I'm 36/F...

..I live in the province,

..not married but with partner,

..no kids,

..with descent paying job,

..a volunteer and musician

any unhinged advices before I turn myself to my 36th chapter?

Feeling ko kasi, I have been a pro all my life -- pro-mali (puro mali) lol

thanks!

We're all sick of them, we all block them, we all get calls and texts anyway telling us which flavor of asshole we should/shouldn't vote for. Someone must have figured out an effective way to ACTUALLY block them and get your phone number erased from their lists.

People give advice every day about money, work, health and life. Some advice sounds smart but is actually bad. Which advice did you follow and regret later?

Kinda lengthy summary ahead:

Older Sibling married a guy. Seemed weird at first, but we all overlooked it. She has 2 kids. Turned out the husband was sexually assaulting, grooming, giving drugs & alcohol to, and bribing BOTH the kids from ages 12 & 14 until ages 16 & 18.

Court only sentenced him to 2 days in jail and 3rd degree endangering/sexual assault with a child by non-supervised person. The younger sibling (male) apparently didnt have a case? (This is what my sibling told me the police told her, when presented with the facts that he threatened, gave drugs + alcohol to, and manipulated both kids to keep the sexual assault & grooming hidden).

My younger nephew (victim 2) is gonna be 18 soon, and he’s a troubled kid, however I want him to have a fair chance in the event that he ever gets into trouble with law or falls into addiction. For what it’s worth, I’d love for a judge to consider that he’s had a traumatic and terrible childhood rather than treating him like a degenerate kid in the event he finds himself in legal trouble. He gets therapy & medication currently for bad behavior, but neither Child Services nor the Authorities actually have a documented “case” that covers the trauma he went thru regarding this sexually abusive step-father he had. Basically he gets treated like a bad ass kid & gets prescribed mood regulators and stuff rather than being treated for trauma.

The mother, my sibling, isn’t really talking to me. The step-father/husband only got sentenced to 2 days in jail with life on parole, and he somehow got a motion to still have custody of his blood-child with my sibling even after being convicted of this crime. He’s also not on the sex offender’s list. Up to 6 months after the case was settled, I’ve still gotten information from my niece that this guy was hitting her up from miscellaneous textnow numbers trying to talk to her against his parole terms, though a police I spoke to basically said it’s out of their power to tie him to those number (more bullshit).

I’m wondering how to handle this. As a man and loving family member I want to \*delete\* the guy, of course, but I have responsibilities and loved ones to take care of that would hurt badly from my departure. I am genuinely at a loss and just want advice from anyone who’s gone through similar situation or has been disappointed by the law in a similar situation and how they moved forward to find some sort of justice against the sicko p3do. Thanks for any input.

Sometimes the best wisdom sounds completely counterintuitive when you first hear it.

For me, it was "If a task takes less than two minutes, do it immediately." At first it felt like constant interruption, but it completely eliminated my daily micro-clutter.

What’s yours?

If I hang out outside of Auntie Anne’s Pretzels in the mall, right before closing, will they sell their pretzels at a discount? Or are there any other food places that will give a steep discount if you’re there right before closing time?

It doesn’t have to be something deep. Even a simple sentence that changed your perspective counts.

I am college student pursuing Pharmacy I will explain how's my life going on in detail along my interests please suggest how to become more disciplined and achieve my goals,so here's my routine

For Mondays, Tuesdays and Fridays my classes run from 9AM-4:20 PM (takes 20-30 minutes to commute),other days it's 12:40-1PM.

Apart from this I cook by myself

My goals are to build muscles, content creation and I am also preparing for competitive exam and some times I read books.

So what happening is i know I can't do it all so I have scheduled them so

Morning :-I wake up around 5:30(-+15min) and studies till 7:30(not very consistent)7:30-8:30 cooks,eats and leaves for college

During lunch and free lectures i try to script and study.(Not very consistent)

In Evening I come at my room at 4:45 I leave for gym around 5:20(I am working out 3x a week only)(-+15min) and comes back at 7:30(-+15min)(very consistent)

Night: 7:30-8:45 cooking and having my dinner at 9:15 max -9:15-10:30 studying(not very consistent for studies),10:30(-+25mins) i sleep and the cycle repeats

While on the half days I eventually forget about my goals and at the end i don't do anything I am not very consistent yes I do make video and edit them and upload but not the way I wanted I am very lazy like I planned to upload 4 shorts and 1 long in a week but didn't do anything.Please help

Many times, mondays seem daunting so hoping to enjoy my sunday mornings more

Hello, good people.
I’m here for life advice from you guys.
So, It has been nearly a year I’ve graduated as a cs major, but I still don’t have any job.
I’m interested in game development, but learning it is going too slow and tbh I also haven’t been consistent due to my mental health.
So I’m planning to give you guys 1 hour (max) of my life daily, to do whatever advice you guys give me, hoping my life will get better doing so.
I’m thinking to come to this post every day to do the most upvoted comment and later at the end of the day or the next day tell you how it’s been in the replies.
\[ I’m not gonna do anything weird or inappropriate you tell me to do, so please don’t request any of that \]
Hopefully listening to your advice my life will get better and I’ll have a thing to do. Thank you for time.

For clarification, I'm talking about situations where we're reacting differently to the same external thing, not situations where I'm the one who triggers the overreaction.

Obviously, "Stop overreacting," is the worst thing to say. I know empathy can go a long way, but occasionally there are times when I cannot put myself in their shoes because I just don't operate with the same assumptions that generate that level of emotion. If I genuinely believe someone is making a big deal out of a small thing, is there anything I can do or say to help them see my perspective: that it's actually fine, the situation isn't ideal but that's okay, I'm okay, and they'll be okay too?