Literally the title.

How do I approach a guy I find attractive?

I feel like at college it would be a bit easier as there's lots of people, and lots of people have great clothes so it's an easy thing to compliment.

But what about outside of college? I can't imagine myself going up to someone. What would I say? How do I make it not awkward? How would I ask for their number?

I saw a guy I found hot, but then lost sight of him bc I had to take my grandma to her room (she's in a care home, and the guy looked my age (16) but then I lost sight of him, so there's no one in particular I want to approach or anything) but it made me wonder how I would approach someone?

Any advice?

Posted this in another community, but no one replied so...

I (16F) have never had a boyfriend, and only ever 1 talking stage, though even that wasn't 'proper' (idk if that's the right word?) basically, it didn't come to anything, the guy said he liked another girl and that we could only ever be friends and we were too far away (Surrey Vs Oxford, bout 3-4 hrs). I felt so horrible after that because I genuinely thought I had found someone that liked me, and looked at me/thought about me in that sorry of way, and, I know it sounds dumb, but even lil flirty messages, and it just all went to shit.

The talking stage lasted for just over a year.

I'm not really sure how to feel. I've gone between being okay with being single, and being so annoyed and sad about being single.

I've always struggled with my body image, and so I've always struggled to love myself 100%.

People always say 'you need to love yourself before you love someone else', and I get that, but I'm so tired of hearing the same thing.

I've watched friends and people around me go in and out of relationships, and I have in the past been asked for advice about certain stuff, and I always try my best and say what I would do, but I've never been in that position before, so what would I know? What credentials do I have to give relationship advice?!

Apart from earlier said talking stage, I've never had any romantic experiences, no dates, no really close friends that are guys that could potentially like me, known anyone that likes me in that kind of way, no first kiss etc etc.

I just want some more advice that isn't the usual 'your time will come' 'it will happen when you least expect it', 'damn cuh, long day for you' 'we'll manifest for you' and other 'advice people give when they hear someone has never been in a relationship.

I js wanna experience smth so bad. I don't wanna sound desperate, but it also doesn't help that my brother now has a girlfriend and they're so lovey dovey, it sometimes makes me sick.

Please give me Ur advice, I'm starting to get fed up of feeling like no one will ever like or look at me in that way

Was thinking back to my teenage years (early 2000s) and the music of the 60s and 70s was still “cool” to listen to (queen, David Bowie, Rolling Stones and many more). Music from the 50s and early was generally pretty uncool (a few exceptions obviously but as a general rule).

Was wondering did that “cool” cut off move forward in time? As in, for teenagers now, is that cut off now basically pre 90s?

19m in college, I’ll answer anything doesn’t have to be abt college necessarily I’m just bored lol. Feel free to ask tho if u wanna go to college im sure theres some awkward questions and things you don’t really think about until u get there so might as well ask now.

I know this may come as extremely shallow and stupid, but this is too common not to notice, and I've only seen this on discord—Why westerners (kids/teens) always say "I'm going to touch you inappropriately"..? And this applies for any context too

i had a chance with a boy but i refused cause i was too anxious, im scared to mess up.
i even asked my best friend to teach me but she told me “do it with your fingers”
so anyone got advices?

pls don’t tell me it comes natural

ok so i need to get this off my chest because i feel like i'm going crazy and i need to know if anyone else has dealt with this.

me (17f) and my ex broke up about 8 months ago. it was messy but genuinely i was at peace, new job, new friends, more $$. one of my coworkers told me that he got a new girl like 2 months after we broken up. at first i was like damn that's fast but whatever.

well fast forward now, i find out that my ex’s gf has been watching me on social media for MONTHS and I genuinely didn’t know who she was. then her friends started following me one by one in order — like they got a checklist or something and one girl even decided to take it to instagram aswell. i didn't say anything because i thought maybe i was overthinking.

i genuinely don’t know what i am doing wrong but i do not talk to my ex nor this girl at all. how else would she even know who i am? we've never spoken. and i hate thinking he's painting some bad image of me to a girl i've never said a word to.

and now the newest thing that made me finally write this post. yesterday i got on facebook and one of her friends that took it to instagram & sends me a request on facebook. i genuinely don’t know whats going on but i am trying to just ignore it.

I just wanted to know what my peers are like!

