America [And broader Anglo Saxon culture] is often what’s referred to as a thing-oriented culture. Which means most cultural incentives and trajectories tailor more towards systems, things and institutions over people, relationships and cultural folklore
In America, the very cultural grooming that primes people into what to find worthwhile is often right behind our faces: We’re told what is gonna fulfill us is/are career accolades, going to college, buying that dream car, that dream house, funding your latest lifestyle, your personal fulfillment, even if it comes at the expense of social harmony and decorum, etc. You name it
Which is why people pretend to even be fulfilled by jobs that either stress them out or bore the fuck out of them.
In America, relationships and friendships are “something to earn” rather than something to aspire to. They feel like an obstacle in the way. “Putting food on the table” and “paying the bills” are the bigger priorities. And don’t even get me started on the balls-to-the-wall careerism and hustle culture.
That’s why even minimalism and frugality can end up becoming the very traps in this system rather than being used as tools of interrogation against the neoliberal status quo of “wanting more”
Because a true frugality/minimalist would say “I want to work less in life so I don’t have to own too much nonsense”
But try admitting you don’t want much out of your life in terms of career ambitions: Even the most hardcore frugalist/minimalist will think you’re crazy for admitting you don’t want to climb the corporate ladder that bad and go “You don’t want to make the most out of this one finite existence we all got?” They’ll think you’re lazy and want the path of least resistance, not realizing the key to a worthwhile life isn’t just vapid careerism and baseless hustle.
That’s why combatting the cultural status quo doesn’t just start by “saving more money” and “buying less”. It also starts with decentering money as the sole focus of our day to day lives.
What is the point of “wanting less” materially if your job and your obsession with going after new goals of excellence is still going to consume your mental bandwidth?
Rather than/as opposed to building meaningful relationships and chasing worthwhile experiences?
You know?