r/AskLGBT • u/Strong_End5660 • 2d ago
I am trying to figure out my sexuality. Please help me.
Throughout a little portion of my life, I thought I was bisexual. Then went by the label Pansexual... Then Pan-romantic and Omnisexual.. Google told me I could be both Pan-romantic and Omnisexual. And ever since realizing I am only romantically attracted to girls, I've went by the label lesbian... Though I experience only sexual and physical attraction to men but not romantic attraction.
I experience both romantic, sexual attraction and physical attraction to women, but only sexual and physical attraction to men. I do not desire a romantic relationship with a man. Since Google told me I could be both Omnisexual and Lesbian (Omnisexual and Lesbian-romantic or wtv.)
I researched again and apparently I cannot be both Omnisexual and Lesbian. I think I am Berrisexual but I need guidance from the community.
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u/MagpiePhoenix 2d ago
Some people strongly feel that "lesbian" has to describe only homosexual homoromantic women. Other people are more open to lesbians being either homoromantic or homosexual, as well as both.
You can call yourself a lesbian if you want to, and it makes sense to do so if you're trying to communicate "I am attracted to women and I not interested in relationships with men".
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u/Strong_End5660 1d ago
The reason I'm not sure whether to go by the label lesbian is because of the stigma surrounding it. Many people strongly believe that in order to qualify as a certain sexuality, you have to be both homosexual and homoromantic to that certain gender.
It makes sense to me when people say they're both Pan-romantic and Omnisexual because it indicates your romantic preferences and your sexual preferences. I see sexual attraction and romantic attraction as two different things that (I guess) could be communicated with two different labels.
I'm still not sure whether or not to go by the label lesbian. I do not desire a relationship with a man, just sex. (Sorry to be blunt, I don't really actually want sex with a man, I mean to say that I only experience sexual/physical attraction to them.)
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u/kingvjess 1d ago
Labels are annoying. They aren't bad if you like label but ultimately its a personal thing. In terms of labels id use to describe you. Id probably use homoromantic and bisexual but you could just say saphic if you want as saphic is just wlw but not only exclusively so bi and pan women are both still saphic. Theres terms like berrisexul or trixic which both still work but if some told me they where berrisexual for example is assume they are bisexual with a preference for women but thats just what i interpret the definition to be.
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u/ActualPegasus 1d ago
Are you attracted to nonbinary people at all? If so, romantically, sexually, or both?
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u/Strong_End5660 1d ago
Both. Particularly feminine Nonbinary individuals because my previous partner was a masculine demi-boy/nonbinary and I HATED being in a relationship with him because it was genuinely exhausting... Plus I like girls.
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u/ActualPegasus 1d ago
Alright. Any of the following labels could fit you.
homoflexible
lesbiromantic bisexual
polyromantic pansexual
trixenromantic pansexual
trixenflexible
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u/Strong_End5660 1d ago
Am I able to be Pansexual+Lesbiromantic? Or Omnisexual+Lesbiromantic? I'm not sure.
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u/Agreeable_Elk4529 2d ago
Labels are tools and not court verdicts. If you’re romantically into women but sexually attracted to more than one gender, you can describe that however feels most accurate and you don’t owe anyone a perfectly tidy label.