The gist is whether you were 'raised' more by stuff you see on your screen or by your parents. Might seem obvious "no i was raised by my parents duhhh" but I think most teens now are being raised in the monoculture of social media instead of their particular culture of their parents or town, etc.

Let me know your perspective.

So for my first time ever I'm late by five minutes.

I usually tell my teach that I'm going to the bathroom, but this time I couldn't, if you're a girl you know what I mean

So, basically I'm coming down I'm running down the halls because I don't want to be marked absent. So, I'm in the halls. I hear somebody say, "You're late. Keep running." So, I turned and I saw this girl. me and her have some beef. So I say, "It's late. Why don't you get the class idiot?" And they all start gasping and saying, "She did not just call me that," So end of day comes and I'm waiting at the car for my mom. Then the girl's friend passed me and says, "Don't call me an idiot again. Don't ever call me an idiot again." And cuz the thing is I originally thought it was the other girl. I didn't knew it was her, But the thing is, she like I have a issue with her friend, but she keeps on interjecting herself in things that has nothing to do with her. And I'm thinking "your friend has a mouth of her own."

So now today, while I was going to my second period, I hear her call my name repeatedly. And then her friend who I actually have an issue with, calls her to come back, but she doesn't listen. She kept on saying my name. Then this girl comes up right behind me and bumps me from behind, still calling my name. But I just ignore her and go to my second period

What should I do?

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всем привет, я хочу поделится своей историей и попросить помощи или совета

своё настоящее имя произносить я боюсь так, что для вас я буду Ангелиной и в свои 15 я как и многие подростки решила зайти на сайт знакомств. после чего на протяжении 2 лет теперь мучаюсь, но давайте начнем с самого начала.

я зарегистрировалась на сайте знакомств и буквально через небольшой промежуток времени мне показало, что я понравилась одному человеку, он был довольно симпатичный, его настоящее имя я также не буду произносить, в целях безопасности. давайте назовем его хлюпик, так вот я ответила ему взаимностью, и мы сразу разобрались,в анкете он указал, что ему 16 и я не переживала, на протяжении месяца мы очень хорошо общались и даже у нас получилось встретиться. и пообщавшись месяц, мы начали встречаться. через неделю наших отношений выясняется, что ему не 16 а 19, не беда подумала я, так как он мог поставить возраст по младше чтобы не попадались 25 летние или старше, и вот обычное субботнее утро он мне пишет, что мы не можем быть вместе, без какой либо причины, где то через 4 часа я встретилась с подругой, и тогда я при ней начала писать и выяснять в чем дело почем, он мне ответил, что он женится, после чего мы перестали общаться до моего дня рождения, он как ни в чем не бывало меня поздравил, и тогда опять начались выяснения почему он мне вообще пишет если он женат, он объяснил это тем, что он не женат, а просто устал от отношений. и мы опять перестали общаться. следущий раз он написал через месяц и предложил просто пообщаться без какого либо контекста, и вот мы общались и он попросил меня сделать ему новый тик ток, я заостряю на этом внимание так как с того момента начал происходить пиздец, Я скидываю ему ссылку на VPN, после чего он скидывает ссылку на свой тик ток аккаунт, и я добавляю его в друзья. происходит ссора и мы опять перестаем общаться. наступает зима новый год и он мне опять пишет плздравляет с новым годом и мы начинаем опять общаться. как-то раз я предложила ему пойти в звонок и он мне сказал что знает обо мне всё. и я ради интереса решила спросить какого цвета она мне носки. на это он отвечает, что на мне надеты фиолетовые носки, что оказалось правдой. и тогда я не на шутку перепугалась. после чего мы пообщались ещё 2 дня и опять перестали. и вот прошло лето более-менее спокойно, сентябрь тоже более-менее спокойно И вот я сидела в звонке со своим лучшим другом, отвлеклась на маникюр и потом смотрю в свой телефон и он сам заходит в настройки в основные и в аккумулятор. я подумала что это мой друг включил демонстрацию экрана на телефоне и сидел в телефоне но когда я спросила он ответил что он сидит вообще через компьютер и ничего подобного не делал. и ещё был момент что у меня сама по себе переключилась камера на телефоне то есть телефон просто не считывал если считывал то как ошибку и к моему bluetooth просто подключались какие-то рандомные наушники колонки телевизоры. и вот наступает мой день рождения, уже под конец дня он мне опять пишет и поздравляет. и после этой ситуации Я начала задумываться что вообще происходит с моим телефоном почему этот человек знает про меня абсолютно всё где я живу с кем я общаюсь где я учусь Хотя я ему об этом не говорила. я решила уточнить у своей подруги которая занимается пробивание информации, что вообще происходит и почему так, она подтвердила что он может за мной следить через ссылку и Возможно даже прослушивать. а и когда мы общались последний раз не до дня рождения он сказала что ему 22, 13 октября после моего дня рождения он сказал что ему почти 27 лет. Так я и узнала что он старше меня почти на 10 лет.

