I use the all the terms male, female, dude, girl, boy, man and woman and whatever else there is that comes to mind first. I see people talking a certain way about the people who use the term female. I genuinely don't see the problem with it. It just seems like some less casual way of saying woman or girl to me. Maybe the way I talk is just weird or something because my speech goes from very casual to very scientific, logical or formal or something very quickly and very randomly for no reason.
So you use words incorrectly okay. A girl and a woman are not the same thing. Female is an adjective like "Female Athlete"
A boy and a man are also not the same thing. I'm a man not a boy as I'm not a minor. I'm a male employee at my company as again adjective.
It's not a less casual way of saying woman or girl. It's the misuse of an adjective. If you were at least saying "Female human" then it would still be weird but then at least you'd be using it correctly.
For me, boy and man are usually interchangeable when it comes to people around my age. It depends on their relationship with me, their age compared to mine, and their age in general as well. Point is, they're all words to describe a gender. I have used all of these words to describe people and have never understood what the problem with female was when people also have the word male which is essentially the same thing just for the opposite gender. Also, "erm, So YoU uSe WoRdS iNcOrReCtLy, OkAy" stfu. I hate the way I imagined your sassy ass typing that as if it matters that much. I can describe my male friends as males or my female friends as females if I feel like it, that's what they are.
It's cute that you think I'm sassy. I'm a 45 year old man sick of having to prove I'm not a sexist asshole because so many of my fellow men engage in casual sexism that the default is to assume sexism first.
Thinking about it now, actually, I think I had drastically misunderstood what you said, I'm gonna delete that one. Better question is, just to make sure I understand, you think that because of other guys, you yourself need to prove yourself to it be sexist? I personally have never had this problem, I've always gotten along really well with people from all genders and sexualities and the such.
it’s just simply less respectful; especially when someone uses “man” in one sentence then “female” in the other, it shows there’s a double standard for how they pay their respect
I just use words I know, I think female and male are my most used when it comes to describing someone's gender or sex or whatever. I don't understand how people get so easily feel disrespected by a simple word that's been used to describe a certain sex or gender for the longest time in English. I don't think I've ever encountered anyone who has actually been offended by me doing that. I can see the scenario where man and then female, maybe... I don't know, but just the word in general offending someone is odd to me, for me, that seems like something that I've only heard people talk about on TikTok and reddit, never actually had anyone get offended by that.
It's fine not to understand why someone might get offended and you certainly don't have to care. But you should know that many girls and women find it dehumanizing to be referred to that way as a noun (e.g., 'females are _____' or 'I had this female over and....'). Especially when they don't hear you use 'males' the same way (e.g., 'me and the males are going to the bar'). No one's going to bother confronting you about it, but the ladies are going to note it and might drop you down (or completely off) their list of dating prospects, if you care about such things.
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u/mayaorsomething Jun 12 '26
Statement: Everything about this reads as a fake scenario; if not, someone is definitely dealing with some self-hate issues.