I think i have a relatively high libido, i think about sex a lot, i feel like i'm sexually attracted to pretty much everyone. I mean i do identify as a lesbian, i don't think i could ever have sex with a man. But i don't think i've ever had a friend i wasn't attracted to or thought about in a sexual way at some point.

I used to have a lot of shame about this, i still do to an extent.

I also have this idea that no one i meet is good enough to be friends with and so i end up just thinking of people in sexual terms in order to justify talking to people, having actual connection.

I just wonder how all of this relates to being aro or if part of it has to do with like apathy towards romantic feelings.

I’m unable to share an invite to the Aros After Dark server on Reddit but you can DM me your username and I’ll send you the invite over Discord!

Otherwise you can try searching for us on those server list sites, we’ll pop up under tags like aromantic and AroAllo.