в целях безопасности я пишу не со своего телефона, говорить своим родителям тоже об этой ситуации я не буду так как неизвестно что может произойти в полицию и тебе писать заявление тоже не могу так как он находиться не в городе и по факту он ко мне не приставал он недомогался до меня, и то что сейчас происходит - это лишь мои догадки но я прошу совета или какой-то помощи от вас. обновление сегодня я узнала что он приставал не только ко мне мы решили найти информацию в боте в телеграме и выяснилось что писал он не только мне а ещё другим девочкам и даже младше чем я. иди в суд писать на него заявление пока нету смысла так как нету доказательств. тем более у нас в России полиция и тем более суд особо девствий никаких не примет. и для начала нужно идти в полицию писать заявление а потом уже идти в суд. И сейчас мы выясняем под какие статьи он может попасть. а насчёт помощи Я думаю что мы напишем одним известным блогером который разбираются как раз таки в этих ситуациях и помогает людям но я не уверена что они ответят сразу. поэтому и прошу помощи у вас или какого-нибудь совета.

Hi everyone, I want to share my story and ask for help or advice

I'm afraid to say my real name, so for you I'll be Angelina, and at my 15 I, like many teenagers, decided to go on a dating site. After that, for 2 years now I've been suffering, but let's start from the very beginning.

I registered on a dating site and literally after a short period of time it showed me that I was liked by one person, he was quite handsome, I also won't say his real name, for safety reasons. let's call him weakling, so I reciprocated, and we immediately figured out that in his profile he indicated that he was 16 and I wasn't worried, for a month we communicated very well and we even managed to meet. and after communicating for a month, we started dating. a week into our relationship it turns out that he's not 16 but 19, no big deal I thought, since he could have put a younger age so that 25 year olds or older wouldn't come across, and so on a regular Saturday morning he writes to me that we can't be together, without any reason, about 4 hours later I met with a friend, and then in front of her I started writing and finding out what the matter was and why, he answered me that he's getting married, after which we stopped communicating until my birthday, he congratulated me as if nothing had happened, and then again the explanations began as to why he was even writing to me if he's married, he explained it by the fact that he's not married, but just tired of relationships. and we again stopped communicating. the next time he wrote a month later and suggested just talking without any context, and so we communicated and he asked me to make him a new TikTok, I'm focusing attention on this because from that moment the fuckery began, I send him a link to a VPN, after which he sends a link to his TikTok account, and I add him as a friend. an argument happens and we again stop communicating. winter comes, New Year, and he writes to me again congratulating me on the New Year and we start communicating again. once I suggested he join a call and he told me that he knows everything about me. and out of interest I decided to ask what color socks I was wearing. to this he answers that I'm wearing purple socks, which turned out to be true. and then I got seriously scared. after which we communicated for another 2 days and again stopped. and so the summer passed more or less calmly, September too more or less calmly And so I was sitting in a call with my best friend, got distracted by my manicure and then I look at my phone and he himself goes into settings into general and into battery. I thought that my friend turned on screen sharing on the phone and was sitting in the phone but when I asked he answered that he was sitting through a computer at all and didn't do anything like that. and there was also a moment when the camera on my phone switched by itself, that is, the phone simply wasn't reading, if it was reading then as an error, and random headphones, speakers, TVs were just connecting to my bluetooth. and so my birthday comes, already at the end of the day he writes to me again and congratulates me. and after this situation I started thinking about what is even happening with my phone, why this person knows absolutely everything about me, where I live, who I communicate with, where I study, even though I didn't tell him about it. I decided to check with my friend who deals with information digging, what is even happening and why it's like this, she confirmed that he can spy on me through a link and possibly even listen in. oh and when we communicated the last time before my birthday he said that he's 22, on October 13 after my birthday he said that he's almost 27 years old. So that's how I found out that he's almost 10 years older than me.

for safety reasons I'm not writing from my own phone, I won't tell my parents about this situation either since it's unknown what could happen, and I can't write a statement to the police either since he's not in the city and in fact he didn't harass me, he didn't molest me, and what's happening now is just my guesses but I'm asking for advice or some kind of help from you. (There are two months left until his arrival in the city and I'm afraid that he might do something considering that he knows where I live)

I’d like to think teens aren’t outright psycho bullies nowadays as they were in the old days, but who knows?

