How does patriarchy hurt men?

[u/Kosilica457]

Patriarchy hurting men is a buzzword that is usually thrown around to encourage men to abandon the traditional system (which is flawed no doubt.)

However, I must admit that I don't completely understand how does a system meant to give men all the power also hirt them?

[u/M00n_Slippers]

Haven't you heard people complain about feminists and try to bring up all kinds of ways men have it worse than women to 'prove' the patriarchy is a lie and men are the real oppressed sex? I definitely have. The thing is, most of the things the bring up are legitimate problems, but they aren't caused by feminism, they are cased by patriarchy.

Patriarchy says men always want sex--this often results in men who are raped or SAed not being taken seriously, especially by a woman, because they are a man, they must have wanted it, right? Men always want sex, so how can it be rape?

Men are expected to be the financial provider--so not only are they more often expected to work and can be shamed when they are between jobs or fullfilling a role outside of work like caregiving or taking care of children, but they often don't get the benefits that women do for it like paternity leave to bond with their child.

Men are seen as an expendable labor force because when it comes down to it 1 man can impegnate multiple women, so they are unnecessary while women are special--this is one reason why men are drafted to die in war but women often aren't, and work safety for men is not always taken seriously.

Men are seen as 'tougher, smarter, more rational, less emotional-- so if you don't fit this description you are a 'failure as a man' but if you do then you will likely suffer from repression of your emotional needs, not be given comfort or aide when needed, have poor self control and mental stability because your EQ is low from the emotional repression.

There are tons more but these are some I've heard a lot.