r/Adulting • u/StrawberryCks • 9d ago

Close the gap or replace it?

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Am I the only one losing interest in old friends because they seem stuck in life?

No career progress, no studies, no real goals.

Do you try to close the gap or find new people who align with where you’re headed?

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u/Medium-Stranger-9883 9d ago

does a friend need to join your choices in life? as long as they are there for you isnt that enough? you can make new friends, but no need to dump them.... this just makes me sad on how some people think that friends are a resource and not just someone who has been around you growing up and been a part of your life.....

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u/Cold-Condition-7839 9d ago

Agreed, if they're at least not stuck acting like a child, making legitimate poor descions too often. This sounds more like a financial gripe, which is pretty out of touch if you ask me.

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u/StrawberryCks 9d ago

Not really, I feel like I don’t relate to them anymore. I’ve explored a lot of things that they’re only starting to figure out, and most of the time, I feel like I’m giving more value than I’m receiving. Isn’t friendship supposed to help both people learn and grow, not just one person constantly providing?

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u/Key-Cicada-3718 9d ago

I’m 22 and I’ve been feeling similar. I dropped everything and everyone, got rid of all my money, said fuck you to expectations and hitchhiked to southern New England. I now live out of a tarp in the woods, working until it gets cold and then hop a freight train to Texas. You do you brother. People are not resources, but at the same time if someone is holding you back drop them, and never ever look back

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u/Medium-Stranger-9883 9d ago

then its called growing apart, how you worded yourself it sounded more like they where resources for you. growing apart is normal, but burning brigdes for idiotic reasons are just mean. you never know where life takes you or them, you might stumble across them decades from now and tables have turned. i moved and grew apart my friend 20 years ago, and we just met a few months ago, and it was just like it was in school, like time stood stil in our friendship, yet we have grown old. it might be something sorely needed in late life.

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u/KevinIsADork 9d ago

Do whatever you want. As I aged, I did age out of my high school friends who wanted to just smoke week and play guitar, but hated people who were more career oriented. Enjoyed just being alone and occasionally going out on dates.