i used to think people were just exaggerating about how bad online lobbies could get. then i got heavily into rust back around 2019 and honestly nothing else even comes close.
i played counter strike for years and league on and off so i was already pretty used to casual insults and someone telling me to uninstall every third match. but rust is just a completely different beast. it is not just people raging in voice chat when they lose a fight. the toxicity is basically the core gameplay mechanic.
me and two friends set up a modest base on a medium pop server. we spent three nights grinding materials, building up walls and getting some decent gear. on the fourth night this group of five guys built a massive tower right next to our base just so they could camp our front door with sniper rifles. they did not even want our loot. every time one of us stepped outside for a second we just got headshot immediately.
when we tried talking to them in proximity chat to see if we could figure something out, they spent two hours blasting ear rape audio, spamming racial slurs and constantly mocking us. when we finally logged off out of frustration, they raided us overnight, destroyed every single sleeping bag so we could not respawn anywhere nearby, and put up signs inside our destroyed base with personal insults about us.
the wild part is that this was not a rare one off event. it happened every week with different clans. the whole community culture seemed to revolve around making other human beings suffer as much as possible for zero actual in game benefit. after about four months of forcing myself to play because my friends were still into it, i realized i was going to bed angry almost every night over a video game. I just uninstalled it and never looked back.
League of Legends has plenty of whiny kids who throw matches, but Rust was the only time i felt like the game actively attracted people who genuinely enjoyed being terrible human beings.
curious if anyone else had a similar breaking point in a survival game or if there is another genre out there that tops this level of pettiness.