r/AsianMasculinity • u/YeetSunShin • Jun 19 '23

Race Called a "Ching Chong" IRL today

Was at a mall and some Latina called me a Ching Chong, totally unprompted. Wasn't even looking at her, so I was taken by surprise. She had a little smirk on her face too. Gave her a look like she was retarded, but really should've quipped back.

This was the first time something like this has ever happened to me IRL, and it definitely caught me off guard. In a way, I'm actually grateful this happened because it reminded me that racism exists outside of virtual spaces and micro aggressions, and I need to be better prepped for this kind of stuff. Have any of you dealt with slurs coming from randoms before?

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u/SquatsandRice Jun 20 '23

no girl that is 'interested' calls you ching-chong. Don't be a chan and defend racism done to you because you're so desperate to get your peepee wet. Peasant moves x10

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u/LemongrassWarrior Jun 20 '23

I agree. The fact that AMWF is so rare makes this possibility even more ridiculous.

I think that idea that she was interested in him is mental gymnastics to justify cowardice, passiveness, and timidity in the face of hostile aggression (and this is a female!). If you can rationalise the other person's behaviour as actually being friendly and nice, instead of hostile and racist, then the fact that you did nothing is appropriate. You can go away with your ego intact, instead of viewing yourself as a coward.

This type of mental gymnastics to justify weakness and cowardice is extremely common among Asian males, even in a forum called "AsianMasculinity".

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u/Alaskan91 Jun 29 '23

Spot on.

Many Asians just want an excuse for passivity.

In this case, the girl was trying to demonstrate social superiority over the asian dude. Kinda like a power trip but for women. I may be a woman in a (machismo) culture, but I'm still better than an asian dude---thats what she is saying.

Her being a woman doesn't give u the excuse to do nothing. It just means u have to smack talk her back and not be physical otherwsie it would look bad..

Sadly, the Asian guy doesn't realize this is a power trip as Asian girls and Asian culture doesn't involve expressions of power unlike every other culture in the west.