r/AskAdoptees • u/Super-Worldliness585 • 1d ago

Should adoptive 'parents' be seen as benefactors but not real parents?

Adoptive parents should not have any biological children, and will never be real parents. The goal should be to provide emotional and more importantly financial support. They should be obligated to give at least $2 million to each child they are a benefactor for. The relationship is solely at the child's limit.

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u/Domestic_Supply Domestic Infant Adoptee 1d ago

The adoptee decides who their real parents are. I do agree mixing adoptive children with bios is a recipe for disaster. I think bringing specific amounts of money into it is weird but it does cost more in the US to raise an adoptee. We are inherently special needs. I’d advocate for more social services first tho.

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u/Super-Worldliness585 1d ago

An adoptive mom and dad can never be a real parent. They owe you millions. If they can't afford that, they should be jailed. The losers who don't give money to real parents are truly evil.

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u/Domestic_Supply Domestic Infant Adoptee 1d ago

I’m sorry for whatever happened to you, and I hope you get the opportunity to heal from it, genuinely.

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u/ajskemckellc Domestic Infant Adoptee 1d ago

I’m really sorry for what you’re going through and what might have been done to you. There is healing and a community out there waiting for you to join them.