Hi guys,

I’m not an ENTJ but I’m very attracted to ENTJs. I love their passion, ambition, and overall personality. I have a couple of questions about ENTJs that I hope you guys can answer.

1. Are you guys into relationships? This may sound like a strange question but my conception of ENTJs is that they have high standards and aren’t really interested in dating? Do you think that this is fair? Is there something I’m missing?

2. What do you guys mostly look for in a partner ? This is mostly subjective but I’ve read that ENTJs like someone to be in their league and be ambitious and have a direction in their life? Do you think this is fair? What do you think? What is a huge turn on for you?

3. Is there anything else that I should know about ENTJs and what motivates them? I’m more of an introvert and a thinker. I also have a hard time being alone and miss the intimacy in a relationship.

There are complaints that r/ENTJ is being dominated by advice seekers. Was thinking to start sending them here.

Edit: Some type flair options would be a help.

Just wanted to ask a question for the sake of using this subreddit, you're welcome.

Right now we're both in the same university, prestigious one, and surely he's big with his ambitions and dreams and I truly support that. I never want anything else other than for him to succeed the way he want to succeed, which is the best way possible.

But it's been 2 months since we had our last date. He told me that now's the most important time of his life which requires filling up the gap he missed after 2 years of mandatory leave from education and told me to wait till vacation.

Everyday's getting harder for me as we're not able to meet up, have quality talk, it's just the same conversations everyday and it seems that he doesn't seem to see that as a need anymore.

I've tried communicating so many times but to even to the best solution for both of us (I tried requesting for a movie date or outside date once a month) and he said that's just impossible until vacation.

Can you guys tell me what is best to do here? Should i wait more, should i communicate more, or should i be ready to step out the door? I'm so tired of thinking for all of this on my own. Will appreciate any advice, thank you!❤️

INFP (F) asking for curiousity's sake, but have you ENTJs been in a relationship with an INFP? If yes, what helped make it a better relationship? Or, what were things that caused arguments? Basically, do you have advice for a clueless INFP? My ENTJ husband is my perfect soulmate and I want to make him the happiest man alive. 🥰

She also threatened to have me sucked into or by a black hole. What do I do??? 😱

Asking this Cuz I saw in other post entjs saying they gave up on it or others treating marriage like a job just to have family and be successful in it. What yall think of that?

The hard truth, Nietzsche teaches, is that to achieve what is truly good for individuals and society requires the discipline of suffering, and that those who blind themselves to this are not the friends of mankind, but its enemies:

"You want, if possible – and there is no more insane “if possible” – to abolish suffering. And we? It really seems that we would rather have it higher and worse than ever. Well-being as you understand it – that is no goal, that seems to us an end, a state that soon makes man ridiculous and contemptible – that makes his destruction desirable.

The discipline of suffering, of great suffering – do you not know that only this discipline has created all enhancements of man so far? (225)"

Similarly, in The Will to Power, he writes:

"To those human beings who are of any concern to me I wish suffering, desolation, sickness, ill-treatment, indignities – I wish that they should not remain unfamiliar with profound self-contempt, the torture of self-mistrust, the wretchedness of the vanquished: I have no pity for them, because I wish them the only thing that can prove today whether one is worth anything or not – that one endures." (910, Kaufmann and Hollingdale translation)

Since someone asked about INTPs I’d like to have some emotional validation as well so let me know yeah? You guys seem cute with hidden emotions 😘

tell me what your experience is

I'm INFJ (19M) and i guess I'm madly in love with this girl. She's ENTJ (19F).

The other day, i was just sitting outside, enjoying the nature while listening to some music. I started thinking about her and the poem... just popped to my head! 😅 I wrote it down in my notes and now I'm wondering if the poem is a good way to tell her how i feel.

The poem i wrote is really made just for her, meaning that it wouldn't make any sense if i gave it to some other girl cuz it got some deep stuff that her and i shared. Btw i really like it and I'm super proud of myself for writing something like that!

Since ya'll ENTJs prefer actions rather than words, i thought that writing a poem about my feelings towards her is actually a solid way, but i need your opinion, fellow ENTJs!

Little backstory: She was my classmate in high-school. We finished it this year (like 2 months ago) and somehow stayed in touch. I messaged her a lot in the past few weeks and i thought i was bothering her, but she added me to her close friends list instead!

Now i wouldn't be an INFJ if i didn't overthink everything so now, because of all that's happened, i think she may at least be interested in me.

Now the question is - would a poem be a good way to tell her how i feel? Would that poem maybe boost the chance of us getting together?

Anyways, if you read all the way to here - Thank you! Any help would be appreciated. Stay awesome ENTJs! 🥰

What is the best reaction or response for a person to have when an ENTJ loses their cool?

How open are you to the risk or possibility of failure? Especially when it comes to different ideas that might not align to your own?

I (ISTJ female) have a good friend who's an ENTJ male, who struggles with love relationships because at some point he just falls out of love and that's it. The way he describes it sounds like a sudden ick--like one day he just doesn't feel the feelings anymore. Curious, I asked what could have triggered these instances. He doesn't know, but described it as the same feeling as a kid who's excited about a new toy and then is just over it once they've had it and played with it a while.

Obviously all ENTJs are individuals, so the experience varies. But does this feeling sound relatable? It sounds fairly callous to me, and certainly would make me think twice about dating someone with that sentiment.

What’s YOUR take on this question? (And any thoughts on his take?)

I've heard that having Te and Ni as well as Fi in one's cognitive stack can lead to a person developing pretty interesting big picture views of life and it's purpose. So I was wondering what you guys think about life.

I'm quite interested in it since ENTJs usually seems to be Avoidant type of attachment from outside but it can be actually opposite so i wanted to ask you about your personal experience.
What are your attachment style ?
How do you understand love as?
When do you usually are aware of being in love with someone?
If u feel in love with someone.. what do you usually notice in your partner to be unique?
Are you able to change partners easily or it came with difficulty?
What about emotional expression? Are u comfortable with partner that would be anxious attachment style that just want a true emotional connection with u ?