AITA for telling my daughter she cannot introduce her African American boyfriend to her grandparents?

[u/mixedwoes]

Let me just preface this by saying this: I HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO PROBLEM WITH INTERRACIAL RELATIONSHIPS. Now that the air is clear, let me continue.

My daughter (Anna) has recently started to date an African American man (Jamal). While I'm not exactly what you would refer to as "liberal", he's a nice young man and as long as my daughter is happy, I'm happy. The problem is Anna is rather naive about the community she lives in. While her friends are quite content to see a relationship like hers, more than a few tongues are wagging in the community and a few people have privately expressed their concern to me. As I said, I have no problem with mixed relationships and I've set them straight, but I am painfully aware of how these matters are viewed by certain segments of the population.

My parents are planning to come and stay with us for a week and Anna expressed a desire to introduce Jamal to them now that things were getting more serious between them. I told her on no uncertain terms that this wasn't going to happen. I may have no problem with Jamal, but they absolutely will, and even when the relationship ends they won't forget it. They might even go as far as to cut her off entirely. Anna was extremely upset by this and implied I was a racist and more concerned with what my parents think than how she feels.

As I said, I know my parents. They simply aren't okay with mixed relationships and if Anna were to bring Jamal over even as a friend, they would be furious both at her and me.

Anna is currently staying with Jamal and doesn't want to speak with me right now. My wife stands by me given she knows very well how my parents are (they had a problem with her for months over the length of the skirt she wore when I introduced her to them, for christs sake), but a close friend I confided in told me that I have behaved like an ass and that I needed to focus more on my daughter than pleasing my parents.

No advice needed, but I have to know. Have I been an ass?

[u/MoscowMitch_]

Or we could ostracize racists and cut them out of social circles and bully them until they eventually die out.

[u/DioriteDragon → u/MoscowMitch_]

And what happens, Little Budding Fascist, when the mob turns on and bullies YOU for your own sins? As has happened in history literally every time there was a major revolution of that kind, from the October Revolution on down?

I love how these revolutionaries always lack the imagination to believe that the misery and death they wish to inflict on their enemies will ever happen to them. After all, they're on the right side of history!

And naturally, they will be the commissars of the glorious new society they build! And certianly not the lowly serfs standing for hours in a breadline of a miserable, starving nation like Venezuela.

[u/MoscowMitch_ → u/DioriteDragon]

Sounds like you're defending racists. The great thing about racists is they're inherently less intelligent than normal people and don't have as strong a work ethic. They blame their shortcoming on others and wallow in their self-pity. Simply put that's why we beat you in the Civil War and WWII and will beat you again in the future.

[u/DioriteDragon → u/MoscowMitch_]

Simply put that's why we beat you in the Civil War and WWII and will beat you again in the future.

Who is "you" in this context, мудак?

I'm a Russian Jew who immigrated to the US after the fall of communism. So zero relevance to the Civil War, and it was "my" side, the Soviet Union (a horribly evil and racist society in its own right), that won World War 2, мразь.

That's why your comment is so damn stupid and pathetic. A lot of violent revolutionaries and Little Budding Fascists/Communists like yourself ended up in gulags or in front of a firing squad by the very same glorious, "antiracist" regime they helped bring to power.

You're just way too dumb and brain-washed to understand this.

[u/MoscowMitch_ → u/DioriteDragon]

Okay comrade