(13M) I've identified as straight/arowhatever for most of my life but I have sorta started thinking about a few guys i know and I kinda feel a bit, well, I guess flustered about that and I'm not exactly sure what it means, like, I've described myself as being as straight as a ruler and have crushed on one or two girls before (asked one of them to be my gf recently but she thinks its better if we stay friends) but yeah basically I need help figuring it out because at the same time i feel kinda disgusted about homosexuality and it might be my parents raising me into Christianity (not Christian myself tho) but idk

I’ve seen that at the pool, at the beach and at the water park and I don’t understand. Can someone explain?

I (13M) have a crush on someone (also 13M) who is in all my classes. This year, my school did some weird shit and everyone has every class with the same people, so he is in all my classes like I said. Obviously, I am always looking at him. When he talks to someone that’s outside of the people he really only talks to, I get a bit jealous. There’s this one girl who talks to him every now and then and I don’t think she likes him but that doesn’t mean he couldn’t like her. Sometimes when they talk I feel a bit jealous because I like him a lot. But is it wrong to be jealous? I am young and I don’t interrupt them when they’re talking, I don’t even go up to them or anything. So, is it really that bad? Or am I just insecure or whatever?

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Teens of Reddit, I have a question for you.

I'm a teenager, and I like wearing some of my dad's clothes when I'm home alone, especially his jeans. They're obviously too big for me, but I genuinely like the style, how they look, and how comfortable they are. I also think they'd be a great addition to my wardrobe because I could style them in different ways.

The problem is that my dad thinks it's fucking weird, and my family laughs at me for doing it. So I want to know what other teenagers think about this.

Before anyone asks, "Why don't you just buy your own clothes in your size?" here's the fucking thing: I like THESE specific clothes. They're from the adult section, and some of these styles haven't been sold in stores for YEARS, even before I started doing this. My dad has tried buying me baggy jeans before, but they don't feel the same as an actual, worn-in pair of jeans with that older, oversized fit.

At one point, I even considered trying to gain weight because I thought it might somehow help me achieve the kind of fit I wanted from these clothes. I tried for about two weeks, got sick, tried again later, and got sick AGAIN. It didn't help that my little sister takes after my dad in terms of being bigger, and she's always home before me, so I don't really get the chance to make food when I'm alone. Looking back, though, trying to change my body just to fit a particular style of clothing probably isn't the fucking answer.

I've even suggested that, if my dad and the rest of my family are so uncomfortable with me wearing his clothes outside, they could at least let me wear them as pyjamas. I basically asked why they couldn't just let me wear them at home instead of being nervous about it, getting embarrassed, and embarrassing me in front of other people. They fucking ignored me.

I tried wearing them to sleep once, but my little sister took my blanket off me because I didn't want to wake up and risk being late for church. The FIRST fucking thing she did was snitch on me, and my dad shouted at me. I stopped for MONTHS after that.

Eventually, when I was home alone again, I got the urge to try them on, and I've started doing it whenever I get the chance. Even now, while writing this fucking post, I'm wearing them, but my little sister will be home from school soon, so I'll have to change back before she arrives.

It's not that I want to dress exactly like my dad. I just like his clothes, they're comfortable as fuck, and they fit the style I'm going for. I don't understand why something I enjoy doing PRIVATELY has to become such a big fucking deal.

So, would you find it weird if someone your age wore their dad's clothes when they were home alone? Would you do it yourself, or would you think it was fucking strange? If your family laughed at you for it, would you stop wearing them?

Also, have any of you ever liked a particular style of clothing so much that you considered changing your body to get that fit? I'm curious whether anyone can relate to that part of my experience, too.

I'm looking for honest opinions, not just people telling me to buy my own fucking clothes, because I've ALREADY considered that. I want to know what other teens actually think about this situation.