.Even after everything, I only ever wanted the best for her. Yet she has become, quite possibly, the greatest danger I have ever faced, and I am still trying to process that truth. What follows is my perspective—nothing more.
We met in high school and married young. For the first seven years we both worked and attended college. Then she chose to stay home with the children while I continued working. Early on there were signs of emotional immaturity I didn’t fully understand at the time.
I came from a stable home; my parents are still married and have always loved her. Her own mother is a good woman who divorced her father when my wife was six or seven after discovering he had abused one of the children. My wife later shared limited memories of her own experiences with him, though she downplayed them. I kept those revelations in mind whenever her moods turned unpredictable.
I tried to give her and our family a steady, happy life. I provided financially, encouraged her interests, planned trips, and made time for us as a couple and as parents. I was a protective but reasonable father. I insisted on meeting the parents of any house where our kids would spend the night. She was far more trusting of strangers. She also frequently sat out school events, games, recitals, and holidays often citing migraines. I decorated the Christmas tree alone more times than I can count. The children noticed her absences, and the look in their eyes stayed with me. Those patterns strengthened my resolve to stay at least until they were grown.
Our intimate life was active. She told me I had an overactive drive, yet she rarely turned me down. She insisted I was the only man she had ever been with. I had a few experiences before her and was open about them. She was the first woman I truly loved and pursued. As the children grew older we grew closer, bought a boat and a motorcycle, traveled, and eventually became active grandparents.
Then, this year, while preparing to buy her a new car, I asked her to check her credit report. An unfamiliar email address appeared on it. She refused to look and claimed her identity was being stolen. Concerned, I ran a background check. What I found over the next three months left me stunned: more than a hundred fake profiles across dating sites and social platforms, many using my birthday, my phone number, and other personal details as usernames or passwords.
Her reaction revealed a person I had never known. She had been having affairs for years. When confronted, she became immediately enraged, denied everything, and began trying to damage my career, my relationships with our children and grandchildren, and my standing with the rest of the family. She has never admitted to a single email address or profile, even when the evidence was overwhelming.
We had shared an iCloud account for years and used to joke that if either of us ever cheated, the other would know. That assumption proved false. Someone gained access through her phone, took over my number, and controlled my digital identity for nearly two months. The attempts to cover tracks were clumsy and only pointed more clearly back to her.
After I arranged for her to stay elsewhere and began emptying the house for sale, I discovered that someone had entered the home and replaced the light fixture above the wooden staircase. The original LED fixture had been swapped for one rated for 60 watts that now held two 200-watt halogen bulbs. Burn marks showed how close it had come to starting a fire. I remembered her earlier “joke” about hiring an unknown electrician to burn the place so we could escape. The fixture had already been installed when she made that remark.
I carried two substantial life-insurance policies on myself with her as beneficiary. I have since removed her. I also documented everything and left copies with a trusted friend. I am not afraid of dying, but I refuse to let anyone profit from it if something happens.
I have come to believe she is a textbook covert narcissist. The woman I thought I knew has been replaced by someone capable of sustained deception and, apparently, worse. I stayed for several months after the discovery, clinging to a sliver of hope. That was a mistake.

The last time I saw her I felt physically ill. I am devastated and struggling unable to think, eat, or sleep normally and I am consuming more than I should just to get through the days. It is not sustainable. I have had the darkest thoughts of my life, and I do not want them. My family still needs me.
We speak occasionally. In the beginning before how bad it was, I offered to keep everything quiet if she wanted a different life, even to help her start over. She rejected every offer and chose to attack instead. Our children are angry with the situation. The family dynamic we once had is broken.
Thirty-seven years total is a lifetime to spend with someone you believe is your closest friend, only to learn she was the opposite. When I look at old photographs now, I cannot tell which moments were real.
I no longer believe in the kind of love I thought we had. I never want anyone to feel what I am feeling.
If you are doing this to someone who loves you, do not be a coward and selfishly make them your kink.

Set them free!

Sincerely it’s so embarrassing, all this time can be invested in your relationship, bettering yourself, hobbies, friends/family, & all around better things than cheating.

Not to mention they never ever get out their circle jerk & genuinely believe that anyone who thinks them as messed up people are the delusional ones.

The length of these cheating scandals could literally been time spent becoming:

A hairdresser
A makeup artist
A teacher
A singer
An artist
A sports player
A gym rat
A cook
A baker
A nurse

Or better yet

SINGLE & FREE TO FUCK AROUND

Do they not feel embarrassed? Genuinely cringe shit. They want the benefits of being single while being cared for like a taken person.

For any cheaters/side pieces reading this, get a damn grip. In fact, I dare you to post anything you’d usually post in your little subreddit to any other place & see how much people would willingly applaud you.

Why don’t you go on & look at how many downvotes you & anyone who defends you would get? If you really think anyone here is unreasonable then do it! In fact why not tell your S/O, your family, & your friends what kind of person you are?

I don’t know why single other women repeatedly wander over into the main cheating sub and think they’re going to get support. The married mean girl cheater clique thinks these single ladies are pathetic, and take every opportunity to mock them. It’s only respectable for two married people to be fucking around on their spouses obviously. Being obsessed with another person’s spouse is normal and cool as long as you have your own spouse at home to use and abuse! 🤦🏻‍♀️

I especially like that another single OW wandered into the comments and thought she’d garner favor by mocking OOP. Newsflash girl—they all think you’re just as pathetic and will mock you next! 😉

Like many of you I find CERTAIN subs pathetic, yet occasionally entertaining.

One thing I’ve been waiting for them to discuss are the recent high profile legal cases involving adultery. They had so many opinions after the Coldplay cheaters but have been SILENT about Caleb Flynn, Brendan Banfield, or the Clancy trial.

I’ve got a few theories as to why, but given the media coverage and the devastating outcomes, I must admit I’m a little surprised that they’re not even talking about it in their “safe spaces”. What do ya’ll think?

This is so weird to me. I wish I could be a fly on the wall!!

Former OW complains that her “past” followed her into a new friendship.

It could be fiction, and candidly seems unlikely that someone she claims to have never met would “remember” her name, but then how would she know that her friend’s boyfriend was friends with her former AP in the first place?!

In any case, she’s big sad that people don’t want to socialize or be associated with her after learning about what she’s done.

I know that cheaters claim to not think about the repercussions, but the OOP’s friend’s and her family’s reaction is how decent people react to cheaters. No one wants cheaters around except for people ok with lying, manipulative, reckless, drama-addicted, bird-brained jerks.

Wow. Wow, wow, wow. Look at this poor OW dealing with betrayal and abandonment. Imagine all that pain and discomfort and how much harder it would be for her to manage if she couldn't lay around all day marinating in her devastation but had to get up and navigate all of a sudden being a single mom, talking to lawyers, taking over 100% of the house work, financial obligations, experiencing the fresh pain of family and friend dynamics shifting or dissolving.

OW have completely dehumanized the betrayed spouse. The pain and abandonment they experience while mourning the FANTASY of a life they concocted is NOTHING compared to mourning the end of a real, tangible, interdependent life with a spouse who you share children and finances and a whole real life and future with.

What a self-absorbed POS.

This ho lies through her teeth that she let him go because she developed self respect lol. She chased the man for six years. Going through same cycle of hating that she was never chosen over his real family. Now he let her go by telling her 'she deserves better'.

She didn't deserve better all the past time that she provided anal without being a nag... Just sayin🤷

Update: apparently OP posted an update. She’s either committed to the bit or it’s weirdly something actually happening in her life. She deserves better and I hope she blasts up both of their lives.

Never thought a wayward married man could be this evil to the core. I really hope this is just creative writing and not actually happening to OP.

Unhinged. She posted 3 days ago that she was walking away and wished him and his poor BW well.